Female Orgasm  

rm_cele2flowers 42F
118 posts
8/14/2005 11:20 am

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Female Orgasm

I've followed a few threads in the blogs and magazine about female orgasms. Yes, there is more than one way for a woman to have one and one feels different from the other. I believe that these different orgasms are achieved in stages or steps, but how fast a woman goes from one stage to the next varies from woman to woman. Also, there is supposedly a rare number of women in the world that are multi-orgasmic, though I firmly believe any woman can be multi-orgasmic if she wants to be. Finally, there is the known fact that not all women are capable of having an orgasm through intercourse alone.

Let's start off with the different kinds of orgasms: Clitoral, g-spot and vaginal.

The clitoral one I think just about every woman is capable of achieving. The way I see it, there is a stepping stone to orgasms and this is the first one that most girls and women experience. It's relatively easy to do, both alone and with a partner. It just involves playing with the clit and doing it the way you enjoy it (or the way your partner asks you to). In the end, you can have a range of climaxes from the slight body twitch “oh wow!” orgasm to the body shaking, muscle spasming, eye crossing “oh my dear god yes!” orgasm.

The g-spot orgasm, or I think of it more as the squirting orgasm, is the next stepping stone that a woman reaches. It takes a little more time, practice and learning about your body to achieve. I recognize that the jury is still out on whether the squirting part is not urine, but another fluid. It can feel a like that is what you're doing during an orgasm. Some women will not allow themselves to get this far because of the feeling that they are peeing on their partner and make them stop. To achieve this kind of orgasm, it involves stimulation of the g-spot, which is generally located an inch or two inside and closest to the clit. It also tends to involve stimulation of the clit. Having a strong PC muscle can help women achieve this orgasm because it makes it more sensitive. Strengthening the PC muscle involves Kegal exercises on a regular basis and continued for as long as the woman wants that muscle to be strong.

The vaginal orgasm is the top stepping stone of orgasms. Some women are able to achieve this kind of orgasm naturally, because their vaginas and uteruses are in their bodies in the right position. For the rest of us, it is something that has to be learned. Through my own personal experience, I was never able to have one until 5 or 6 months after I started doing Kegal exercises. After I'd been doing my Kegals for a few months, I started to try and practice relaxing my vagina. And what do you know, it happened! Quite to the surprise of myself and my partner too! This orgasm is not one that men can try to make a woman do, at least if she's never done it before. It takes learning about your body, doing Kegal exercises and just concentrating on what feels good.

I also believe that women are multi-orgasmic, and men can be too if they want to be and take the time to learn how to. At first I thought I was not multi-orgasmic. Usually just one and everything was over for me. Then getting involved with a few men that enjoy giving oral a lot changed that completely. After a while you just enjoy what's being done to you and before you know it, you've had 4 or 5 orgasms already! I may be wrong here, but it all has to do with relaxing and being willing to lose control to experience having one orgasm after the other.

To end this, it is a fact that most women are not able to achieve an orgasm through intercourse. Most just aren't informed. Others just don't want to go to the work, practice or time to learn how to be able to. But hopefully, they will eventually climb up to the next stepping stone.


rm_VoodooGuru1 49M
2053 posts
8/15/2005 12:28 am

Very thoughtful, lucid, informative... well done!

I was not aware that a vaginal orgasm trumped the g-spot orgasm; I'd be interested to know more about it. I've been with a fair number of lovers who could come from intercourse alone, sans clitoral stimulation, but (unfortunately) only a handful who had wet, squirting g-spot orgasms.

Finally,

"I recognize that the jury is still out on whether the squirting part is not urine, but another fluid."

I recognize that this controversy still exists, but I do NOT recognize the controversy. It ain't urine!!!


rm_cele2flowers 42F
75 posts
8/15/2005 8:38 am

I agree with you, Voodoo, that squirting isn't urine.

As for the vaginal orgasm trumping the g-spot one, for me personally it is more intense. But there is also a chronological order of achieving them also. I think that this is just the order that these orgasms are first expereienced through a lifetime. With exception, probably, to the few lucky women that are able to naturally have a vaginal orgasm. With a lot of the women I've talked to, this is at least a good hypothesis.


stammig79 37M

8/16/2005 2:21 pm

Have you found that any position is better for any type of orgasm? From what I've heard; when the woman is on top it is easier for a clitoral stimulated orgasm. What about the others?


rm_cele2flowers 42F
75 posts
8/30/2005 7:28 pm

For me, personally, I've found that any position that you're relaxed in and can concentrate on the feeling and not worry about something else (like falling over, holding yourself up, maintaining a rhythm or pace) is best. Though this isn't how it is all of the time. There are always exceptions to this. Like the ability of everyone involved...technically and physically. For the vaginal orgasm, I fully believe that the size of a guy's cock does not matter so much if you find the best position for both players. Granted, if the guy is longer, it makes it easier for everyone to play with different positions. If the guy is shorter, then it might become a little more difficult, but not impossible! In this situation, the best position, at least in my opinion, is to have the woman on her back holding her legs (or knees) as far back as possible while the man is kneeling in front of her. This is one way to get the deepest penetration possible. It also makes it easier to relax and enjoy it all for the woman because she can concentrate more on relaxing her body and enjoying the feeling.


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