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Blogs > rm_calmlys > Life Goes On ...

My secret advantage  

rm_calmlys 45M
388 posts
2/20/2009 2:35 am
My secret advantage

I'd like to share a secret with everyone. I have other secrets that I shall not be sharing, but this is one I find quite sad because of the advantage it gives me when I am trying to meet someone or impress a woman.

My biggest advantage, well maybe not biggest, but a significant one, is this; it's other men. Talk to any woman that is single, and even many in relationships, and ask them about what they have run into when dating a modern man, it is truly sad.

The average guy has so lowered the expectations of what a woman expects, I'm surprised they even talk to a man. To give you an example, I looked up men roughly my age, and all you see is a wall of dick. Seriously, they cover almost the entire screen and it's like some where along the line, maybe during the registration process, it seems like someone made it the default option, to post a picture of a guy's privates.

What. The. Hell?!?!?!?

Let's get this straight, the best impression you can make on someone, after years of hearing what women want (yes, there is variety, and no, not everyone is the same, but that's another topic), and at least a decade of talking to women, that is what you've learned? In what freaking lifetime do you expect a women to say to any man, "let me see a picture of your dick, before I decide I want to know anything else about you?"

Guys, Are you insane?

I realistically could write an epic rant over how much this makes me question the rationality of any statement implying I belong to the same half of the population that behaves like this.

Ignoring the "Wall of Dick" phenomenon, I swear that men don't know how to behave. When I was 23, I had already started hearing about just how stupid men behave around women, and sadly, it has gotten worse since then.

Guys, if a woman invites you on a date to go see a movie, that does not mean bring your friend along, because this way you will have someone to discuss the movie with if she does not like it. I sh|t you not folks, that was one of the stories I heard. And as time goes on, I hear worse and worse stories.

Seriously folks, I couldn't make up the stuff guys do. The one and only bright spot that I can find out of all this juvenile, asinine, childishly self-centered behavior, is that it has so lowered the expectations of the average woman out there, I look good in comparison, simply by showing up. Add in dressing in clothes that have been washed (recently and have not been worn or slept in), knowing her name (not using a term), asking questions (about her day, not the size of her anatomy or her favorite positions), listening to her statements (and not staring at other women), and even someone like me has a chance when by all rights I shouldn't.

So I would like to end this post by saying the only thing that I have not said, and that is "thank you", for making me look like not only an option, but a viable and better one.

p.s. This isn't really a secret advantage I have because almost every woman I have talked to has figured this out.

.C

rm_bonlasse 52F
Ask me for a photo
2 posts
6/25/2011 7:57 pm

 You are so correct.


rm_onyxmontana 66F
Ask me for a photo
1 post
2/7/2011 12:02 am

 WOW you are so right. I met a guy and he was just looking for FRIENDS. Boy did I think that was different.Found out he's a great guy.Who needs a naughty pic to get to know someone?


foxyredhead2008 66F
99 posts
11/8/2010 7:51 am

 hi C.. ive read your posts with great interest and what baffles me is the lack of class men have in this sight..
alot of younger men assume that a mature lady is lacking the intimacy/sex ect ect (trust me nuthing is further than the truth)thus, they r pushy/aggressive and somewhat egotistic.
when i reject them gently (cos they have definately turned me right off)they abuse/bash and insult me
what the hell is that about????
hence i never date childish idiots who think "im desperate" and cant show intellect and manners and who think a dick pic is all women wants to see...
when will men pay attention, listen, learn and take on board WHAT WOMEN REALLY WANT" ?
thanks for the post sweety too bad your too busy with studies to have coffee sometime (smiles)
FOXYREDHEAD


rm_ISORareGem 60F
8183 posts
7/21/2010 3:12 am

 HAHAHAHAHAHA.....did you ever see the MADTV episode LOWERED EXPECTATIONS...... it was a goof on a dating service, and one of my favorite skits on the show!

Ya know, I don't mind looking at the dic pics- especially if they are nice. BUT.....you can shine it up, put a bow on it, etc.......what REALLY matters is the man attached, his SOUL.

A guy brings a friend along to a movie date? WOW, haven't heard that one. I end up with the ones who like to manhandle me.......

By the way, I am 47 and single, never married- and REFUSE to EVER settle for less. My expectations will never drop.

How sad, really- you have an advantage because you know how to treat women like HUMAN BEINGS........... what a sad state on the dateable men here, really.

thanks for this post. I hope it attracts some guy's attentions and maybe they can LEARN something......
what the world needs now..........


ArtemisJ 50F
8630 posts
5/19/2010 11:11 pm

 This is going to be a generalized statement and I have never read your blog, nor have I seen in you in mine. For the record - I am a complete androphile. I adore men.

Men are such visual creatures. I really think they just think that showing it off turns on women. If they could see the faces I make when I see some of those pics, they would be surprised. A smile is definately not on my face. I am not a fan of the cock shot.

I also think it's a primal thing. Showing off virility.

Your eyes are phenominal by the way
ArtemisJ is Keeping It Real


ArtemisJ 50F
8630 posts
5/19/2010 11:11 pm

 This is going to be a generalized statement and I have never read your blog, nor have I seen in you in mine. For the record - I am a complete androphile. I adore men.

Men are such visual creatures. I really think they just think that showing it off turns on women. If they could see the faces I make when I see some of those pics, they would be surprised. A smile is definately not on my face. I am not a fan of the cock shot.

I also think it's a primal thing. Showing off virility.
ArtemisJ is Keeping It Real


summerloverz 46M/48F

3/12/2010 6:05 pm

 Great post! I really have never been a fan of the "dick pic" ... When I was dating men it was never a nice suprise to open an email from someone I was chatting with and BAMB there it was all up in my face! I like somethings left to my imagination for a bit please! Let me do the exploration on my own! Now I find that with women I feel the same way. I dont mind a bit of sexy boob shots.. but I can do without the eagle spread shots!

A(she)


SummerxxxRain 51F
Ask me for a photo

2/27/2010 6:47 pm

 We as women are not much better.I have also read many a profile...male and female.We are just as guilty as the men Calmys describes.

We as women set the stage on how we want to be treated.We too display questionable content in our profiles.We are as much to blame for the naked 'male parts' men display in their profiles.

I personaly love to open my gifts christmas morningWhy ruin the surprise and peak at the gift early.I like to take the time and examine the whole package and slowly unmask the surprise that lay beneath all the fancy ribbons and wrappings.


justpassing2106 63F

2/26/2010 8:35 pm

 Oh I so love this blog, I hate getting a message from a guy with a pic of his dick posted. Most times when i get message with a attachment I just dump them , because I know that it's another dick shot. I would rather see a guys face before I see dick. Hey keep up the good work I love your blogs.....


PurringKitty65 58F  
36 posts
8/27/2009 7:42 am

 After having such a great conversation in the chat room last night I decided to stop by here today and read your blogs and I am so very glad that I did. I have belonged to many chat programs and some are voice activated as well. The one thing that they all share is the profile information. I agree that more times than not the men do not ask how your day went or even what your interested in. It's hiya sweetie (or some other pet name) what are your measurments and do you want to get together and fuck sometimes. Your posting says everything that many men should read and maybe take pointers. I can go and look at my received picture files right now at pictures that were sent as a way to get my attention and all I see is a wall to wall "dick" page. As if I am going to remember who they belong to later...lol. So what we meet up later and I ask them to drop their pants and see if I can remember if he was pvt 1 or 2 that sent them? Thank you so very much for this post...can you put a big red blinking sign on the top to get other men to read this over a few times....lol


stormyroses 40F
1620 posts
4/30/2009 4:25 pm

 *is cracking up at the "even someone like me has a chance when by all rights I shouldn't" line*

You dork, even if every man on earth were prince charming, you'd still have a chance. Where did all this self-effacement come from all of a sudden?

Of course, I'm biased, but I still think you're pretty great, and not just in comparison to the losers.
Do not seek an external refuge, but be a light unto yourself.

"Be the change you want to see."

HalfNekkid Wednesday Peekaboo


rm_Pink_Secrets 60F
8199 posts
3/24/2009 1:42 am

well said x
Can you keep a secret ?


prophesy1 54F
Ask me for a photo

3/12/2009 8:01 am

 This is an excellent post. What you say rings true for alot of us. Personally, I'd rather see a pic of man in jeans instead of seeing a dick picture as a main profile picture. Some of these guys wonder why no body is responding to their messages or network invites. You clearly have figured out the way to be!
Smile, it just might make someone's day!


amusementlaught 58F

3/2/2009 2:21 pm

 I see your Light! I like yr Mood! Yre a Vanguarda Officer here in this Indecent Site AdultFriendFinder !





I give you a Smile...Muack muack


rm_bella_ 54F
4029 posts
2/23/2009 4:29 pm

 You are definately not like the majority...thank goodness for that.


Opals_fire 60F
2984 posts
2/20/2009 4:59 pm

 I'd love you anyways even if the rest of "mankind" weren't such losers!


sugar4you1980 43F
5077 posts
2/20/2009 11:00 am

 I had to laugh as I read this. Its seems to me that men are constantly raving about all the "fake" women on here . . . we are all a bunch of cock teases . . . . yada yada. Interestingly enough, these same men are the ones who choose a photo of their cock as the picture that represents them. Men like you are a breath of fresh air. At least someone realizes that beneath our boobs and butts and legs up to here . .. .we women are people too!
The most important thing you can wear is the expression on your face!


PolyWife26 57F

2/20/2009 10:54 am

 After reading this post...great post btw...you know that if you reach a woman on a mental basis...the body follows. You sound very wise and mature. With most young guys maturity and respect for women just isn't there. Big hugs to you for just being YOU!
Confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can have.



TinkerBellsMagic 54F

2/20/2009 5:33 am

 ~Yet again sadly true,
Thankyou C~


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