Oh brother  

rm_bucfannn 61M/60F
1805 posts
5/15/2006 9:47 am

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10/2/2006 11:43 pm

Oh brother

I was a member of another well known dating site. As Cleavis would say, it rhymes with "snatch".

What an experience that was. For some God forsaken reason, EVERY SINGLE PERSON I met on that site had/has issues. Whether I met them in person, or just chatting on IM. ALL OF THEM had issues.

Big issues.

First one I met, well, met is a relative term. This one I actually didn't meet in person. I just couldn't. Let me 'splain...

Started chatting with the guy. Nice pics. Very nice, as a matter of fact. Very articulate. Extremely so, ( by now, ya'all know how big I am on grammar, et al), and very personable. We chatted for quite a while. A couple of weeks, if I remember. This is still while I was pretty new to the dating scene, btw.

He was also 32 or 33 years old. I wasn't too keen on such a big age difference, but, we had so much in common, I figured, what the heck.

OK. So, finally, I bit the proverbial big one, and give him my number. First time I heard his voice, I about croaked. Very meek. Actually, he sounded rather stoned. And, to be honest, it was like someone poured a full bucket of ice water over my head. The hair on the back of my neck stood straight out. He told me that he had been carjacked and shot when he was 20, and he couldn't bring himself to get behind a wheel of a car. He also said his elderly parents lived with him, and he took care of them.

Uh huh. Right.

Turns out, he's bi-polar. And, that's not all. Also, a big time paranoid schizophrenic. On more medication than you can shake a stick at. His parents take care of HIM, not the other way around. Issues? You bet. Could I personally deal with them? No. It's sometime difficult enough dealing with my own problems, let alone someone else's.

So, scratch that one.

The next. Sigh. Another case of mistaken identity. Again, great conversationalist. Excellent voice. Made me laugh. Not great looking, but, had a helluva personality. So we meet.


LONG walking shorts, socks, and velcro sneakers. Dear Lord. I almost started crying. And, he had on Brut. *gag*

Now, I'm generally a nice person. I really am. But, there is a limit to my "niceness". And, I reached it. Pretty fricking fast. After about five minutes, I knew I had to go. QUICKLY.

Ok, so what I did wasn't too nice. But, I just couldn't help it. I really couldn't. I booked. Did 'the ole "I gotta use the ladies room", and I snuck out. I know. I was mean. Didn't mean to be, but, DAMN.

OK. My last "MATCH". I can honestly say I was very attracted to this one. He's dominant, and since I decided to try being subservient, I was intrigued. Big time.

We meet. Well, I was disappointed. He was ordering me around. Uh, no. I figured out REALLLLLLLLLLLY quick I couldn't be subservient, let alone submissive, (in real life). And, he was VERY aggressive. Almost to the point of scaring me.

Now, those that know me, I mean REALLY know me, know I am not easily intimidated. Not at all. But, this guy and I would have knocked heads. I'm Dominant, myself, but, I do enjoy the switch - a lot. I knew there was NO way he would. And, I couldn't let someone try to walk all over me, and expect me to be happy about it.

So, that was my experience with the site that rhymes with SNATCH.

Vanilla ain't always better, I can tell ya.

fantasylover_05 62M

5/15/2006 9:59 am

So the site did not live up to its name? LOL LOL

Well I are much intelligent and quiet articate. I loves to be derminant but cans be subsivent at times. I gots no problums and would loves ta meatcha! I's be flying in and looks for that landing strip! LOL LOL LOL

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/15/2006 10:06 am:
*cracking up*

Want me to turn the landing lights on? Or, would you rather "cum in" by touch alone?

Xeryien 51M
1445 posts
5/15/2006 10:43 am

You bailed by going to the bathroom?!?! Oooo - that's low....
(More tidbits of info about you!)

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/15/2006 10:48 am:
Hey. I'm not proud of myself for doing it. But, a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do. I guess I'm a coward... *hangs head in shame*

rm_MisterFrumpy 46M
428 posts
5/15/2006 11:16 am

why not be proud of it? i'd rather just be told "hey this ain't gonna work' than know someone is willing to suffer thru a bad date or someone sneaking off LOL

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/15/2006 3:05 pm:
No, I couldn't be. What I did was mean. I should have been upfront and said something. But, by then, I had had it. But, I can tell ya, I will not do that again. I'll just say it's not going well, then leave.

AltumHunksUnite 53M

5/15/2006 11:46 am

Ha... I think a better nickname for that site is "SCRATCH". Because everyone ya make contact with deserves to be SCRATCHED from the list.

Let me drive. I like the view

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/15/2006 3:06 pm:

We have such similar experiences. At least I watch the Simpson's.

HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
5/15/2006 12:22 pm

LOL....interesting 'experiences' Fann
I'm sure all of them (this friendly site included) are full of hits and misses (how many strikes do we get?? I think I'm on a 'no-hitter')

You know who you are, and what you like, want, etc, and that's all that counts. Until then, there's always the construction sites near the beach

Hmmm...thinking of the landing lights, and the 'strip'

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/15/2006 3:11 pm:
Perhaps But, why does that crap happen to ME??

I've had more fun on this friendly site. Yes indeedy I have

rm_gerson42 52M
2419 posts
5/15/2006 2:30 pm

In my book tis better than to never have tried. Sorry it didn't go well.

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/15/2006 3:11 pm:
I agree with your "book". I've learned my lesson. Yep, I have...

Xman33612 42M
1 post
5/15/2006 3:12 pm

Girl you are always if nothing else honest why I love ya. Plus you always make me laugh. Besides how many Mr Rights do you need. Leave some for the rest of us

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/15/2006 3:54 pm:
Heh. Gee, I'm not greedy. ALL I want is ONE. So far, even that ONE has eluded me. But, I will keep plugging on, (and writing about the losers )

peaches19555 61M

5/15/2006 3:45 pm

So many easy comebacks you have allowed with that landing strip. But then I would have to tell you about my Bermuda shorts and Chuck Taylors.

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/15/2006 3:56 pm:
Babe... I'm telling you, we HAVE to talk

Bermuda's? Oh no. Please don't tell me you wear sandals with socks, too...

At least now you know about the landing strip (as does this whole site LMAO )

oldude1946 70M

5/15/2006 5:09 pm

I don't even ware underware.

Killroy was hereoldude1946

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/15/2006 5:38 pm:

You are TRULY one of my very favorite people!


fantasylover_05 62M

5/15/2006 6:51 pm

OH I would MUCH rather just cummmmm in by touch!!!

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/15/2006 7:22 pm:
wellllllllllll... cum on baby....

rm_LoyalCumpany 46M
3204 posts
5/16/2006 12:43 am

Brut.. . sandals... shorts... he had to be trying to be unsuccessful. Former student of mine, perhapd.

I am JoJo the Circus Boy!

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/16/2006 3:56 am:
Student? Oh no, LC. I'm so disappointed now............

HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
5/16/2006 4:15 am

Well, it (crap) has to happen to someone...and, it gives you something to blog about

Hugs, C

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/16/2006 4:18 am:
Heh Heh. You betcha. More fodder for my fire, so to speak

1Sir_Lancelot 59M

5/16/2006 5:59 am

I think I had a date with his sister...she had on more make-up than the counter at J.C. Penny's, and smelled like a French whore house. Needless to say there wasn't a second date.

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/16/2006 7:00 am:

I got a visual. Not pretty. Neither was she, eh?

toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
5/16/2006 6:36 am

How about some chocolate covered stawberries then?
Have you tried my happy stawberries?

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 7:07 am:
Gee, I would give up the dating "thing" if YOU were the one feeding me the strawberries

rm_ohsolustful 57M
859 posts
5/16/2006 9:38 am

LOL, I had some very similar experiences myself....

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 7:07 am:

We need to compare notes...

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