Happy Father's Day, Dad!  

rm_bucfannn 61M/60F
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6/17/2006 4:40 am

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Happy Father's Day, Dad!

My father passed away December 12,2005. He was 77 years and 11 months old.

This subsequent year, following his death, is a year of firsts. First Christmas without him, first New Years, etc. And, tomorrow, is the first father's day in my life, I don't have a dad to celebrate with... and, it hurts a lot. I miss my father, and will every single day of my life...

This is a repost from when I first starting writing here. My father's unconventional "memorial service". I thought it only fitting I repost this, for him, in his memory.

Title of this post: Where The Hell is Mel?

Feb 10, 2006 8:09 pm

5 a.m. came mighty early this morning for me, since I am definitely NOT a morning person, but, I had to be on the road no later than 6-6:15. I never relish driving on I4, and a friday morning rush hour is not something I enjoy. So, I figure if I can leave early enough, I can beat most of it. WRONG. And what's with these damn tourists out before the crack of dawn? I was behind one, (I will leave the state he was from out, so not to offend), on SR54 headed east. Speed limit, 45mph, and the moron was going 30. NO PASSING. GRRRRRRRR....

Anyway, I am resplendent this morning, in my nifty Tinker Bell tee my dad gave me, and brand new size 6 Tommy jeans, (heh heh). Uh huh, you read right. Tinker Bell. I'm going to Disney, after all. May as well look like a typical tourist this time.

SCENE ONE: THE DRIVE. I75 south to I4. Bumper to bumper before I even hit the Tampa metro area. Cripes. Cranked up my traveling music, Barry Manilow, (ok, no cracks), and sang along. That made the time go a little quicker. Of course, I get strange looks. Ah well. I don't care. And, naturally, I forgot my sunglasses. Sun rises in the east. I'm headed east. Squinting. A lot. Not fun. Feel a sun-induced headache coming on. Pop a few advil with a Dew. Tilt the seat back just a tad, and crank up ole Barry. Soon, I see it. The Disney exit sign. YAY!

SCENE TWO: THE PARKING LOT. Ok, I make it to Disney property. Headache is gone, and I'm getting charged up. I feel like a kid again. In my effervescent state, I am not paying attention to signs. Instead of going to the parking lot, I am headed back out. ARRRRRRRGH. I whip around and follow a car. He must know where he's going, right? He sure did, he worked there, and headed to the "cast only" parking area. By now, I'm starting to get ticked off. So, I make a U-turn, and head back the way I came. Only the way I came is a one way. I said "screw it", and drove on anyway As cars were coming in my direction, I had to pull over. At this point, I am laughing so hard I am crying. FINALLY, I see "the" sign for Magic Kingdom parking. I just wasted 10 minutes driving around an empty parking lot like an idiot. Sigh. At least I was on time. Trust me, I was impressed.

SCENE THREE: THE TICKET COUNTER. My sister purchased the tickets at AAA, so we had to "redeem" them by showing our Florida drivers license. Ok, no problem. My idiot nephew forgot his, and had to hike back to his car. So, we wait. While we are standing there, I go into the first souvenir shop I see. I see this GREAT Tinker Bell hat. But, what made me spend twenty bucks on a dang ball cap was the writing on it: "Mood subject to change without notice". PERFECT. So, I pull my hair through the back, and go back out. My idiot nephew is still not back yet. Cripes almighty. I mention that he probably got lost, which earned me a snotty look from his girlfriend. Hey, I'm entitled to my opinion, right? And besides, I'm the aunt. I can say whatever I want.

SCENE FOUR: THE MAGIC KINGDOM. Alrighty then, we are finally inside. The first thing my sister says to me is "Don't even start, Cathy". Ok, I have been to the parks 200+ times. And EVERY SINGLE TIME I have been in the Kingdom, the first thing I do is buy popcorn. Literally, I eat my way though Disney. Fine. So I don't get popcorn, (it wasn't ready anyway), and vow to keep up the tradition once deep in the recesses of the Magic Food Kingdom. My brother in law wants coffee, so we head for the bakery on main street. Of course, even though I had breakfast on the way to Orlando, I can eat again. Cherry danish and a cup of coffee. YUM.

We decide to head over to Adventureland. Pirates of the Caribbean. Dumped a handful of dad there. Swiss Family Treehouse. Another handful. On to the Jungle Cruise. Yep, he's swimming with the elephants. Big Thunder Mountain Railroad, yep, there too. Then, to Splash Mountain. Now, my father went on that ride one time. The drop about made him have a heart attack. We teased him unmercifully about it after. He was like Fred Sanford coming out of there - "IT'S THE BIG ONE". LOL. So, naturally, I was going to leave some of him on that one, too. I was in the front row, and got drenched. Seriously soaked. And, while I was scattering him, some of the ashes got on my jeans. My WET jeans. Great. My father could become concrete on me. I was laughing and laughing. My nephew said I was morbid, for mentioning that. LMAO. Nah, but, I swear I could hear my dad chuckle.


My dad, his name is Mel, is on every "E" ticket ride, and a couple of the "C" ticket ones, too. Plus, some flower beds, etc. We even made it over to the Animal Kingdom for a couple of hours. He enjoyed that place, too. He's near the gorilla habitat.

So, that was my day. A bit bittersweet, but, we had a blast. And the title of this post now makes sense, doesn't it? Where the hell is Mel? He's alllllllll over Disney, that's where


and to all the dad's out there... Happy Father's Day!

alamo1235 58M
995 posts
6/17/2006 6:55 am


I have never read that post from you before but I think that was a wonderful way to remember your Dad. I am sure your Dad still feels your love for him.

MataKhan 105F

6/17/2006 8:38 am

Nice Blog about your Dad

Even tho he is gone we believe their presence always be with us



oldude1946 70M

6/17/2006 11:26 am

I remember reading this when you put it up. I miss my dad too, sure would like to have him back.

1Sir_Lancelot 59M

6/17/2006 11:31 pm

I understand how you feel, my dad passed away in 1998 1 week after my parents 44th wedding anniversary. I loved my father and consider him my guardian angel.

HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
6/18/2006 3:18 pm

Nice tribute to your dad Cat. Although they're gone, they're always in our memories, and our hearts.

I lost my father on April 20th, 1999, the same day as the Columbine shootings, and the day after I had worked nights on tunnel inspections. It was a long day, needless to say; but I was glad I was there to say goodbye.

Hugs, C

redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
6/22/2006 5:17 am

Cat, there is something very humorous and yet very comforting knowing your dad is hanging out in one of your favorite places....now was this his idea or yours?

rm_bucfannn replies on 6/23/2006 2:37 pm:
My dad never made his wishes known, other than the fact he didn't want to be "buried". When the thought of Disney came to us, it was PERFECT. His most favorite place to be. I know he approved. Definitely. And now, we can "see" him whenever we want, which is very cool

rm_jami95 66M
69 posts
6/25/2006 10:31 pm

Mel had the most unique send off any man could want to have by the people that loved him the most.....

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