Exclusive? Yeah, I get it....  

rm_bucfannn 61M/60F
1805 posts
5/16/2006 7:14 am

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Exclusive? Yeah, I get it....

An exclusive circle of people with a common purpose.

What am I talking about? You can't guess?


Uh huh. Alive and well within the boundries of blogville.

I'm not in to being popular. I could care less. But, there are those that actually thrive on it. Revel in it. Live for it.

Not this chick. No. I'm happy when people read the drivel I post. I'm happy when they comment. But, if they didn't, it's ok, too. I use this little corner of A.F.F. for ME.

In perusing the many blogs I click on throughout the day, I notice a lot of things. ONE: There are a LOT of talented writers in blogville TWO: A lot of said bloggers dont even get hits THREE: Seems to me, certain people THINK they run the blogs FOUR: Their words are not the word of God

In talking with [blog LoyalCumpany] on IM this morning, I brought this up. His response?

yeah, we should keep hoping the lemmings in this site fall over the cliff and the talented ones help push

Will it happen? I doubt it.

His blog today is about three little words. FREEDOM. OF. SPEECH., prompted by a post on a blog where someone had an opinion. Whether the poster was right or wrong, she was crucified. BIG TIME. By the "loyalists".
And that particular post spawned more posts. Instead of perpetuating what should have by now, died a quiet death, I think it would have been easier just to string her ass up and flog her til she begged for mercy. But no. The "loyalists" had to jump on the bandwagon and tear the commenter a new asshole, on their own blogs. Fine. You have an opinion about it? Great. Comment. Don't perpetuate.

It's like the childhood game of telephone. You start with one sentence and by the time it gets to the end of the line, it has morphed into something so outlandish, it goes beyond funny.

But, that's the mentality of the cliques. Rush to the bud's defense. Showing their loyalty. As it should be. But, doesn't everyone deserve that type of loyalty, too? Not just the ones in the tiny hamlet of cliques-ville. This is BLOGVILLE. Where thousands of people reside.

Move out a bit past your own street. Meet others. Invite them in for coffee. Make them feel welcome.

Like I said, there are a LOT of talented writers here, that never get a look. And, that is very very sad. A lot of people that keep turning out some very good stuff. I, for one, will start pimping one writer a week. And not just because I think they are good, but, because I think YOU ALL will think they are good...

rm_LoyalCumpany 46M
3204 posts
5/16/2006 7:53 am

French word for high school?

I am JoJo the Circus Boy!

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/16/2006 8:23 am:
Yeah. Exactly. High School crap. I've so outgrown it, but, apparently a lot haven't

seek_u_topia 51M

5/16/2006 8:43 am

You make a few very good points. This is a clique-y place. And there are many writers who almost no one reads. I'm going to branch out a bit too and see what I find. Thanks for the reminder! Now I'll head over and check out Loyalcumpany's post.


rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 6:14 am:
Thanks, sweets. Yep, a lotta interesting stuff in blogville, for sure. I'm broadening my horizons, so to speak

rm_JohnMacLaine 50M
585 posts
5/16/2006 9:13 am


You are correct in what you say about the cliques. I have noticed that a lot of what is said to the popular bloggers on this site is defended by their loyal readers. I do not agree with the way this site caters to the "popular" people, instead I would rather it be about content, not how many people pot to your particular blog.

Popularity has never been my bag, but I do want to be heard, seen, and read so that I can get some feedback from people. I do not claim to be a good writer, as I did not have more than a High School education and a little bit of college.

My writing is spur of the moment and to some that is the best type, but to others it is simply the ramblings of someone that does not think out what he has to say. A lot of the best writers on this site, in fact, DO NOT get seen because of the popularity focus of this site. it is indeed turned into a popularity contest and a lot of recent posts and threads made by some of the most popular prove that point. I dont feel like I need contests or other sillyness in order to attract readers to my blog, nor do I feel I should do so in order to rise in ranks on the popularity list. I feel quality over quantity is better, and I refuse to particpate in others that use these means to garner attention.

In direct response to the post in question, yes I made a post about it this morning as well, even provided a link to it, but I do not believe in calling the offender out by name, nor do I want to bring her to the attention of others so as to bring her more "hits". I had an opinon on the matter and my blog was the best venue for that, so as not to add to the clutter that was on that specific post.

Sorry for being long winded hun...seems I had a lot to say.....lol



"I can retain neither respect or affection for a government which has been moving from wrong to wrong in order to defend its own immorality" Mahatma Ghandi

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 6:20 am:
Thank you Scott, for responding.

This was a heated discussion, for sure. But, what I meant by perpetuating was exactly what you did. By posting the link to the battle scene. You brought up valid points in your blog post, definitely. But, it would have been just as powerful, had you left off the link... of course, that's just my opinion.

Unfortunately, racism is alive and well in 2006...


rm_ohsolustful 58M
859 posts
5/16/2006 9:34 am

You go Girl....I for one will stand by anyones right to free speech, especially yours..WAHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...Just keep bringing on your OHSOluscious and inspiring posts..................

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 6:21 am:
Thank you, luv. I'll definitely keep plugging along...

digdug41 49M

5/16/2006 9:48 am

When I first came here eight months ago I saw the cliques too and there all over blogland, so it makes no difference to me if I like what you write I'll comment other than that I dont pay it no mind now as for being a popular blogger I dont know I aint popular and they put me on the list but thats only after three hundred posts, so I cant say I am not thrilled by it I worked to get up on the top of the list so as to be seen by more readers, have I? not really I still get the same readers everyday with the odd one or two ppl who will stumble onto my blog and I write alone so I roll by myself I have ppl here that I push to get read thats the whole purpose for me so we are all seen, if I fell off of the top of the list because we are all on the list I would just be happy that I was on the main page for who ever wanted to peep my thoughts

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 6:28 am:
Thanks, dig, for stopping back by. I'm like you. Happy if someone reads my stuff, (and comments), and fine with it if they don't.

Cliques abound in every facet of life. From school, to the workplace, to the soccer field. Those that have to be part of them, generally are pretty well insecure, and have to have the "crowd mentality" to survive. 'Course, that's my own opinion.


rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
5/16/2006 10:32 am

I am not sure who you are referring to since you didnt name names, but you can count on one hand the times me and 007 have commented to each other before yesterday. I saw someone being attacked, continuously, not just one comment but many, and brought notice to it. So, is that a bad thing? This isnt the first time starlight has attacked 007 or others for that matter, and people are tired of it.

As far as cliques are concerned, yes I suppose it is like that, but it wouldnt matter if I know the person or not, if they need help, I will help them if I can, and if I use the list as a tool to do that, so be it.

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 6:37 am:
Thank you for stopping by and commenting.

I didn't bring up any names for the obvious reason. Attacks on others is not something I condone. But, I learned a long time ago that ignoring said offender usually ends the attack. In here, there is always the delete/ban option, too.

It's admirable to come to another's defense. ALWAYS. And, that's not what I was referring to. I was referring to perpetuating the incident. And that went on. Is still going on. THAT keeps the hatred flowing. Nothing can be resolved by continuing what should have been squelched from the get-go. And, of course, that is just my opinion.


HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
5/16/2006 11:50 am

I guess I missed out on the 'excitement'.

I wonder if I'm one of the lemmings going over the cliff

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 6:38 am:

Honestly, Cor, you didn't miss much. I had fully intended on writing about the cliques on this blog site earlier. But, that particular incident just added a bit of fodder to my fire, is all


rm_Kingcat4U2 65M
2799 posts
5/16/2006 2:56 pm

Oh, the hell with the rest of that crap! I just want you to be my pimp, baby, 'cause I know you'll take such good care of me! Btw, Hinsdale got the wave (no acknowledgement back), first slice was double cheese and mushroom in your honor.

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 6:40 am:
Yea, I'll take care of you

Thanks for waving to my old hometown. There are times I miss it. A lot. But, then again, when I know there is two feet of snow on the ground, suddenly, I don't miss it as much

peaches19555 61M

5/16/2006 3:31 pm

Being the hobo that I am, a transient without a blog, I have had to rely on the hospitality of others to allow my camp out on the perimeters. Sometimes distance affords a better perspective. I do not know the particulars of this matter only that as of yet no pied piper have I found. Freedom if afforded to speach must also be afforded to the lemmings jump.

Well, maybe I did find a piper for a white bikini had me marching to the sea

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 6:42 am:
You know, I honestly don't know why you don't start a blog in here. You have such insight. It would be a pleasure, indeed, to read your writings on a regular basis...

And, quit thinking about that damn white bikini

oldude1946 71M

5/16/2006 4:39 pm

Did ya say something about coffee

I could give a flying fuck what people think about what I say, I'm here looking for a landing strip, seen one

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 6:43 am:
Turn on the landing lights, sweetie. You'll see it

I, too, am like you. I don't give a RIP who reads and who doesn't read. I'm here to have fun. And, if something comes from that, so be it


rm_gerson42 52M
2419 posts
5/16/2006 5:08 pm

I see that there are circles. I think some do not do so maliciously but as a symbiotic gesture. You know, I appreciate your reviewing my stuff let me see yours. In the end, I write mostly because I think more thoroughly. I do know that the blogs I check regularly normally have some substance and thought provocation to them.

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 6:52 am:
I agree, Gerson. I just get a little ruffled when reading certain blogs and they have the high school "you cannot breach the inner sanctum" attitude. I just roll my eyes and continue on...

I do enjoy your writings, btw...


brute472 74M
3480 posts
5/17/2006 12:57 am

Hi and thanks again for a great blog.
I have to say I don't write for grandisement I do it because I care about what I have to say so if people don't read or comment it is no skin off my nose but I do look forward to a small group of bloggers whom I admire to read my ramblings and sometimes comment.

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 7:04 am:
Yes, sweets. My thoughts exactly. I love the fact that I am "conversing" with a lot of different people, from different facets of life.

Blogsville is a cathartic experience for most. I know it is for me, to a certain degree. That, and I love to rant


fantasylover_05 62M

5/17/2006 8:14 am

No question there are indeed cliques everywhere in life and in anything you do.... and that is certainly true here as well...

I do not condone cliques and have never really cared one way or another whether I was in or out.. and have spent more time out than in (yep you can take that any way you wish LO.... I don't know if I am part of any clique or not.. or if I am what one it would be! LOL LOL I know I have MANY friends here and I cherish each and everyone of them (and that INCLUDES YOU my sweet)!

I just simply ENJOY my blog.... I laugh... I poke fun... I share my inner thoughts and fears and desires... I cry... I have FINALLY learned about myself and allowed myself to let some old skeletons out of the closet.... so for the most part I blog for ME! Yes I have comment whored a few times! LOL Okay.... more than a few LOL LOL But I will tell you this.... the dreaded LIST does NOT dictate what I write!!! However, if I can in some way use my seeming "popularity" (though I honestly and truly do not consider myself "popular") to make things better for someone or make people think or to get on my soap box about a particular cause (as I think I have done).. I will do so without a second thought or hessitation!

I agree with you.... some things I just will not comment on nor will I perpetuate.... racism is one thing I can not tollerate... I will never use my blog nor comments to tear anyone down for any reason!!! They usually do a quite good job of that all by themselves!! LOL

I look at it this way.. my blog is mine and yours is yours... and if I do not agree with your thoughts I may express mine.. but ALWAYS with RESPECT for yours!! If you post something just simply devile I will leave NOT RETURN to your blog... simple as that!

And I will NEVER make any kind of devile comment to, about or on someone's blog!!!

I will defend you till the end and your right to your opinion.. but that does not mean I must agree with you or condone what you say..

So this is a long way of saying... GOOD POST MY SWEET!! LOL LOL

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 8:26 am:
Thank you sweetie

It's just been something that's been on my mind lately. Then, with the drama that went on, it sort of morphed a bit.

Adding gas to a wildfire is NOT a prudent thing to do. Yet, it continues to go on. Once a wildfire has spread, it takes more than just water to put it out. Gossip and hatred are exactly the same. Spreading until the vast majority are consumed by it.

I just don't live for the drama....

Love you

oldude1946 71M

5/17/2006 8:51 pm

I went out and bought some new landing lights today

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/17/2006 9:09 pm:
heh heh.

You made me laugh. I needed it tonight.

Thanks, sweetheart

tut1117 72M  
452 posts
5/18/2006 2:48 am

buc, as I sit here in my little corner of the world I was unaware of the "cliques" here, but then again I only read two or three peoples blogs. I was/am never one who worried about what others do or say as I have no control over any one other than myself. I will never forget when I was 13 or 14, how a parent told my father about not seeing my name in the newspaper after a swim meet that I had done well at. My father responded "and we didn't call the paper this morning because he got out of bed today either". Like someone above said I am just a hobo reading others writing, not wanting to get out of corner. I guess if I had something that caused my undies to get in a bunch I would break out.
Btw, I too will be looking for that white bikini with the annoying stings that won't stay tied.

rm_bucfannn replies on 5/18/2006 6:32 am:
I guess you could say I was part of the "IN" crowd in HS. However, my senior year, I broke away, and established friendships that I still have today.

Popularity can mean several things. But, here, in the blogs, it's either you are a part of it, or you aren't. PERIOD. THEY decide who can enter the inner sanctum. That's fine. That mentality was why I broke away from that crap in HS.

softnlush 53F

5/19/2006 6:53 am

Ya know girlie how I feel about cliques..but if you think about it..wouldn't people say you and I were our own little clique..or would people say that I am cliquish with Frump and TNC and Blu..but the fact is..I am comfortable with people I know pretty well,and I try my best to say hi and chat with everyone..but the obvious cliques I just stay the hell away..if they don't want to know me,chances are pretty good I feel the same towards them..and as long as everyone is civil(and I am talking cliques of all sorts,work,social,whatever)..it is all good,in my books anyway

rm_bucfannn 61M/60F
2110 posts
5/20/2006 8:49 am

You know I am like that, too. I am comfortable around people I know better than others. But, I don't shut myself up and involve myself with only a few, like I did in HS. Since TASA, I have met some WONDERFUL people, yourself included. They have helped me out of the shell that has been surrounding me for a long time. Shyness can sometimes be misinterpreted as being stuck up or snotty. Well, ok, I'm snotty LMAO, but, you know what I mean....

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