A character flaw  

rm_bucfannn 61M/60F
1805 posts
3/11/2006 10:32 pm

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6/19/2006 10:07 pm

A character flaw

I don't meet people well. Takes me a while to warm up, so, a lot of times it is thought that I am stuck-up, or a snob. Couldn't be further from the truth.

Let me let you in on a little secret. I'm shy. The "hide behind mommy's skirt" kind of shy. Always was, and probably always will be. And, to tell you the truth, it sucks. Being introverted is rough, it really is. But, I've never been one to want to be the center of attention, as some are wont to be. I prefer to sit back and take it all in. Once I'm comfortable, though, my inhibitions seem to fly out the window. But sometimes, it takes a while.

I'm thinking it's probably because I'm scared about people breaching my inner core. I feel vulnerable. I'm the only one in my family that is not the gregarious type. It's not that I'm a loner... nope, I'm not. I take delight in my friends. But, making new ones is very very difficult. I'm better with a small crowd, or one on one. But, anything over ten or so people, no.

At work, I'm totally different. I go into what I call my "work mode", and I can talk to just about anyone, about just about anything. I'm quite animated. There are times I wish I could be that way on the "outside", too. But, it hasn't happened yet...

Oh well. I'll keep trying...

oldude1946 71M

3/12/2006 4:23 am

Oh hell honey, we are all that way in our own sort of way.
Don't worry about it, just be yourself, we will like you just the same

HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
3/12/2006 6:20 am

Damn! Guess I'm not the only one

I know the feeling well Fann. I was real shy in my younger days (I didn't try to ask a girl out until I was in my 20's). As I've gotten older (and had to do things for school and work) I've gotten better, and I've found it much easier getting to know people on the internet (emails, IM's, and even here on the blogs), but I'm still not the life of the party yet...lol. Guess we all have our insecurities that we have to deal with. But we get through them eventually (or end up in therapy I guess).

Hugs, C

softnlush 53F

3/12/2006 9:35 am

Give it one more shot girlie...between Myself,PhoenixBlu,Frump and Nastee we will make ya feel all warm and homey like *wink*

lifes2short069 48M
138 posts
3/12/2006 10:55 am

you are doing great.. dont give up the ship... its all about baby steps... and like i said, you are doing great

I am glad you made it to the m&g last night.. i enjoy seeing you and talking to you..we just have to get you playing pool and darts soon.

always here for you.. mark xoxo

Xeryien 52M
1447 posts
3/13/2006 5:33 am

Hang in there ‒ I know how you feel…
Y’know those personality test things ‒ the Meyers-Briggs? Actually I think AdultFriendFinder has one on their site here ‒ I took one at the office here and no one realized that I register at a severe introvert. They just can’t fathom that I don’t want to get to know people, because I am so “Outgoing”. EVERYONE is uncomfortable meeting new people or in new situations. I just say “Screw it ‒ I am going to make a fool out of myself anyway, so I am going to do it on my terms.” And it comes out as being “Gregarious” and “outgoing” but I really am not any more comfortable that the next guy/girl.

Just my two cents…

rm_ohsolustful 58M
859 posts
3/15/2006 11:41 am

Your not alone in that at all. Most people are, just have confidence in yourself, and smile and laugh a lot. Your inner beauty and personality will shine through and help you overcome any shyness you feel you have. Don't worry about making new friends, most just wind up being aquaintances anyway, very few people ever have more than just a handful of real and true friends in life...Lots of smiles and warm wishes to You...............................xoxoxo

AltumHunksUnite 53M

3/16/2006 8:53 am

Sometimes if you imagine that the people at your table are the only ones there, and ignore the other fifty people, it might make you less nervous. Then if you mingle, focus on only a few people at a time. Not sure if this will help you. Glad you've been coming out to meet us lately.

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