Standards too high  

rm_boisebrat 47F
17 posts
5/28/2006 7:37 pm

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Standards too high

Something i wrote a couple of years ago... that is still very true!

January 27, 2004

Standards too high, I think not.

I would like to know why it is that some men think that just because I am a larger woman, plus size lady, plumper, big beautiful woman, or whatever label you want to put on me, that I am not entitled to have standards or qualities that I want in a man I am going to date, or consider dating-- that I am so desperate for a date or boyfriend that any man will do. I have some things I look for and I do not think that they are out of line. Do men think that just because I am of curvy body, my mind is dead?

I want a man who is smart, at least smart enough to hold up his end of a conversation. I do not need a brain surgeon, or a guy with a Mensa membership. Just a man with average intelligence, who has not either fried all his brain cells with drugs or alcohol, or simply just turned their brain off, will work for me.

I covet a man who has a job. It could be anything from digging ditches to running a multimillion-dollar corporation. Anything would be fine with me, as long as they are showing the responsibility of holding down a job. A man who at least attempts to pay his bills and keep the wolves from the door would be pleasant. It would be great for him to enjoy his job or career, but I understand that it is not always that easy.

I always try to ask, what is their living situation? Are they thirty-five and living at home with mommy and daddy? If they are at home, why are they there? If they have a pretty good reason then I will let that slide, but this needs to be a good reason illness, recent divorce, or Mom helping to care for small children, to me are pretty good reasons.

Does he have a car? Now this may seem somewhat shallow, and maybe it is, but I like a guy to have a car to drive. I drive all day for my job; I do not want to be his chauffeur as well. I really do not care if the car is a top of the line Lexus or a Ford Pinto, but a car is good. It also shows some responsibility.

I also try to squeeze in a question about a past criminal record. I just do not like any surprises down the road. A speeding ticket or two is not likely to scare me off, but I would like to know if my date spent five years in prison for possession of illegal drugs.

I tend to like men who can laugh at themselves, a joke, and the world in general. I think a sense of humor is invaluable and really enjoy spending time with someone who is not always serious. I tend to have a bit of a sarcastic nature at times and a guy has to be willing to deal with that.

I do not think I am asking too much a brain, a job, a place to live, a car, a sense of humor and no record. I know there are some of you out there. Where are you?

8324 posts
5/28/2006 8:31 pm

I think most people have standards of some fashion.

What you look like physically has no bearing on your standards.

It really all depends on the person.

Of course you're not asking too much.

Just remember that some of the very men you may be looking at probably have standards of their own as well.

You may not fit their standards and vice versa.


"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur

rm_Shortdogg65 51M
672 posts
5/28/2006 8:47 pm

I have everything but good looks and close proximity to your locale. Shortdogg

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