A Little Respect, Huh? Yeah, Right!  

rm_bohica91760 105M
53 posts
7/22/2006 8:37 pm

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A Little Respect, Huh? Yeah, Right!

This seems to be the most recurring message in just about any lady's profile here. They want a man (or woman, or...) to show them respect and be honest with them. OK, I have no problem with that. It's my nature to be that way anyway.

What I DO have a problem with, however, is some of the very same women cannot seem to be able to show the same respect and honesty that they ask for (and in some cases, demand) in return.

Here's what I mean. I send a lady a wink and add her to my hotlist (mostly to keep track of who i've winked at). If/when they reply, either winking, adding me to their hotlist, or both, I will send an email and maybe invite them to join my network friends.

Now, following this procedure, I now have 17 friends - supposedly. However, of these 17 "friends", I have only found 5 so far that actually respond to emails. I HAVE had 3 auto-reply me, so at least their machines are talking to me! LOL! however, nothing from a living being yet. Going to have to give them the benefit of doubt for now. There is 1 new one, so OK, give her time. That leaves 8 who have joined my network, but don't answer emails.

Ladies, I would rather have friends I can talk to, not bots or someone who is just trying to make their own network larger. I plan on going back and double-checking (I could be wrong - it HAS happened before! Hehe!) to make sure I have emailed each of them. I may even try to email them again. But, sooner or later, I WILL weed out the ones who are just playing games.

Now, that being said, I sent an email to a lady on here. (yes, I winked first and got a wink in reply) My first try - I goofed! I sent contact info in the first email. I found out about the site's policy no-no-ing this AFTER I sent that email.

I don't know if the site is blocking me now or what. I sent another email with no proscribed info in it and asked her to join my network. No reply, but, she joins my network. Now I don't know if she is trying to email me back or not (one of the friends who DOES write me has been having trouble getting emails to me lately, too). Have to cut this one some slack too, as she may be trying to reach me.

I have 24 invites pending. That would not be too bad. Maybe they haven't been online in a while, etc. Well, some of them are online every day!

My point is that you are not respecting the person you want (or demand) respect from yourself! All that is needed is to accept/decline the invite.

I have had 5 who have declined. If any of you are reading this, Thank You, Ladies, for at least have the common courtesy to let me know. I won't be trying to contact them again. I am NOT a stalker! LOL!

I definitely have some house-cleaning to do. I would rather have a small group of real friends than a large group of so-called friends.

All I would ask here is that I be treated with the same respect and honesty that so many of you ask for in your own profiles! Is that really so much to ask for?

catkit13 66F

7/22/2006 11:47 pm

you know what? i STILL can't figure out the system of winks, emails, viewing profiles, etc, for a standard member like me! so, just saying hi here and agreeing with you, i guess - keep on blogging! bye for now, cat

DixieKitten39 50F

7/23/2006 3:56 pm

You know I have the same trouble...as a standard member, i don't get to view explicit pics, email anyone other than those in my network or reply to an email, or search under the advanced methods. But that is ok. I have a list of friends who i try to keep in touch with. Granted, this is hard to do when you also have 360page, 7 different groups, and 3 different webpages. But i do manage to talk to everyone at least once a week. I do however, speak daily to my few main friends. Which i am hoping you are one!!lol...Lots of people i have noticed on here only want to view the pics and chat on the messenger's when they want cyber. Well, i guess if that is what you want. Me, personally, like to be involved a little degree in the lives of my friends. As i hope they do to.

rm_1dee4u 60F
58 posts
7/27/2006 4:58 pm

No, it is not too much to ask for. I hope that, if I haven't done it in the past, I will do it from now on. I will share that same respect and with that in mind, Thank You so Much!! You have opened my eyes today. )

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