CATS CHASE DOGS, TOO?  

rm_blkondemand 36M
138 posts
6/28/2006 8:45 am

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7/18/2006 1:17 pm

CATS CHASE DOGS, TOO?


She was much prettier than she appeared in the pics I saw in her profile. (That's a first) I actually was hoping she wouldn't be so that she would know that I'm not that superficial.

See, I knew she was special. She was one of few that not only showed her face in her profile, but read my blog and even left comments. She seemed real enough and so I had planned to sweep her off her feet with my charm anyway.

What I didn't plan for was her being so, uh.........sexually aggressive. I had learned a long time ago not to anticipate anything physical happening on first dates, so I purposely didn't have any "protection" handy. Her exact words were "Don't worry, you don't need any protection from what I'm going to give you, but I do have condums." I told her that I was going to quote her on that one when I wrote about it in the blog. (I TOLD YOU I WOULD)

So now what do I do? I've come prepared to talk and get to know her, she came prepared to get busy. That's a switch. When did the nature of the chase make a 180 degree spin? Where have I been? Better yet, where has she been all my life?

She told me that she hadn't always been this way. That she was tired of being chased by dogs and started chasing cats herself. She said it only took a couple of feline scratches for her to realize that cats can be even more vicious than dogs, only unprovoked. I told her that I completely understood and still had some visible scars from previous swipes to prove my empathy.

I told her she didn't need to extend her claws in my direction, that I was perfectly willing to be pet as long as she didn't try to put a leash on me. That's exactly when I begun to see them poke out.

Now I explained to her that it was nothing for her to take personally. I have no fear of committment, I just don't feel they are necessary if the relationship is built on trust and honesty in the first place. My opinion is that people ask for committments when they are insecure about the other's capability of maintaining desire. Then when the infatuation dies down as it always does, the parties share a disappointing let down that requires that committment to bandage the insecurity and co-dependance.

"Okay, so why don't we just have a good time and see where it goes from there?" I couldn't believe it was her saying it and not me. Then, I felt her claws pulling at my belt. UH OH! She said she's going to write the "Kiss & Tell" portion in her blog for accuracy. (I'm dying to see the way she tells the same story)

Anyway, as she was about to leave, I asked her when I could see her again and she said, "like I said, we'll see where it goes."

I guess its my turn to chase.

Are you chasing anyone?

Is anyone chasing you?

When the chase is over, do you want a leash to be present or not?


oneeroticgal 42M/39F  
207 posts
6/28/2006 9:17 am

no leash for me...the chasing is fun...but only for the first little while...

I must say its nice to have someone you can call up and say...whatcha doin...i'm horny...

And have your needs taken care of ever so passionatley...


rm_blkondemand replies on 6/29/2006 3:29 am:
That sure does sound nice. You must have a book filled with someones like that.

VCF1962 104F

6/28/2006 9:21 am

Am I chasing anyone - only the treasure at the end of that elusive rainbow.

Is anyone chasing me - I sure hope so (cause there are a couple that I would certainly be happy to let catch me !!)

Leash or not - depends on the gentleman they are in public and the dog they are in the bedroom !!!

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!


vjay21 60M
1 post
6/28/2006 9:39 am

It is refreshing to read a good article for a change. I have this feeling that she will be back to see you very soon.


rm_blkondemand replies on 6/29/2006 3:27 am:
Thanks. My fingers are crossed, too.

DIVISION77 39M  
8321 posts
6/28/2006 2:31 pm

"Now I explained to her that it was nothing for her to take personally. I have no fear of committment, I just don't feel they are necessary if the relationship is built on trust and honesty in the first place. My opinion is that people ask for committments when they are insecure about the other's capability of maintaining desire. Then when the infatuation dies down as it always does, the parties share a disappointing let down that requires that committment to bandage the insecurity and co-dependance."

A commitment simply means you are only seeing that one person, and obviously trust and honesty is integral to that.

I don't think people ask for commitment to enslave the other person in a relationship, moreover it's due to the fact that they only want a relationship with that one person.

That is the whole point.

You can't be exclusive with someone while dating other people at the same time, it doesn't work that way.

It sounds to me like you've had some bad experiences with women trying to leash you.

Men don't become leashed unless they allow themselves to be.

I don't believe in the whole chasing routine, those games are for adolescents, not adults.

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


rm_blkondemand replies on 6/29/2006 3:25 am:
Sometimes the challenge of the chase prepares you for the those challenges that you may face in the relationship after the catch.

ArtisticTwist75 41F
2505 posts
6/28/2006 2:41 pm

I'm curious, it's pretty clear what her intentions for the evening were. Did it matter to you or were you just letting her control you?

Artistic


rm_blkondemand replies on 6/29/2006 3:23 am:
It didn't matter to me. I was just going with her flow. As it turned out, being controlled was rather enjoyable in that moment.

TheCliticals 34F/F

6/28/2006 5:51 pm

If she proves to be too fast

Sandy


mickdevil 50M/52F
3496 posts
6/29/2006 4:57 am

    Quoting rm_mzhunyhole:
    I ain't never chased after nobody..my mama taught me never to do that..I reckon I have been chased a few times by those I wasn't wanting..lol...if I want them..I let them catch me.
I swear sometimes her mama and my mama new each other lol

I don't believe in leashes my dog walks with out one


DEVIL


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rm_blkondemand replies on 6/29/2006 5:25 am:
Do you ever walk with other dogs or set up playdates with the neighbor's?

funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
6/29/2006 7:57 am

Hi Mate, saw your comment on the clits and thought Id give support to a fellow blogger!
You can always reciprocate
Now: Am I chasing? Sort of but, not obviously
Am I being chased? Think so, maybe
Leash? With the one I'm chasing ball and chain, and both in the same cell for the duration would be fine! Yup, she blogs An I aint saying


rm_blkondemand replies on 7/1/2006 4:39 am:
Now if you can just get her to read mine.

rm_AnOddGirl 57F
3469 posts
6/29/2006 8:12 am

I kinda like the old hit and run myself!



Odds


runzwithknives 59F

7/1/2006 7:48 am

Won't chase or get in line, but you will know if I'm interested.

Being chased? No don't like games.

No leashes for me or put on anyone else. I have to agree that most times the leash is born of insecurity that manifests in jealousy, posessiveness and control over another. Enslavement is a harsh word but that's what it is just the same.
Can you be committed to one person in a loving, caring, honest and trusting relationship and see others (or have sex with others)? Yes I believe so. The key words are honesty, trust, acceptance, understanding and love.
Example: I have a very close male friend of 8 years. We have slept together a few times in the past. Shared the gift of sex for our (joint) pleasure. Committment? Yes. 100% committed to a loving, caring, honest, trusting relationship. We see others and we are secure in our friendship and our love for each other. It does not detract from feelings I have for my lover(s) or friends, or his lover(s) and friends.
Anyone who can't understand the desire or need to be with others at times, to share sex for the sake of it or the love for that other person, and is threatened is not for me. Thankfully I see a man who understands this about me just as I understand the same about him. We accept each other for who we are. And we are close because of it, not in spite of it. I just don't see having the capacity for loving others as a flaw to be corrected in another or myself.
Great post. Hugs


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