give me a break  

rm_blacksable34 50F
12 posts
5/18/2006 1:14 pm

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give me a break

i thought that i would have met a great guy by now, but i have to say that i have been through a lot of duds. there are so many men out there who want friends with benefits, but not a committed relationship.i love sex as much as anybody..........well, more than most i have to admit, but that is not all there is to life. plus, men say they want a smart woman,, but when they get one, they are intimidated. men also want a sexy woman conceptually, but they can't deal with a woman that other men stop and stare do i know? well, i am just such a woman. men say they love the way i dress(sexy but classy, lots of legs showing and cleavage), but they start trying to change me subtlely.they claim the love my wild hair, but they as me to make it look like other women. i have to say that i am black and date mostly white men, and they expect me to be more of a sistah. i am me. i do not wear hard updos, i do not have greasy hair, and i speak like someone who is eductated, which i am. i also believe that a woman in a committed relationship should be a lady in the streets and a slut in the sheets, but when i find a man i don't intimidate, they are so sedate in bed and tend to find me a bit wild. i either encounter that type or the type that doesn't have a pot to piss in.they drive horrible cars, have no drive or ambition and expect me to live in their trailor. if you want class, then classy comes with certain expectations. i am not materialistic per se, but after my divorce, i moved from a huge house with all the trappings into something smaller, and this is as small as i will go.ladies, feel me here, you suffer together for that first love, that blind passion, but when you look for number two, you don't want to suffer and live off of love like you did when you were younger. i am too old for that now. (40 but look 28 and can prove it).lol in my twenties, it was fine to work together and build something, but if a man reaches my age and has nothing to show for it, then chances are he never will.oh, guys, a big cock does not pay bills, yours or mine. i am self-sufficient and do not need a sugar daddy, but can't you have my nails and toes "did" at least once, take me to the renaissance fair and buy me a poison ring, carry me out for a nice meal instead of sitting at my dining room table all the time,discuss the downfall of the roman civilization, the saracens, and still make me squeal in bed and call you daddy? where are you tristan? where are all the sexy ass NC nerds?

hungry4sex_0123 42M

5/18/2006 2:00 pm

Nope, it doesn't sound like too much to ask for.

I of course have an entirely different perspective than you do in life but all I will say, no, all I will BEG is never change your ideology or idea as it relates to a mate to placate another person. You strike me as an intelligent woman, so you already know this but still, it doesn't hurt to hear it from someone else. I have to as of yet meet a woman who I am "intimidated" by her intellect, truth be told, I love a woman who is sharp of wit and possesses a keen intellect.

I had to smile when I read part of your note regarding men who have tried to subtly change you to fit "their" image. I certainly hope you never change.

any how, I don't want to just go on and on,
but no, I don't think it's too much to ask, I mean it's not like you are asking for the moon on a platter, you're just asking for an honest, intellect, genuine, stable man. We are out there.

spacecadet561 59M

5/18/2006 2:25 pm

You should be able to find someone who suits you in this place. Good luck, happy hunting.


2BNXTC110 52M

5/18/2006 3:06 pm

They live in West, I think that what you ask for is not only reasonable, but you should expect no less. Relax, enjoy the hunt, and remember that you have the power to say no. That for which you search will find you when you least expect.

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