How do I get over my fear and insecurity?  

rm_bicuriousj80 36F
16 posts
11/10/2005 10:12 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

How do I get over my fear and insecurity?


See now that the guy I am dating knows that I need to get my fantasies out of my system in order for me to move on with him and build something how do I go about my fear and insecurities? I so anxiously want to fufill these fantasies but am scared at the same time and insecured of myself that I might not enjoy or please the other individual I am with.

It's been so long since I have had sex I am so rusty and out of shape that it ain't even funny. I am worried that I won't please the person that I am with or get tired quickly. So what should I do about this fear and insecurity that I have floating above me? I want to go out and fufill these fantasies as soon as possible but afaird that if I don't get any help to cope with this problem I have I will never go out and do them.

So if there is anyone who can help me with this I would truly appreciate it. Is this a normal feeling to have? Do many people go through this feeling there first time around?

freetime648 52F

11/10/2005 11:29 pm

Well, what is your fantasy that you have to get out of your system??? I was curious, why can't this guy your are dating be involved with that fantasy? I just do not know alot of info here. But, one thing I do know is, if you are destined to do it...quit worrying about it and just do it. That is always the best way. DOn't think too much..it ruins the moment! Good Luck!


xx FREETIME648 xx


rm_txscorpion 42M
206 posts
11/16/2005 2:17 pm

I agree...try not to worry too much about it. If he understands what you are looking for and is okay with it, then try to enjoy the moment as much as you can. It only becomes a problem when you are being deceiptful and dishonest with him while fulfilling your fantasies.

Good luck in your search. By the way, if you ever come down to the South, let me know. Someone as sexy as you would have a great time out here. Take care.

~The Scorpion King~


rm_bicuriousj80 36F
2 posts
11/25/2005 9:14 pm

Hey thanks for your replies. You guys are right! And thank you for your compliment txscopion.


bigloverboy1969 45M

12/1/2005 1:42 pm

they r all right try to talk to him and see if he want to be part of it and do what u want to doso u can look back and say yea i did that and like it wish u luck


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