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wings of desire
 
diary of an erotic reawakening
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little wing
Posted:Feb 20, 2006 12:57 am
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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Well, she’s walking through the clouds
With a circus mind
That’s running wild
Butterflies and zebras and moonbeams
And fairy tales

That’s all she ever thinks about...

Riding with the wind

When I’m sad she comes to me
With a thousand smiles
She gives to me free

It’s alright, she says,
It’s alright
Take anything you want from me,
Anything

Fly on, little wing

--
(Jimi Hendrix)
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living in truth
Posted:Feb 17, 2006 10:12 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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'the unbearable lightness of being', page 112:

"For Sabina, living in truth, lying neither
to ourselves nor to others, was possible
only away from the public: the moment someone
keeps an eye on what we do, we involuntarily
make allowances for that eye, and nothing we
do is truthful. Having a public, keeping a
public in mind, means living in lies. Sabina
despised literature in which people give
away all kinds of intimate secrets about
themselves and their friends. A man who loses
his privacy loses everything, Sabina thought.
And a man who gives it up of his own free
will is a monster. That was why Sabina did
not suffer in the least from having to keep
her love secret. On the contrary, only by
doing so could she live in truth."

i am a private man and concur so much with that sentiment...

how do you live in truth?
when are you truly free?
free and your true self?
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valentines
Posted:Feb 13, 2006 7:41 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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my a-f-f subscription has ended, right on valentine's
week, how sweet (and symbolic) is that?

i guess i'll continue blogging as long as it's fun,
but the browsing and the searching and the profile
viewing have ended.

i came to this site with certain expectations,
very naive expectations in the light of hindsight.
but i've learned and i've adjusted and i think i can
say that, as long as one maintains an open mind
(at times a *very* open mind!), this can be quite an
interesting and educational experience. it's all
in the attitude and the expectations i guess...

happy valentine's all!

ps: and patience. bring an open mind and lots and
lots of patience!
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can desire create desire?
Posted:Feb 9, 2006 11:36 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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what attracts you to another person?
what attracts you sexually?

what is it that can awaken your erotic lust?
what is it that can stir up genuine passion?

the looks?
the face?
the body?

the way they dress?
the way they move?
the way they smell?

their voice?

the way they think?
the way they feel?

and what about their own attraction to you?
the sheer fact that they want you?
their own desire for you?

can desire create desire?
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an inexplicable shortage of sex
Posted:Feb 5, 2006 11:34 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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there is this fascinating discussion on why people
don't have more sex (see blog link below).

it is looking at it from an "utilitarian", economic
point of view if you wish, so it may feel a little
cold... still - fascinating reading...

i took the liberty to quote freely and shamelessly:
--
To put things short, there is an inexplicable shortage of sex. Given that studies show that women and men enjoy it more than most other activities (on average, not on the margin I'll grant), and given its intrinsically low cost, it appears that even a crude approximation of a utility maximizing person would probably spend much more time having sex than most do.
(Michael Vassar)
--

the answer is by Tyler Cowen, professor of
economics:
--
We need not just reasons, but rather gains-from-trade-defying reasons. I can think of a few:

1. The long-run lifestyle costs of being "more open to sex" involve a loss of integrity and control. (OK, but I know many married couples, not all of whom hate each other, who don't seem to have much sex.)

2. The average utility of sex is high but the marginal utilities are falling off a cliff. You just don't want any more. But how many people are at this margin?

3. Freud was right and we are all repressed. The will is not unitary and the utility-maximizing part is not always in control.

4. There has been a market failure, but the Internet is remedying it. People are having more sex and this will only go up.

5. Sex stops being fun when you do it to close a gap between your marginal utilities. It requires spontaneity or some other quality inconsistent with the classical model of the consumer and the equation of marginal rates of substitution.

6. Sex isn't as much fun as the studies indicate. Perhaps people lie about their quality of their sex or remember only the better experiences.

7. People want their sex to consist of peaks, rather than seeking to maximize lifetime utility. Tom Schelling once told me this is why he did not listen to Bach more.

8. The market-clearing price for more sex is positive, and people feel shame about paying too explicitly; see also #5.

9. We are biologically programmed to "stick to our guns," rather than just kiss and make up; read more here. Or perhaps your wife has read my earlier post on why it is hard to avoid torture.

10. People are having sex in other ways. Maybe that is really good too.

11. Everyone else is having sex all the time -- Michael Vassar simply doesn't know about it.

12. You're all addicted to reading blogs.

My wife's question: "Should you be flattered or insulted that you are considered an expert on this?"
--

and my question - the obvious one, and of course
i forgot to put it in the original post, i apologize! -
is, what do you think?

are people, on average, having too little sex?
or is it just right?
or perhaps even too much?

(you can guess which camp i'm in!)
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reflection
Posted:Feb 5, 2006 11:04 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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potential blog purpose #3 - reflection...

have an idea, a thought, a question...
a revelation, an epiphany...
capture it...
capture that burst of neuron fire...

capture it on your electronic notepad...
broadcast it to the world...
to the fraction of the world following your blog...

remember it...
for yourself...
for them...

what do they say?
what do they think?

what will you think a while from now?...
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entertainment!
Posted:Feb 2, 2006 11:19 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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potential blog purpose #2 - entertainment!

i clearly need to work on this, but please bear
with me, i've just started - still warming up!

just like a novel, or a poem, or the lyrics of
a song, a blog should aim to entertain, at least
a little bit, shouldn't it?

the same message can be carried in such different
ways, but let's face it, the audience wants to be
entertained! and don't we want an audience for our
messages?...
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attention!
Posted:Feb 1, 2006 11:28 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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potential blog purpose #1 - attract attention!
(judging from the profile views suddenly going up...)

did i get yours?...
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what you want but not what you need
Posted:Feb 1, 2006 12:25 am
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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i guess i had the answers in me all the time...

i'm still not sure on the purpose of my blogging
here, but what the heck, it's an experiment. may
its true purpose be eventually revealed!
(to me and you...)

and what would life be without experiments?
without new experiences?...
without exploring?

never stop exploring. never stop being curious.
i guess that's partly why i'm here.

i think i know what i'm looking for, what i want.
but do i really?
and is that really what i need?

what happens "when you get what you want but not
what you need"?... (line taken from coldplay,
fix you)

and how wonderful would it be if the opposite
happened? when you seek what you want, but
find what you need!

dear reader (if any!), please bear with me.
it seems i'm starting off with so many questions
on this blog. but somehow i feel (i hope!) answers
will start emerging - sooner or later...
(for me and you...)

will you stick around?

---
Picture - Jackson Pollock, The Moon-Woman
(why? came up in my image web search using the
blog title, and i liked it!)
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to blog or not to blog
Posted:Jan 30, 2006 12:05 am
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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i've been on this site for some time now,
i've looked around, and browsed, and searched,
and approached, and chatted, and mailed, and
wondered.

wondered...

what's on the other side?
i do not understand the other side.

who are those people really?
who are those women really?
what do they really want?

can this work?
does it work?

just like in life, i've "met" - online - wonderful
people, very few, warm people, interesting people,
intelligent people, sensual people - by mere coincidence,
not by methodical search.

what's the point? (of searching...)

wondering...
and thinking.
learning...
trying to learn.

should i stop searching?
should i start offering my thoughts here?

to what purpose?
to blog or not to blog...
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