I'm gonna hate myself in the morning  

rm_babyboomer26 66M
781 posts
8/8/2006 8:44 pm

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8/27/2006 1:02 pm

I'm gonna hate myself in the morning

So, I was sitting home by myself Sunday afternoon, minding my own business. I had gotten all my chores done and I had just sat down to watch the baseball game on TV. The phone rang. The call was from my ex. She was in the neighborhood to attend a baby shower, the shower was over and would I like to meet her for a drink?

I agreed to meet her at a beach side bar that has outdoor entertainment on Sunday afternoons. We met and had a couple of drinks. Unlike most of the rest of the country right now, there was a nice breeze blowing and it was actually pleasant sitting outdoors listening to a keyboard player and saxophonist playing a bunch of old standards by the beach. The music precluded much conversation, but the atmosphere was very laid back and enjoyable.

So, we decided to go to dinner. Well, I'm sure you know by now where this is heading. Dinner was fine and she didn't leave my place until the next morning.

The worst part is, I must admit this isn't the first time this has happened. We couldn't live together, but we're still best friends. In fact, I tell her about other women I date. But somehow, sex with her is just so comfortable. It's not exciting - it's comfortable! We each know the other's body like the backs of our hands.

Neither of us has any inclination to live with each other ever again. And when I've dated other women, I haven't slept with the ex. But somehow we always seem to end up in bed together one more time.

Have you found yourself in the same situation with an ex? What, if anything, did you do about it?


rm_dimples565 67F
24436 posts
8/9/2006 3:46 pm

Nope I hated my first ex for being so abusive to our sons.

I think its great that you still have a close friendship and can have fun together.

Might fall under the old saying "Can't live with them or without them."

Hey until something else comes along, and your mutual in your get togethers have fun. Better than no sex at all. Even bets Rosie Palm.

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rm_babyboomer26 replies on 8/12/2006 2:32 pm:
Don't knock Rosie. She loves me, after all.

Hydragenias 56F

8/10/2006 5:44 pm

No Way!!! I've NEVER slept with an X. Never have, Never will. Once a person is an X, they remain an X with me. I don't like rollercoasters.

rm_babyboomer26 replies on 8/12/2006 2:33 pm:
How are you with merry-go-rounds?

rm_sexxikritter 52F
2715 posts
8/10/2006 6:22 pm

As long as you and the ex are comfortable about it, then it's all good.
I did the "one more time, for old time's sake" thing with my son's father. It was a mistake and one I won't repeat. The hurt he had inflicted and that I thought I was over, resurfaced. Then I had to go over all the healing once more. Not a good thing for me.

rm_babyboomer26 replies on 8/12/2006 2:36 pm:
One more time is one thing. One more time per week, quite another. *sigh*

Fox4aKnight1 43F

8/11/2006 4:20 pm

I have with an ex bf .....it was a case of familiar and for me it was a huge help. At the time I was not feeling comfortable with even the thought of lovers w/out them at least being a bf, so i went back to my ex for some fun... He was kinda enthusastic about it as I recall ...mostly cause he felt the same way I use to about lovers and so on.

rm_babyboomer26 replies on 8/12/2006 2:35 pm:
Yeah, and it's so easy too.

Hydragenias 56F

8/12/2006 4:57 pm

Merry-go-rounds make me dizzy.........rollercoasters make me vomit, LOL

redrobin012057 59F

8/21/2006 4:50 pm

EEEuuuuwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww ya kidding me boomer, right?I wouldn't touch my ex with a 50foot barge pole.I am not comfortable in his presence full stop.

rm_babyboomer26 replies on 8/27/2006 1:01 pm:
Sometimes a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do. It ain't always pretty.


SensuousWoman3 55F
3106 posts
8/27/2006 5:37 am

I’ve never been married, but for years I did the ex-boyfriend and didn’t think a thing about it. We still got along, met for drinks sometimes, met up or went to mutual friend’s parties together, whatever, we just weren’t a couple. And you’re right—it was just easy and comfortable and a good little tune-up---one of the few, real true NSA things I’ve ever been involved with. I’ve met several of his girlfriends and liked all of them and vice-versa.

About 5 years back however, I just got bored with the sex, probably because he hasn’t evolved much as a person and I am just plain bored with him. It doesn’t stop him from asking but, unfortunately, I can’t see that happening again, which is a bummer, it was a good NSA gig. There are occasions I still sleep in the same bed with him, but no more scronking. It’s a pity.

Hey, if it works that well with your ex from time to time, who cares? It works for her, it works for you, it’s a win-win thing. Neither one of you are hurting anybody. Big deal! If that is your ex in the picture you have posted, she is very pretty! Don't worry about it---it's a good thing!

rm_babyboomer26 replies on 8/27/2006 1:02 pm:
Actually yes, that is a picture of her. But don't tell Rosie or she'll scratch her eyes out.


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