Help! I've been "Wunked" and I Can't Get Back!  

rm_b2dnar 61M
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6/19/2006 2:10 pm

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Help! I've been "Wunked" and I Can't Get Back!

It is a widely substantiated fact that men refuse to stop and ask for directions.

We don't read instruction manuals (usually written in Chinese, anyway).

Can't demean ourselves by asking how to do something (especially if it means asking a Woman!)

But I'm gonna break the male stereotype and
"Run up the White Flag!"

I've been winked at ("wunked) but have absolutely no idea as to how to contact this person, save the reciprocal wink.

It is my understanding that this person does not maintain a blog here - so that avenue is out.

As as Standard member, I cannot initiate an e-mail - Correct?

Have checked, but to this point, have not seen - or caught- this person in chat or on IM.

I am throwing myself on the "Mercy of the Court," abandoning all my male "I can do this all by myself" self esteem and asking.

Yes - let me re-state this - I am asking for guidance. What's a Guy to do? (And how do I do it?)

Now I know there are any number of "straight lines" this query opens itself up to. But, trust me, this is a sincere request and I would genuinely like to respond to this person - but (as he coughs up the last remaining bastion of male ego) I don't know how to do it!

Any assistance would be greatly appreciated.

B2 Out

VCF1962 104F

6/19/2006 2:59 pm

Does she post on the advice lines ? If so, you could always leave a message there. I know you'll get flamed for it, but then they're only words !

Course the other option would be to stump up some cash !

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!

VCF1962 104F

6/19/2006 3:02 pm

Have you been into her profile ? I can get into yours and the boxes aren't greyed out so I can mail you.

Also, you can earn points by posting piccies and answering advice lines and posting there too.

Think you need 200 points for a message

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!

PineyFolks 58M/59F

6/19/2006 3:06 pm

All I know that you can do is wink back and hope they will respond to you by email. You are correct you cannot send an initial email. Good luck. Maybe someone else has some new ideas.


rm_b2dnar 61M

6/19/2006 3:20 pm

VCF - Yep - I could see the "stump up some cash" comment coming a mile away. You're right,of course - but this is part of the "challenge!"

I am unable to get into her profile - and she is a gold member. I do not know if it was a quirk of the system or not, but for a while it was hit or miss in being able to access a profile. What tirggered my ability to do so is beyond me. Perhaps it was just a quirk.

Last time I checked my point count was 300. I just checked and its now at Zero. Perhaps anouther quirk. I had checked on this a while ago and was understood it would take 1000 points to send a message. I'll have to re-check that one.

For now, it appears that my best approach is to become the resident "wunker."

Thanks for the input! -B2

rm_b2dnar 61M

6/19/2006 3:24 pm

Well - I'll be darned. 200 pts to send an e-mail Thanks VCF!

I guess (he slowly musters the gumption to admit his own ignorance) it really does pay off to ask for help. Especially from a Lady!

Oh yeah, got my point count back!


VCF1962 104F

6/20/2006 8:40 am

Well didja do it ? Didja, didja ??

Tell, tell, tell !

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!

VCF1962 104F

6/20/2006 8:40 am

PS - Only a lady when out in public !

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!

657 posts
6/20/2006 8:15 pm

If you go to your account setting and check on buy or redeem points it should tell you (if it is even possible) how many points it will take to send an e-mail. I am trying to think of another way unless she has it to where standard members can e-mail her. I don't know how it works all the way, sorry couldn't be more help my friend.


rm_b2dnar 61M

6/21/2006 7:22 am

VCF - Well - Looks like we brought out a bit of your "voyeur" side, did we? LOL

Yes - after you so kindly educated me on the ability to "buy an e-mail for 200 points," I began to craft the appropriate prose. After all, if I'm going to invest my "hard earned points" in a single e-mail, I didn't wish to waste them on mindless drivel. I felt that this was probably a one-shot deal - and I wanted to word-smith it in such a way as to elicite the information I was after, in a Gentlemanly fashion, of course!

Then something quite odd occurred. While cruising around the site, I happened to click upon a member's handle and, much to my amazement, was taken to their profile. I've done this countless times and have been taken to the Upgrade to Contact" page. But on occasion, I get to the profiles, as in this case. What the triggering event was, I have not a clue! But I digress.

Once I realized I could view a profile ( feeling somewhat like those guys in the Budwiser commercial - the ones who have the "magic fridge" appear in their apartment at an unknown frequency) I immediately went to this person's profile. And I discovered a fair amount of discontinuity in our wants and desires. Hummm

That suspended my prose-crafting for a bit, while I attempted to determine the answer to a couple of questions. (Nothing like a good old argument with one's self. Occasionally I win a few of those!)

I ended up with the position that there is obviously something that caused the inbound "wink.' She had viewed my profile - and therefore should have had a idea of me - and why I'm here. Heck, today I even ended up on her hotlist. I have this sense, as I am quite sure applies to many here, that what they have placed in their profile as to "wants" may not be the representation of their deep-down wants and desires. They may not even know what the extent of their desire is - until an unforeseen situation presents itself.

So it's back to the Big Chief Tablet to re-compose that e-mail.

Have I sent it? No

Am I going to send it? Absolutely

Ok, then, When? When I have crafted an "appropriate" response - and query, suited to the situation.

I hold firmly to the premise that "knowledge is power" and now, having been afforded the opportunity to read her profile and, thus, gain a short glimpse into her life, I feel much better prepared to make to contact. But I also feel that what is being sought- from her perspective - is somewhat different that what resides in her profile. Time will tell on this one.

VCF - Thank you for your interest! And your assistance! Rest assured I'll keep you posted on the "Days of Our Lives" as they unfold!

Ya'll take care, now, Ya Hear!

B2 out

rm_b2dnar 61M

6/21/2006 3:08 pm

VCF - Well it's composed -------and sent!

Now we'll just sit back and see what happens. (And No, I'm not holding my breath! At my age, I can't do that too long anyway!!)

Thanks for your guidance - and spurring!

B2 out

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