Why cant men just be honest ?  

rm_areutheeone 50F
51 posts
3/22/2006 5:44 pm

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Why cant men just be honest ?

This is dedicated to Rudy310, and a few of you other assholes out there who I have met in the past. You will know if you fit into this category or not!

Why is it so freaking hard to be honest with someone. Just because you are on this site does not mean you have to lie or be cheap and disgusting. There are some very normal, intelligent and attractive women who actually love sex, pleasing and being pleased! If you meet me, dont like my personality or my looks, tell me and leave. I have done it before and I will do it again because I am honest and if there is no connection, there just isnt one..you cant make it happen. Dont BS and say how honest you are and that you arent like all the other guys, because you are. "Im looking for exactly the same thing you are" is also a good one.

Im not gullible, I guess I am just too trusting of people. My ex husband and I didnt have the greatest sex life, but he was a good, honest, respectable person. It seems, however, that I cant find a decent, honest man who likes sex as much as I do. And I dont just mean for a booty call or a one night stand. My profile is very clear about what I am looking for...if you dont fit, dont email me, just leave me alone.

So men, just be honest. There are lots of women on here who just want to fuck you and never see you again. That is not what I am wanting. If it was, I would be on Whores are Us instead of AdultFriendFinder! If you want a quick fuck...dont wink at me, dont communicate with me, cause I dont want to meet you! Dont lie..just be honest. There are a lot of things in life that I believe in, and the biggest one is that how you treat people will come back to you. Unfortunately, there are some people who have some terrible crap coming their way. I may not be around to see it, but feel certain it will happen.

hourglasses 47F

3/22/2006 6:09 pm


Sadly, I have a similar experience that I was thinking of writing about, but I don't think I could say it any better.

wildoats19622 54M
3483 posts
3/22/2006 6:47 pm

what goes around comes around. If ya tell the truth ya don't have to remember what ya lied about.

Whores R Us? I don't believe I've visited that site. Sounds interesting.

I came here from the most recent list. Good luck finding what you want.


Crosswords increase your vocabulary. Cross words increase your blood pressure.

gr8_1nbed2 46M

3/28/2006 6:05 pm

There's a lot of people in this world that live on lies. I try not to lie, not even a little white lie. Like wild oats said if you lie at some point you'll lose track of the lies. I have never met anyone from this site evn though I have been asked. It's scary to meet a complete stranger for the first time. Even if you have talked to them via email. I met someone from a chat room once. It was lind of wierd at first but it was cool by the end of the day. I hope you get away from the bad guys and can find a good one but so many people lie today. best wishes

TheRomanticUncle 55M

4/3/2006 6:21 pm

Unfortunately there are guys that seem to make it their life’s work to make it hard on the rest of us. Don't be discouraged there are plenty of "good guys" out there. What sucks is the process you have to go through to weed them out. Something tells me they are the one that should be walking around with a big “L” on their foreheads. I’m sorry that most women seem to get sour from this type of guy. But PLEASE don’t label all guys Assholes. I’d like to believe that those who have lied have missed out on something special that only 2 people can share.

2sweetnipples 51F
191 posts
4/23/2006 11:01 am

Why cant men just be honest ? - I am right there with you areutheone! As we go through life, we've gotta use the gift God gave to us - "woman's intuition"! ~~ However, its not always up to par either! ~ Unfortunately, (and this is for those men who are for real, and are genuine and honest and truthful, etc.!) there are many woman who give us real good woman a bad name too! ~~ So, to all who are the compulsive users and liars ~ get a life, just know that what comes around will certainly come back around and bite your ass!
To all those who are real and honest ~ best of luck to you all!

JusLooking03 53M

4/26/2006 5:46 am

People see lying (and rationalize it) as a means to an end. Lying, as a general rule, is put in play to cover some sort of inadequacy. If a man will lie to you to get in your pants, it would most likely be because he is not confident enough in who he is and puts the lies in play to mold for you an image of who he wishes he was (and feels you want him to be)and not who he is. All in the attempt to achieve his end result. These same people generally lie to themselves all day every day and wind up using the lies to rationalize behavior...ok...too psycho-analytical..lol

And you are right...it will ALWYAS come back and get them at some point...it's just a matter of time. And I do believe in karma...

Above all...don't take their lies too personally and don't take them to heart. Their lies are attempts at covering their lack of self esteem and bolster their own ego. Reality is, it is no slight on you...and actually (in a twisted way) a compliment to you! They feel inadequate and the only way to get to you is through lies covering their perceived faults!

No, all men are not assholes. But the few that are make it real tuff for the rest of us. Especially on a site like this, I live by the rule of being as upfront as possible, so that both parties know the playing field. The information that is important should be known by both parties, but not necessarily a complete and thorough, day by day resume and history...lol. If you ask, I will tell...only if I feel like I can trust you with information I feel is sensitive or pertainent to our building trust. Your profile clearly states what you are all about and THAT is quite refreshing. (ok, as I type this all I can think about is running my tongue up the crack of your ass in that one pic )Hey, at least I am upfront about it!

Keep weeding and don't settle...but don't sell us short either. There are a number of us out here who are fun and respect women and their wants/needs. And look forward to spend any amount of allowed time with a woman as attractive, intelligent and sensual as yourself!

And yes, over the hood of the car would be great

rm_Creamloads4U 57M

4/29/2006 8:17 pm

I tottally agree with you, and I'll take it one step farther. I and my late wife have had a profile on here for over 7 years, we always...ALWAYS looked passed the outer person and looked at the person within. My wife was very good at this and she loved making new friends and loved treating all as if they were family. She judged NO ONE...!

Since her death from her 4 year battle with cancer, I have changed the profile to show just me and every eord of it is true. We both always told the truth, were very open-minded and very upfront. But, we found out that alot of others...males yes, but females and couples, all told one thing and turned out to be something tottally different. Some ever out and out lied about themselves just to get to meet us. This was couples, females and yes, males.....

As I was saying, I am the sole owner of the profile now and it is much worse than when it was she and I as a couple. This time, it is all females and couples, as they are the ones I'm looking for as friends,playmates,whatever....

I have had to put up an update today stateing that I am no longer looking to meet anyone.....! I am so tired of the endless email tags, the "we are free this weekend, meet us here at this time", only to get there and they not even bother to show up...this has happened 3 times with the same couple and they had my cel # and could have called letting me know something...but later,I'd get another email saying that they were sorry, it was a mistake, we will plan another time...just to have it done again...

Couples aren't the only ones, females that have emailed me wanting to meet have been just as bad. One even called me a few times and after telling me how good she loved being spanked, choked, tied up, cum shot all over her face, in her mouth and so on, had the gual to tell me that she didn't think I was right for her just because I like the taste of my own cum....! DAMNIT...THIS IS AN ADULT WEBSITE....PLEASE, ACT LIKE IT.......!

I am not anything like the men you wrote about, I AM VERY HONEST...VERY OPEN...and I AM NOT INTO ANY KIND OF HEADGAMES FROM ANYONE.........! At this point in my life, the most important thing to me is gone, I will never get her back, not on this earth...so I really don't care to know anyone that things they were better than her...as I said...SHE JUDGED NO ONE.......unlike others on here seem to do to fit their needs.....you all could take a few lessons from her....

rm_Creamloads4U 57M

4/29/2006 8:22 pm

Let me ask you "Ladies" that have posted here....who among you as always told the truth to someone on here.....think about it...have you always been honest with the guys that have emailed or IMed you...?

Doc_68 48M  
8 posts
5/5/2006 7:03 am

Hey now... Come on, lying is not gender specific. Women do it too. Most of them refer to it as manipulation or "change of heart". Our lies are just different from one anothers. Men tell you what you want to hear and quite honestly, most of the time, we want to believe it too. I want the whole package; wife, children, softball, picnics. So we meet a woman we are attracted to physically so we take a shot. Is she the one? Over time we weigh the goods and the not so goods, as women do. Then we make decisions based upon our findings. Where men differ to some extent is that we have a harder time telling you what it is about you that we didn't like, giving you the oppurtunity to change, if possible. We simply close up and fade away. Not to be harmful, we in our own screwed up way, don't want to be hurtful to you and tell you what we don't like. Women on the other hand, simply find out what it is about the physically attractive man that they don't like and start to change him. Most men are receptive to changes made by an attractive woman. Especially if she thinks the shoes look better or we really do know it's impolite to belch at the dinner table... Some men and women are simply "prowlers", meaning on the hunt, or out for kicks. But you can spot them a mile away. If we are up front with our intent from the start and utilize restraint, it's easy to protect yourself. Don't sleep with me if you don't want to, if I like you the way you want to be liked, I'll wait. If not, I'll move on, no lying, no deceit, no hurt feelings. Good luck in your searches, and remember, we all make choices. Most of us have been out of high school for quite some time and maybe just need to tune in our "BS" radars a little. We can't have mindless, carefree sex if we really want to care...

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