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The whisper of wind...
The whisper of wind...
How to give a good blowjob .
There are tons of manuals, treatises, books, etc. on how to orally satisfy your partner. Each says basically the same thing.
How complicated could it be, really? The language is pretty clinical, too. Bo-ring!
So here’s a real life guide to giving him a fabulous blow job.
Fellatio, n. (fell-lay-she-o) To stimulate the penis orally.
It’s the art of sucking dick, in other words. Fortunately for us humans, giving pleasure is more of an instinct than an art that must be learned, per se.
A Delicate Balance
To give fellatio, you must be in charge yet submissive at the same time. It’s a delicate balance and one that is often overlooked. You're in balance when you are in control of what you're doing to your partner’s penis, yet still, you are able to kneel at his feet and, in essence, worship his erect cock.
There’s a perceived degradation in many cultures and societies of the person giving fellatio. Whether it’s a man or a woman being degraded is irrelevant. On the other hand, in a situation where you have the freedom to choose whether or not to do it, fellatio can be an amazing, beautiful and intensely pleasurable sex act.
Fellatio means different things for everyone – it may have negative connotations, or be an statement of love and trust, or simply function as a kinky prelude to other types of sex.
Oh Baby, Let Me!!
The man who is receiving oral sex, whether he be gay, straight or otherwise sexually oriented, is still a man. As such his main concern is that you, the giver, be into the idea of sucking his dick. Just like with all sex, show some enthusiasm and it’ll go a long way. This could be the single most important lesson in dick-sucking.
The question most often asked by women is this, “Is he enjoying it?” Just like anyone, women want to know that their efforts are appreciated. So men, please let us know!
Contrary to popular opinion, there is no set of standards for giving good head, except perhaps the seemingly obvious “don’t use teeth” rule. If you are having trouble with this one, simply wrap your lips around your teeth to avoid hurting him.
The best technique for fellatio is when you are paying attention to his responses. You can be very technically proficient, but if you’re not paying attention, your lover won't be satisfied.
For example, some men love sloppy blow jobs, with lots of saliva and slobbering noises. Other men are totally repulsed by this. Don’t assume that your man is one or the other. Ask.
Gauge His Responses
You can also just gauge his responses. First, the man receiving a blow job is not going to react the same way a woman receiving oral sex would. His orgasm is not necessarily as dependent on oral sex as hers. But rapid breathing, moving around, hip thrusting, putting his hand on your head, those are pretty good signs.
Another thing. Even if you are shy about communicating, you should be able to squeeze out an “I really like sucking your dick!” This kind if flattery wins big points if you are sincere about it.
Find the Frenulum
There is a sensitive area known as the frenulum. It’s shaped like a triangle, located on the underside of his penis. If you’re kneeling in front of him, lift his penis so it points to the sky and right up near the tip, you’ll see it. Often the skin is a slightly different color there.
Learn to love the frenulum. Lick and tease it with the tip of your tongue. Slowly take the penis head into your mouth and move your tongue around a bit. Do not stop when he starts moaning. Keep going. If he tries to move your head or starts moving around a lot, look up at him, go down a bit further. Again, do not stop. After a while you can start on the frenulum again. Repeat the process.
Don’t Just Use Your Mouth
If he has a penis on the large side, don’t be afraid to use your hands to encircle and stroke the base of his penis. Cover the entire thing up, be creative. This is why men like deep throat. You don’t have to gag to get that effect.
Use your hands, a Pocket Pussy, your mouth for just a brief time. If it’s smaller, rejoice because your job is all that much easier, honey! Plus, you can still use all the tricks listed here.
Look at Him
When you’re not engrossed in licking and sucking him, which you should be most of the time, look up at him and make eye contact. Men love that.
Don’t Stop, Baby!
Don’t stop at the penis. Lick his balls, suck them gently, stroke and lick the perineum (between anus and balls) and even stroke and lick the anus if you are into it, using safe sex practices of course.
It’s Not a Penis, It’s Dessert
Many women and gay men report that imagining the penis as a lollipop or an ice cream cone makes it very enticing. The fact of the matter is, if you’ve ever eaten an ice cream cone with any enthusiasm, you could suck a dick with the pros.
Spit or Swallow?
If you are neither experienced nor bold enough to raise your head during the act and announce, “Don’t come in my mouth!” then make your boundaries clear before you start sucking.
If he does come in your mouth: You can get up and spit it out, you can swallow and shudder, or you can kick his ass. It’s your choice.
Some women love to swallow, so men, you can help by making sure you know you’re with a swallower before you come!
Also, please do not forget about safe sex. STDs can be transmitted through oral sex of all types.
Is your mouth too small for your lover’s penis? This is actually a very common problem and causes strife between lovers who are in all other ways physically compatible.
Oral Sex Potions
When it comes to potions for enhancing a blow job, there are so many it’s actually quite ridiculous. Here are X-or’s tried and tested best picks.
For an amazing tingly-cool sensation that makes whatever you’re doing with your mouth that much better, X-or’s Good Head Blow Job Gel is a must-try.
Kama Sutra’s Oil of Love creates a hot sensation when rubbed on the penis. Put some on, rub and it gets hot. Lick and blow and it becomes cool. It’s entirely edible and X-or has all the good flavors. The only thing to beware of is this: Some men do dislike this feeling, so it’s wise to do a patch test first.
Hopefully, now you too believe that nobody should shun a blow job. Done properly and thoughtfully, fellatio can give intense sensation to both partners, increase trust, and charge your sex life with a healthy new energy.
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