Discretion v  

rm_allurable 56M
9 posts
2/28/2006 11:41 pm

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4/6/2007 8:42 am

Discretion v

I am a firm believer in what I call "relationship monogamy" rather than the traditional approach of "all encompassing monogamy".

If we assume love, sex and relationship are inexorably tied as a unit we fail to see that this approach fails to acknowledge our inherent humanness.

It's cultural to be monogamous, not biological which is what causes our modern day dilemmas. We feel the "urges" and sometimes allow them to take precedence in our decisions.

Ok we have sex or flirt or play up when we shouldn't. If we constantly act on those urges and not communicate with a partner this leads to the deception we find prevalent in many discreet relationships.

rm_fnqangell 50F
5 posts
3/24/2007 5:32 am

A relationship should not prevent you growing as a person. Neither emotionally, physically nor spiritually. As long as communication is involved to a high degree there should not be an issue as far as i can see...

bigfatcock_cairn 50M/48F

10/30/2006 3:40 am

It's usually the deception involved in an affair that causes most of the problems not the sex, agree with you 100% allur and vampii

rm_personalvibe 46M
10 posts
10/22/2006 5:03 am

Nobody likes being decieved

rm_missvampii 43F

3/3/2006 8:29 pm

I have always believed that trust is more important than being with just one partner. If you trust that person, then you know that they will always return to you. What they experience along the way can only enrich your relationship and open new worlds for you both. Communication is the key - if you can't communicate openly with each other, you are destined to have secrets which will undermine it all.

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