For the gals........ You want to know why guys??  

rm_Trillogy 59M
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5/24/2006 2:12 pm

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5/31/2006 3:35 pm

For the gals........ You want to know why guys??

Remember these are generalizations. They are not pointed at you. Nor do I feel all people think this way, just a lot of them. Keep that in mind as you read. So, don't get mad and say I don't think that way. Heck, I don't think this way either, but it seems a pretty good generalization.

A lot of women ask why men write them, say "let's fuck" and enclose a photo and that's about it.

The problem is the name and nature of the site. So many men of all ages are more literal than women. The advertisement of "Worlds largest sex site" and "get laid tonight" means sex to them. And, to them, that is literal. To them, you are here to have sex and if they look right, they figure you will have sex with them.

I know this sounds funny, but it is truly the literal workings of the male mind. To them it is the physical, get down and grunt kind of sex. It has nothing to do with the mind. It is just the get together, do it, then leave with a "thank you, that was great" thing.

For women, sex is not the literal physical act. It is the whole ambience and mood of love making. It is the flowers, dinners, playful laughter, trust and emotional investment. The physical act of sex is the seal of the bond developed between the two people.

Women come to this site, see the word "sex" and think of the whole romantic involvement leading up to sex. They are disappointed when what they get are "dick pictures" and "wanta fuck" notes in their mailboxes. The guys come to the site, see "get laid tonight", think of the physical act of sex and are disappointed when they send out the "dick pictures" and "wanta fuck" note and never receive an answer. They both come away frustrated and disappointed.

Men and women think differently. It's as simple as that. Neither one is wrong. The definitions are just different on sex. So, who wins? Nobody, except the site perhaps. Women end up turning to blogging and other activities, men leave the site, only to be replaced by 10 more.

Some women ask for the "mature" men (that's us old guys) to teach the younger men some manners and how to write a "proper" letter. And, I ask myself, you want us to teach the younger men how to write to women? Are you crazy? With the ratio of men to women on this site, there is no way I am going to give my "competition" help. Remember the competitive side of men? Yep, it's very much there. And, so many women are looking for "eye candy", the young guys that know little about how to please a woman. And, they expect us to help these guys? No way.

So, if you want young men to learn, you women are going to have to teach them. The rest of us don't want the competition.

catseyes23 61F

5/24/2006 6:12 pm

Very well said. I can understand your point about the competition. Of course you wouldn't want to help the younger ones.


rm_Trillogy replies on 5/25/2006 3:23 am:
You know what? The funny part is, I would actually like to help them, in a way. But, it's simply not in my best interests at this time. Perhaps when I find "the one". Whoever that might be. Then I will be secure enough to lend a few words of encouragement.

LustyTaurus 48M  
21253 posts
5/27/2006 2:50 pm got balls putting this out there and I mostly agree with you...except for the part where a woman takes the time to try and educate a guy and he continues in his wayward ways...oh well, makes some of us look a little more appealing I guess, which is a good thing.

Good post, I enjoyed that.


rm_Trillogy replies on 5/28/2006 2:58 am:
I'm glad you stopped by. I also posted this in the online magazine. A lot of women ask about why some guys write the way they do, so I thought I would give my impression.

Again, thanks for stopping.

rm_spunky5112 69F
16 posts
5/28/2006 5:59 pm

hummm..yes.punkin you are right..most gals are turned off by the "nasty" talk..and some dicks pics are funny as compared to attractive type..must say though evenat my age..some dick pics arouse me.. but have found out to read between the lines of a message..and some young types are getting it!! while spme older types still give the same-o pitch..appeal to a gal's mind too..a few kind words will get the honey..meow..dang you are a good looking guy!i like a pic with attitude!..spunky kisses

rm_Trillogy replies on 5/29/2006 12:28 pm:
spunky, always good to see you stop by. Thanks for your comments.

complexlysimple 34M

5/29/2006 7:59 am

Well, I have to agree there are more than a few generalizations there ... women - sex being more than the literal act?? -that really depends on the situation and maturity of the woman involved well as what the guy looks like...

I think it boils down to being honest with yourself -for both men and women- and with others ...and that seems to take either age, or a rough life to learn...

Just my thoughts though ...oh and I'd definitely agree that a great many guys would like a LTR. I think the problem is they have either been hurt, or think they need to act like "guys" because society/media tells them they should.... getting a one to admit that though....

rm_Trillogy replies on 5/29/2006 12:31 pm:
I agree with you, these are very broad generalizations and don't fit everyone. Lots of different folks out there and we are all unique. I'm glad you could stop by CS

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