Do you feel society is becoming more selfish?  

rm_Trillogy 59M
103 posts
5/31/2006 3:51 pm

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Do you feel society is becoming more selfish?

Is it just me or do any of you feel that society as a whole is becoming more and more "me" oriented?

It seems to me that more and more people are not willing to do anything that is simply for the general public good. There has to be something in it for them. It seems that people are less forgiving, less tolerant of views other than their own and far more likely to be rude than in the past.

I have sometimes had people literally run, pushing their cart to get in line at the grocery store before I do. Or a sale clerk gives them back to much change, and they later brag about making money on the purchase. Or people bump into you and then look at you as if you did something.

It goes on and on. Even in relationships, of any kind, be it friendship or lovers or whatever, people are not willing to work at it. If something upsets them, they walk away. It can be the smallest of things and they are willing to give up.

Why is this? What is happening to us?

complexlysimple 34M

5/31/2006 6:50 pm

Sometimes I wonder if there isn't a cycle to culture ..alternating from one extreme to another ...Roaring 20's to The Great Depression to Free Love of the 70's .. I'm not sure I haven't been alive that long ... it just seems ...logical(?) .. somehow..

rm_Trillogy replies on 5/31/2006 8:31 pm:
You could be right CS. It's hard to say, but it does seem that a lot things run that way.

redrobin012057 60F

6/1/2006 10:45 pm

If I told you what I thought, you would never believe me any way.

rm_Trillogy replies on 6/2/2006 4:14 am:
I don't know Robin, you are usually right, much as that hurts, lol.

rm_verriberri 79F
1849 posts
6/2/2006 7:18 pm

I like complexlysimple's comment - it may interest you to note that this is not simply an American phenomenon, even though that may be where 'we' feel it most acutely. I also see it in Korea... strange because it is a classic example of a collective culture, where the default should always be to the group and not the individual, so when I see here the sort of egocentrism that is so common in the west it is even more 'shocking' in a way. I believe that it moves in waves of prosperity and the nurturing of children.. parents who work hard wanting more for their progeny, and expecting less of them to get it.. it may play out in different ways, but I believe it is based on what people expect to contribute in order to receive the reward.

People behave a certain way because the social stigma against it lightens... interesting post. -v

rm_Trillogy replies on 6/3/2006 5:28 am:
When you say, "People behave a certain way because the social stigma against it lightens......", I feel that is the main thing.

We as a society accept this kind of behavior. If we accept it, then we tend to live it. I don't like it.

Thanks for the comment, a good one.

seven679 56M/F

6/3/2006 12:42 pm

Deeper the dark-
(pendulum moves)
brighter the light-
feeling infinite
interaction of cycles
tells me I'm alive.

rm_Trillogy replies on 6/3/2006 3:09 pm:
Hi seven. I don't like the extremes of the pendulum.

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