Many Hats, Many Faces  

rm_TappyTibbins 40M
49 posts
5/12/2005 12:26 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Many Hats, Many Faces

Hello again, dear readers

Every time I am about to head out to a job interview or on a date (which, in the case of the former, thankfully hasn't happened in a while and, in the case of the latter, unfortunately hasn't happened in a while either), one of my well-intentioned friends always provides me with the same wonderful pearl of wisdom, "Just be yourself." It's good advice. I just wish I knew what the hell it meant.

I've been hearing it all my life, "Just be yourself," as though everyone else in the world is in on some kind of secret that was never taught me, that through sheer force of will I could somehow turn myself into Jude Law, and they want to caution me against such extravagance. Don't worry, I'll be myself. I didn't know I had the option.

Resigned years ago to "being myself," the immediate dilemma was in deciding which "myself" to be in any given circumstance. I mean, who the heck am "I" anyways?

Don't get me wrong, this is no moment of existential crisis. I am intimately familiar with many of the different sides of my personality. I know that at times I have been a gentleman, at other times a thug. I have been kind and cruel and spiritual and vacuous. And just like you can never step into the same river twice because the water is constantly flowing, as time flows by I am not the same person from moment to moment. I am certainly not the same person as I was 15 years ago, or 5 years ago, or 5 weeks ago, 5 days ago. The person writing these words now is not the same person who started this blog entry 5 minutes ago, or the person who wrote the last sentence 5 seconds ago.

This does not mean that I have no sense of my identity, but rather that I am aware that my idea of "self" is in need of constant updating. The next time I go out on a first date, I will "be myself" again, and I look forward to meeting not one person for the first time that night, but two.


Next: Archimedes, Part 1


Author's note: My readership, while thankfully still plural, seems to be declining rapidly. I would simply like to take a moment to again thank all of you who do take a moment and read these random thoughts. Keep letting me know what you think, and I'll read you all again soon!

rm_morefutility 37F
175 posts
5/12/2005 7:28 pm

That's hilarious. Jude Law would be a lovely choice though.....Keep blogging!

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
5/13/2005 12:57 am

IMO self is just a construct and you can construct anything the hell you want from it...

better job interview advise, in my experience, is act like you got the job already and you're just ironing out the details of exactly how you're gonna do it.

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