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In the beginning....
In the beginning....
... there was the word, and the word was made flesh and dwelled among us....
That word is "sex." Well, around here it seems to be for the most part.
This all started for us several months ago. Restarted I should say, we had done some exploring before we had our first child and have been inactive since. Those first forays into multiple relationships were up and down, we had some great times and some tough times, but we're still here, still together, and still deeply committed to each other.
So a few months ago my wife decided to go online and start chatting with folks. Really a year ago, but just recently she decided she wanted it to be more then just idle conversation. She wanted to reexamine fantasies and possibilities, sensual needs that she didn't always feel she could explore with me. Submission and Domination.
Who am I to complain about being open in our marriage? It was still a bit of a shock, I had thought she no longer had any interest. We've talked and talked and talked since then, and the one thing I will say is that this has brought us infinitely closer, made us painfully aware of how much we need and love each other, and given a huge boast to our sex life *smile*. And so we move forward, taking each step carefully, looking for the right folks for each of us to explore with. All with an eye towards bringing this back together in the future, her and I sharing all fantasies and desires as one.
I must say, though, as a "single" man, it's difficult to find anyone to explore with. A woman has a much easier time, her profile(s) on various locations have been viewed hundreds and hundreds of times and she's had dozens of winks and hotlist adds and emails from potential suitors. In the meantime, I've written dozens of letters and attempted to show my interest hundreds of times and have had a small handful of replies (thank you to all who have taken the time, I really appreciate it and look forward to getting to know some of you better soon *smile). But none of that is surprising, men are a dime a dozen and women few and far between. I'm sure there's also some concern that my marriage isn't really "open", even though I clearly say it is. So I'll soldier on and continue to hope to find people I can explore my own needs and desires with an eye towards continual renewal and balance with the love of my life at home.
So this is day one of my "sexual" blog. Let's see if I bother with a day two. Thoughts or comments are welcome of course.
11/30/2005 3:22 am
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