Naked Eyes - Promises, Promises  

rm_TallPAGuy73 43M
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2/5/2006 11:37 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Naked Eyes - Promises, Promises

...why make them if you're not going to keep them?

Maybe it's just me, but I learned as a child that your word is your bond. If you say you're going to do something or be somewhere, you had damn well better, because you didn't want to disappoint my parents. Your word is only worth as much as you make it worth, because after all, anyone can say anything. Talk is cheap. You show that your words have meaning by backing them up, and conversely, if you don't deliver on what you promise, your words aren't worth the air you expelled to utter them, or in the case of the online community, they're not worth the time it takes to read them.

You can probably guess what inspired this post: I've had several women agree to meet me, call me, etc. lately, only to have them fail to show up as promised. Why is this? I have a few theories.

It seems that many people, male and female both, think of this site as a fantasy world, and in a way, I guess it is. Not satisfied with what you're getting (or maybe not getting) in the bedroom now, or just looking for a sexual outlet? Come check us out. Yes, real meets do happen, as I can personally testify to. There's also no problem if both parties are just playing, as no one gets hurt that way. The problems come in when one person is for real and the other isn't. It seems like the one in the fantasy world doesn't realize or care that the other person is real, and can be hurt or angered by their lack of common courtesy. I'm sure this has happened to me several times, when a woman who had been chatting and flirting with me suddenly realized that I wasn't kidding around and that I mean everything I say, and got scared and ran off. I know that happened once this spring, and I'm sure a few other times as well.

That's my main theory, but I have a few others. Perhaps it's just the lack of decency and manners and the self-centered attitudes rampant in society in general. It could be fear - always wanting the opportunity to do a certain something (or someone), then getting cold feet when the opportunity finally presents itself. Or maybe, as I've heard from a few people, women are just flaky like that. (Though that wouldn't explain why guys do it too.)

If you took the time to read this, thanks for indulging me. Why not humor me further and tell me what you think? I'd love to hear some other opinions, and I promise to read them all...

nastyfunwild 45F

2/6/2006 2:26 pm

I agree if you make a promise to meet someone you should honor it ..and If for any reason you can't make it at least let the person know. Even though this is a sex site you can at least have manners and be respectful

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