what to do  

rm_SwtPch72 44F
6 posts
8/14/2006 7:06 pm
what to do

I'm in a relationship with a person that I love too death. They treat me really well and I enjoy time with them. I enjoy coming home to this person. Can't say that about the ex when I was married! ARRRGH But...everything is great in this relationship but ONE thing. The sex! Due to some medical problems, it's there isn't a sex life! I was accused of cheating when I was married but never did! Now,,,I have the urge to seek out what I need so bad! My partner can't help what is wrong. And I feel bad for seeking something outside the home......what do you think?

snowdragon2006 40M

8/14/2006 7:42 pm

As a guy, sex is very important in a relationship. Or else you are "just friends". I think from your writing, you already know this. You don't need the opinions of the unwashed blog masses. Is this person's limitations temporary or permanent? If temporary, then you can wait it out, because it will be worth it if your heart and soul are into it. If it is permanent, then you must decide a few things:

1)stay with him (assuming it is a man) and never have the physical connection (which is important in a relationship).
2)stay with him, but find sexual release elsewhere (as a man, he will probably never accept this over the long term)

The choices are not easy. But they are simple. But again, you already know this.

10 posts
8/14/2006 7:53 pm

You're in the right place!
JUst ask and you'll have plenty of volunteers lining up to help you out!
Like Zorba the Greek, I had to hear a woman sigh at night because she's unsatisfied!

rm_dimples565 67F
24436 posts
8/14/2006 8:15 pm

I am in the same boat. I am married but my husband is 100%disabled, totally helpless and impotant. That is why I came on this site. I went 9 long years with no sex before I decided I couldnt stand it any more. Have made some wonderful friends some in the same boat as us.

We need to take care of our own needs too.

A Drama Free Blog with Smiles


rm_smc469 42M
617 posts
8/14/2006 9:07 pm

swt, I think that is something that you ultimately have to decide for yourself, and I know it is a very hard decision. If hid condition is something that he can overcome, I'd say wait it out and support him. If it's not, or you can't wait, I'm sure you will find not shortage of guys here willing to help you out. In the latter case (since you obviously love this guy) I'd say be careful in who you meet, and remember that your meeting him for sex, not to get emotionally envolved.
Which ever way you decide to go, I wish you luck and welcome to the blogs.

MarcoPolo197676 39M
541 posts
8/14/2006 10:14 pm

Talk to him, be honest, get him involved, its not cheating if hes apart of the process.

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