How goes the quest...  

rm_SweatyJeny 48F
66 posts
8/14/2006 12:21 pm

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9/15/2006 5:02 pm

How goes the quest...


20 guys down 3 spots now filled. Everybody else on the list is on hold until I either decide to expand the list or somebody drops off (or is dropped off).

Some of you may or may not be aware, but this is how I organized my search for the 3 people I hoped to find and play with regularly.

I am looking to find only 3 people to play with regularly. To find those, I expected I'd need to talk with a dozen or so people. Hence, I took the first dozen (and a half) people who completely met my criteria and began to meet with them. Out of 20, 2 flaked out so I met 18. (This should/could have been 21 people, but one person had to back out due to a personal situation that was well explained, so he just moved back in the list.) Out of those 18 I met 12 for a physical encounter and of those, 1 flaked, 3 did not bring back a STD test result leaving 8 encounters from whom I have taken my 3 regular partners. I'll probably bring a pool of 6 into play every time I need a person. Presently I have received replies from 44 people who might be qualified and have worked through 20 of them.

To celebrate the completion of my circle, I had my first 3 on Jen session which was a lot harder for all of us then any of us expected. While it was fun, I doubt that will occur again.

Now, why did some of those others fail? Some of them just didn't match up physically with what they claimed and some just couldn't communicate in person like a gentleman. The 5 people who failed in bed just simply were not as good at sex as they liked to believe. It's not enough that the sex is good for them, it has to be good for me too, and enthusiasm alone can not make up for a lack of skill or ability to read the nuances of their partner. There is probably something to be said for people who either really studied sex or are just naturals at it.

I will update this on a semi-regular basis as more information arrives.

Harpocrates7 42M

8/14/2006 4:35 pm

"Having once decided to achieve a certain task, achieve it at all costs of tedium and distaste. The gain in self-confidence of having accomplished a tiresome labor is immense." --Arnold Bennett

I admire your pursuit, although machine-like and lacking spontaneity. Even after reading your profile, I must have overlooked your goal for being here. Best of luck...


rm_SweatyJeny 48F
21 posts
8/14/2006 5:04 pm

What can I say? I am an engineer and if I know what I want or need, I set about in a plan to get it even if I have to, as I did in this case, develop that plan on the fly. I am not afraid of spontaniety or behaving in an impromtu fashion. I realize I didn't completely spell out my quantity goal earlier, so I felt I should address that in some manner. The reason I will limit myself is as much for safety purposes as it is for convenience. Plus, keeping to just a few men will allow me to more fully and properly experiment and push my limits because that takes trust and trust takes time. Thus if I spend what time I do have with a few, I can more readily get to those experiments.


Harpocrates7 42M

8/14/2006 8:33 pm

Thanks for the insight...I don't think we're a match. Take care...


rm_rocco2568 48M
8 posts
8/15/2006 1:35 pm

hey I have to say what your doing is great.
sorry you didn't except my in invite to my network, I think we could have done some damage together
rocky
ps good luck i hope you find what your looking for
and by the way you look you will.


rm_designp 49M
1 post
8/15/2006 8:37 pm

Hello engr, I am ph.d. mechanical and works in warren. I am totally new here..I don't have pics in yet and I am living with a female. we are getting to know each other for marriage. I am divorced with a daughter, she lives with the mom and I see my daughter often.

I really will like to have lunch with you at any Italian Restaurant in warren area. I dont brag or boast, but I can make you splash multiple times. I have 2+ hours longevity of passionate *g.

I will wish you bend the rules and give your fellow engr. a chance


Jifry 52M

8/17/2006 1:51 pm

Hi SweatyJeny,

I stumbled across your blog just now and had to comment.

I'm not an engineer but I am impressed with your meticulous and methodical way of weeding suitors. Frankly, I like it. If only every person here was clear about their boundaries and every paramour respectful of those boundaries - punctuation and grammar aside - there would be very little left to grouse about. I would nominate you and your spouse for an AdultFriendFinder medal if there were such a thing. I wish other AdultFriendFinder folks were as mature.

Happy hunting and thanks for your thoughts and example.


rm_SweatyJeny 48F
21 posts
8/17/2006 5:28 pm

    Quoting Jifry:
    Hi SweatyJeny,

    I stumbled across your blog just now and had to comment.

    I'm not an engineer but I am impressed with your meticulous and methodical way of weeding suitors. Frankly, I like it. If only every person here was clear about their boundaries and every paramour respectful of those boundaries - punctuation and grammar aside - there would be very little left to grouse about. I would nominate you and your spouse for an AdultFriendFinder medal if there were such a thing. I wish other AdultFriendFinder folks were as mature.

    Happy hunting and thanks for your thoughts and example.
Glad to hear it. Admittedly, as an engineer, I might just have an unusual approach to this site (at least as far as the women go). I certainly wish that all the men would take the time to be as forthcoming in their profiles.


rm_SweatyJeny 48F
21 posts
9/5/2006 1:17 pm

It's not as much the bullshit that bothers me, it's just the lack of information with which to make an informed opinion.


yellowfever33 52M
270 posts
9/12/2006 8:22 am

Hello SweatyJeny,

I am not a paying member - just fantasizing and browsing for now. Ran across your blog though and have inferred a little of what might be on your profile.
Would you consider posting the entire text from your profile here on your blog also?

Its really fantastic the method you have chosen. Makes sense too - initially I felt the sampling would be too small and limiting. You might be missing out on some really great guys by not taking a little deeper look or a bigger sampling. But then I realized...you must already HAVE a great guy (this is an assumption since I have not read your profile) and are not in search of a mate - only a lover. So for the limited contact you will have with each of these men - finding the truly "awesome" match that MAY be out there is of no importance.

I really like your data though. When you break it down to the most basic...of the 15 men you responded to....only 5 were serious and/or intelligent enough to understand your criteria (bring an STD test). The rest were somehow fake or not serious in their desires. That has long been my theory...that the majority of people on AdultFriendFinder are really only exercising their ability to fantasize. I think that concept is just fine - what I find dissatisfying is that almost all are unwilling to accept that they are only fantasizing. Some even insist that they are serious and turn down the opportunity to intereact with others because they only want "serious" people. Your data seems to prove that most people (and I would bet that the female data would reflect a similar trend) are never going to actually meet and have sex. Most of the truly serious tend to view this as a waste of time. I would tend to agree except that doing a little fantasizing online can help to develop your sense of what turns you on and what turns others on and hopefully makes you a better lover in the end.
Well...happy hunting! and PLEASE post more about your results and even encounters - things you learn and try.


blueslave682 48M

9/12/2006 12:27 pm

You know, how do you encapsulate so many of these finer points mentioned above between the BLOG originator and YellowFever33? I, as a male in search of a few good playmates, have found that most of the females I've talked to, and sometimes met, have been absolutely farther from what they were seeking listed in their profile. I think that most authors of profiles are trapped in fantasy, and list activities on their profiles as activities that sounded hot, erotic or somewhat enticing, but had no value or merit to partake in them. As a male, I'm disappointed in people, especially the ones that list "please don't waste my time emailing back and forth", as any others. So, to the members above, I hope your quest is going better than my own. I continue to search for those women that want exactly the same as I list in mine, and hope to find someone in my zip code (like SweatyJeny) that I can enlist both of our sexual desires!! Good luck to all!


rm_SweatyJeny 48F
21 posts
9/12/2006 1:22 pm

Yellow, I added a post that covers your request. Blue, I am not quite sure what you want to know from me as the Blog originator...


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