A lesson learnt  

rm_Suzanne_999 47
31 posts
6/18/2005 7:03 am

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A lesson learnt

I have been writing to someone from AdultFriendFinder. I wont go into detail about the person, only to say I thought he a total charmer. Everything about this man is exactly what I wrote bout that I was seeking.

Silly me though,asked one question just to double check he not married or gay or anything and what he was looking for from me. Nothing major I thought. Just double checking so I could carry on developing the friendship that I was starting to really enjoy.

His reply was fine, re instilled into me that he was indeed damn bloody fine man!!.. Then I get mail last night which wasnt so fine.

I wont go into details as it was a private email but my interpretation of it is that it seems me being on this site makes me a lesser person than meeting in a pub or event or something. because its an AdultFriendFinder many just see it as a sex site. My question deemed to be pushy. not for him to be pushed.

I cried my heart out last night. For the first time in a long time I found someone I could have fun with and a pure laugh, only for the one person I liked outta here through a selection of words, made me feel like a lesser person because am on this site.

Sad..so so sad. If this man took the time to get to know me how much more enriched would both of our lives have been? How much fun and laughter would we have had? No more feeling lonely or yearning for the company of the opposite sex.

Now he carries on with his life, still single, probably finding someone eventually and I carry on with mine, still laughing, still having fun, still joking with all my friends, still being the same fun person, but I'll always wonder what it could have been like. He was so what I was looking for. It obviously wasnt mutual.

No replies please about this man. He has nothing to defend himself about. What I have wrote are my feelings on the matter, not a slander on the man himself. I still think he is a fine man, he just looks out on life from a different angle, and its that angle that affected me. I have learnt a valuable lesson from it

Suz xxxx

wilsin10 69M

6/18/2005 12:03 pm

In my life women are always Ladies until they prove other wise. I'm sorry it didn't work out. At this point in life I'm only looking for friends. I'm the geek I'm the guy no one looks at more than once. I 'm the shoulder to cry on and the man that will listen. Sex isn't everything but it is part of life.

rm_Suzanne_999 47
10 posts
6/18/2005 2:20 pm

Finelady I thank you for your hugs. Graciously received.

Wilsin, thank you for your kind words. When I first read them it actually looked like my blog was about you which obviously it is not. lol. Thank you for commenting

kind regards
Suzanne xxx

CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
6/23/2005 5:02 pm

Even though this blog is cruising on a week ago, the pain and emotions can last longer, and i tell you what Suzanne, the way i see it is, being on this site doesnt make you a lesser person than if you meet in a public, so please try not to linger on that pain to much.

I express my feelings a whole lot diffrent than if i was to meet someone in public place for the first time, i meet here, we get chatting, then we meet in public and the tension is a whole lot more comfortable then if we didnt chat online at all, yet these are just my experiences. Keep your chin up Suzanne, that one special guy will cross your path, even if its from this (great) site.

rm_sexluvver2 53M

7/1/2005 5:21 pm

Re: A lesson learnt- these things happen, but just becuse you are on this site does not make you a lesser person - I am a bit like wilsin10 not quite a geek but am told I am a Gentleman and lady is always a lady regardless -some things dont change. if you were not so far away i would like to know you better, you come across as a nice person and deserve to be treated as a Lady.
I wish you luck and best wishes in your search.

sexydublinsweet 44F

7/3/2005 3:16 pm

Aww Suzanne i'm so sorry to hear about that.. i do understand where you are coming from as i have had an experience like that, it is though a common presumtion that we are lesser because of meeting here and that is a reason why i detatch quite a bit when here.. you are such a fun loving person and you should have no problem finding the man that you are looking for.. i wish you all the happyness in your quest,

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