On-line Love  

rm_SirReal1966 50M
211 posts
2/13/2006 3:29 pm

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6/23/2009 7:51 pm

On-line Love


Those of us who have been involved in the on-line dating community for a while can tell stories of the intense encounters we have had. Meeting someone via e-mail, a chat room, a web cam, or even progressing to phone calls can be intoxicating to the point of insanity!

I think the best analogy I can come up with is to liken it to a person who has lost the use of one of the 5 basic senses. We are told that the blind have a heightened sense of hearing, the deaf are more visually driven, all out of necessity.

In the on-line world it is very much the same. We have many of the tools we use in a social setting removed due to the nature of the medium we are using. No physical cues to watch for and no verbal inflections to consider. Even the telephone offers camouflage for those who seek to hide things from us. Anyone who has been around the Internet for long has encountered an email or a chat conversation that can be totally misinterpreted. Often these misunderstandings are the result of innocent misstatement or ignorance. But they offer the “wiggle room” some seek to help them prey on others emotions.

We have all seen it…you meet a person who seems to be perfect for you in so many ways. But then the lies crumble and the emotion you have allowed to run unbridled comes limping hope to you. Now the question is…do you shoot that horse or do you nurse it back to health and train it to be stronger and more able in future encounters?

I think that answer is obvious, you nurse it back to health and use that education as a cornerstone to who you are a REAL person. Giving up will only validate the worthless speck of fly poop. They will get exactly what they want and that is the twisted sense of satisfaction a looser gets from using you as a stepping-stone to the perverse “happiness” they seek.

The truly sad thing is this behavior that has long been attributed to the male of the species is NOT reserved for the testosterone crowd. Women are just as prone to the games and the B.S. as men are. In my experience it’s the same in the real world as it is in cyberspace. Games are games regardless of who is running them. But do I give up? Hell NO…there are still great people in this world…it’s just more difficult thus more rewarding when you find them!

And Your Point Is?


rm_PurryKitty2 48M/50F
9753 posts
2/13/2006 4:23 pm

I agree!!!

Purry {=}

Purry


rm_binky1956 60F
3 posts
2/13/2006 6:52 pm

I know exactly what you are saying . Too bad we all have to experience it.


frangipanigal 45F
10406 posts
2/13/2006 8:10 pm

All the crap makes the real and genuine lovers even more worth while.

Frangi


rm_vapour2004 58M

5/23/2006 4:45 am

I must get a pair of jeans like that - you seem to get all the hot women replying to your blog all I get are a few pigeons and a goat,
and thats on a good day


Rolengrl27 43F

8/19/2006 5:34 pm

WHY DO PEOPLE HAVE TO LIE? I JUST DONT UNDERSTAND THE NEED FOR IT. ITS A VERY SMALL PERSON THAT PLAYS ON SOMEONE ELSES EMOTIONS AND YES I HAVE BEEN THERE AND IT SUCKS! BUT WOW, THE INSIGHT U HAVE! VERY REASSURING THERE ARE FABULOUS PEOPLE OUT THERE!


rm_mggrace8 48F
1046 posts
1/15/2009 11:06 am

Well, although I am sure there are many on-line predators within this site and others, the one thing that has come to my attention with regards to AdultFriendFinder long-time users is their negative, pesimistic views of others....you read it in there profile, it is filled with what they don't want and not much of what they do.

I am not here to judge others, and I am sure plenty have been hurt beyond belief, but the inability to have trust in others can limit the opportunity for the right one who might come along. Being vulnerable to the experience, is just as important as the experience.

Maybe this is a naive view, I have not been on this site long and I probably won't stay long-term, cause more than once have I experienced this stinging ire, and it is hurtful and confusing. Relationships are far too fast here and so established awareness as to a person's character come into question. So being able to either remove yourself emotionally, (which I am not) or turning into someone who believes that everyone is out to get them are not good alternatives for life.

So if you are here to find "the one" and you are looking with a check list and withdraw when your not willing to believe in anyone, then you are wasting everyone's time.

Bad happens everywhere and if you look for it in others, you will surely find it.


I'm Just Sayin'--Seriously?


rm_SirReal1966 50M
109 posts
2/13/2009 7:19 pm

    Quoting rm_mggrace8:
    Well, although I am sure there are many on-line predators within this site and others, the one thing that has come to my attention with regards to AdultFriendFinder long-time users is their negative, pesimistic views of others....you read it in there profile, it is filled with what they don't want and not much of what they do.

    I am not here to judge others, and I am sure plenty have been hurt beyond belief, but the inability to have trust in others can limit the opportunity for the right one who might come along. Being vulnerable to the experience, is just as important as the experience.

    Maybe this is a naive view, I have not been on this site long and I probably won't stay long-term, cause more than once have I experienced this stinging ire, and it is hurtful and confusing. Relationships are far too fast here and so established awareness as to a person's character come into question. So being able to either remove yourself emotionally, (which I am not) or turning into someone who believes that everyone is out to get them are not good alternatives for life.

    So if you are here to find "the one" and you are looking with a check list and withdraw when your not willing to believe in anyone, then you are wasting everyone's time.

    Bad happens everywhere and if you look for it in others, you will surely find it.

Ahhh...But you see, filtering through the lies and the B.S. is what expirence brings.

A Lie is A Lie, even if it is by omission.

And Your Point Is?


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