More Keeping It Real  

rm_SirReal1966 50M
211 posts
11/27/2005 1:14 am

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More Keeping It Real

I have been on this site for a couple of years now and it has been a REALLY great expirence over all. I have met some tremendous people and have had more fun than I could ever hope to communicate with you here. Having said that I can assure you that I have also been in a couple of situations that have been far from "fun" or even entertaining.

Over all the expirences here have been fun and educational from the stand point of learning how individuals view themselves and present what they believe to be the best parts of themselves...both physically and emotionally.

Let's face it. We have all been contacted by a person who SWEARS the look like Tom Cruise or Katie Holmes...or maybe both! Only to find they actually look more like Moe, Larry, or Curly. Worse yet we have been contacted by those who SWEAR they are safe and sane only to find Charles Manso seems to have them on retainer.

It's a fact of dating both on-line and off. People have no clue what they are really all about. When a person is forced to explain who they are, much less the complexities of their sexual self, they are usually blinded by the fact they live with themselves every day, 24 hours a day. That does tend to cloud one's ability to accurately assess themselves. Couple this with the fact they are trying to fill a need within themselves and this can be one remarkable temptation to white wash the truth all together.

Let's face it...if you are a male who is crass, borish, and generally socially stunted...are you going to list that here? What if your a woman who has never had a relationship that lasted longer than 3 weeks? Is that going to appear in your profile? It's rather remarkable that you will see things like "BBW" or "Furry Bear" listed in the physical description for a person, but you NEVER see "Totally Self Absorbed" listed. I think this is very telling about the person when they are willing to for go the personal quirks they have but are willing to be direct about the physical side of things. Still others seem to be totally out of touch with who they are from all aspects. It's important to note that I am not just speaking of life here on AdultFriendFinder...I have observed this on other (non-adult) dating sites also.

Basically I have always found that the people I have met on-line that I have formed lasting friendships with have been honest with themselves first! If a woman is not sure she wants to have a physical relationship at this point I respect her for being honest and kind in expressing that.

If she is attracted and would like to see what happens, I appreciate her being honest there too.

In's the glue that keeps you together in the end...

And Your Point Is?

Oldrforyounger2 78F

11/30/2005 6:58 am

I agree....that HONESTY is the best policy here. Unless you plan on never meeting anyone, you are bound to be found out if you don't. I, too have been on this site for over a year and a half and have had some odd encounters. But, by and large, it's been a wonderful experience. Wouldn't trade it for anything.

rm_SirReal1966 50M
109 posts
11/30/2005 9:38 am

Hey there Oldrforyounger2...

It is sometimes hard to figure out who is here for fun..or FUN!

I just keep on contacting or being contacted by people and taking each opportunity as it presents itself (after careful consideration of course!).

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