Sex Therapist  

rm_Simplysexy65 50F
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5/23/2006 10:22 am
Sex Therapist

I get many men coming into my office asking the same questions so I thought I would discuss it now. The men all seem to ask..."I like to masturbate very frequently -- is this unhealthy?"

So, in response to the question, I will address the concerns on the pressing and often-overlooked topic of over-masturbation.

I know the term may be confusing for you since you're so used to being reassured that masturbation is a "normal, healthy part of life," but, as with all good things, there is such a thing as too much. Also, I don't want to present myself as anti-masturbation, because that is far from the truth. I actually consider myself an expert So, let's establish that over-masturbation is the term used to refer to extreme or excessive masturbation, nearing the level of compulsion.

How much masturbation is too much?
I'm not talking about men who go at it a few times a week; I'm addressing the men who admittedly pleasure themselves numerous times a day, every day.

Masturbation is as healthy and normal as you've been led to believe, but as with other behaviors, when over-practiced or done in an excessive, compulsive manner, it can lead to both psychological and physiological imbalances in your body.

It has been recommended that men try to keep their ejaculation frequency down to just a few times per week; however, those with healthy sex lives who engage in intercourse (and thus ejaculate) on almost a daily basis might argue this advice to be preposterous. Nevertheless, I'm just citing the studies.

I masturbate all the time -- what's going to happen to me?

What happens if I masturbate too frequently?
Excessive masturbation can stimulate acetylcholine/parasympathetic nervous functions. This immoderate amount of stimulation can result in an over-production of sex hormones and neurotransmitters like acetylcholine, dopamine and serotonin, causing a considerable change in body chemistry.

The side effects of these changes in body chemistry can manifest themselves as:

Fatigue, Hair loss, Memory loss, Blurred vision, Groin/testicular pain

Because over-masturbation distresses liver and nervous system functions, it can also lead to sexual exhaustion (even in younger males). This can include the appearance of impotence or erectile dysfunction in males way before the average age of onset.

Seminal leakage, otherwise described as the emission of sperm from the penis without an erection, is another common problem associated with extreme masturbation. This is a sign that the nerve keeping the ejaculation valve shut is weakening because of excessive use and over-stimulation. Call a plumber!!!

To add to the associated physical problems, in extreme cases, your compulsion with masturbation may get in the way of your work and family life the same way any other addiction (like alcohol or gambling) would.

How can I stop over-masturbating?
Obviously, the first step is to cut down on the amount of times you masturbate in a given day. However, I realize that this piece of advice is easier said than done.

If you're having trouble going at this cold turkey, you might want to try putting on a brave face and attending a local Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting. You'll get to meet people who have the same problem or even more complicated issues than you. You can listen to their stories and hopefully pick up a few techniques to help yourself.

If the group setting embarrasses you, try talking to a sex therapist. There's no need to be shy; they deal with issues like this all the time and it's the surest way to help your body and mind recuperate.

goin' solo

While the old wives' tale about getting hairy palms if you masturbate may not be true, there are still serious health consequences to masturbating excessively. Don't fret about your occasional one-man romp; start to worry if it becomes an obsessive part of your life.

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