The Need For Love  

rm_SHORTBLOND69 61F
106 posts
10/3/2005 6:41 am

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The Need For Love

The Need For Love

In the media, all of us have often heard the relationship experts and psychologists say, if you have a great need for love from another person (especially the opposite sex) , then something must be lacking in yourself. According to many of them, if your happy with who you are, then you won't always be seeking love from an outside source.

Truth or misconception? Well....read on, and then you decide.

It is a basic humandesire to seek out love. If it weren't . most of us would live as hermits. Humans are social creatures. When we're younger, we yearn for friends and acceptance. As we grow older, we yearn to find that special someone to share our lives with, for companionship, emotional support (not as a crutch), maybe even to start our own families.

When is this desire wrong, and when is it right?

Certainly if we are searching for love in order to solve all of our emotional problems, we will be dissapointed in the results--much as when people think losing weight or coming into a lot of money will solve all of their other problems for them. No outside person can fix what's wrong within our own souls.

However, a person who is already secure in their life--has friends, a job they enjoy (relatively enjoy) enough money to survive comfortably, good relations with their relatives, etc.--shouldn't be condemned to believe how something "must" be wrong deep inside of them, if they're looking for a soul mate.

So what do you do when you're confronted with such criticism?

Don't listen! You can be secure in knowing that there is nothing wrong with you. Don't argue about it with anyone. Thats pointless. Don't let it plunge you into a deep depression either, and start you on a search for some elusive something that's not really missing from your life.

Hold this thought close to your heart: " The search for a soul mate is not to complete my life, but to enhance it--the desire to share love is a natural and normal fuction of human nature."

If your searching for love, continue with your journey. There is someone out there for you. And no matter how corny it might sound, you "can" create your own story book ending and live...happily ever after.

Remember everyone needs and wants loved.....Love goes around the world, some have it more than others. You give LOVE you get LOVE back.

Weather your looking for LOVE on here or not, don't be surprised if it stares you in the face, and reaches for you. It takes LOVE to get LOVE.

Warm and passionately shortblond69


love2lick_you 50M  
37 posts
10/4/2005 2:58 pm

I think all "normal"people want love. Needing tolove or be loved does not have to validate you as a person. If I was alone I would still be an OK guy, but I have to agree with you, wanting love is a normal emotion. It does not define your worth as a person.


rm_galahad15 57M
17 posts
10/9/2005 6:07 am

I love your post and evryone is on need of love, finding a person who they can talk to, tell them stuff a person would take to teh grave. Show ones feelings without feeling stupid or criticized.

Enjoying love both of them not one way or just to have it and say till next week or when I feel like it.

You are beautiful inside to have so much feelings. It is rare to find somebody like you.


rm_galahad15 57M
17 posts
10/9/2005 12:44 pm

I like your pic mzhunyhole.


rm_galahad15 57M
17 posts
10/9/2005 4:53 pm

Shortblond69 I have to admitt your pic turns me on, would love to see more of you.


rm_galahad15 57M
17 posts
10/10/2005 2:19 pm

Shortblond69,
I was more interested in seeing your face. It is nioe to this pic but I like to see a persons face.
I would never expect you to expose yourself. You are too much of a lady.
PS you do have a beautiful face.


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