I'm not like that. It bothers me  

rm_Racer1896 29M
9 posts
1/25/2006 5:43 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

I'm not like that. It bothers me

Well I guess I had my first encounter with someone I met through the site. It was more of a date thing not like some sort of one night stand thing. I have never done that before, it is just not my style. After corresponding and chatting for about a week with the girl who I thought was really beautiful. I actually talked her into letting me come over to her place as she couldnt go out that night. In are conversations earlier she mentioned she really likes candy so on my way there I stopped at the giant Shoppers Drug Mart. I spent about 40 bucks on candy and choclates and brought two movies. While at the giant Drug store I bought a box of condoms, I always get my condoms at this giant Drugstore as they have the best selection.
So anyways I headed over to her place and spent 3 or 4 hours over there just hanging out and talking to her. I really liked her she was just as cool in person as she was to chat with. Most girls I meet are so immature I find it annoying they have no priorities and no concept of reality. This girl was smart and beautiful.
The next day I tried to call her she said she was busy doing homework which she was working on while I was there but didnt get much done, so she said she would call me back.
So three days went by and still no call back so I sent an email asking what she was doing and the like. My response went along the lines of I dont want to talk to you what do you think I am some kinda whore. I was shocked I sent a reply right away apoligized for whatever offended her but I had no idea what I had done. I really didn't even try to put a move on her I wanted to take her out on a date and spoil her and get to know her. In her response back she said that she had seen I bought condoms before I came by on the reciept that was in with the candy and choclates. I had but I had also taken them out of the bag and left them in the car. I have never ever had sex with a woman the first time I met her I am not saying that I wouldn't under the right circumstances but that wasn't what I was looking for at the time to be honest.

Now she basically says forget I ever met her. I am some kinda liar that thinks she is a whore.

I dont know what to do or what to say but I am pretty sure there is no recovering from this. Its killing me to to be accused of something I am not I dont know if it is because I just ended a long term relationship after a year and a half, or if I got infatuated with this girl before I even met her or if it is just being accused of something I have never been, maybe someday but I don't know if I am ready for that stuff yet. Of course I think and fantasize about one night stands but I am too shy when I first meet people to do that kind of thing. After I know people pretty well though I am a complete clown new classmates have always commented on how when the year started I didnt say anything or speak to anyone and by the end of the year I was the class clown and constantly fucking around.

I don't even know if I should be talking about this on here but I really need to vent it really bothers me and she doesn't wanna talk to me anymore.

For mood I think I will put crushed I was gonna put dissapointed so I didn't sound like a painsy but if you didn't get the mood from the actual letter than you wont notice anyways.

This is crazy

marc1252 46M
1 post
1/27/2006 6:34 pm

Dude, don't beat yourself up so much. From your description of what happened, you didn't do anything to warrant such a reation from her. I suspect that sometime in the past, maybe she was taken advantage of, or maybe abused/molested?? Or maybe she is just too immature and assumed way too much from what she saw on the receipt. Just let it be her problem and move on with your life. You sound like you are a very caring and sensitive person, and any girl would be lucky to get you. I know it is human nature not to like being accused of something you didn't do, but if you didn't do anything wrong, it is totally her problem. I don't think you will have a problem at all finding someone else. PEACE! (post 21501

rm_cospgs05 44F
3 posts
1/31/2006 8:57 am

I can not imagine what her issue is, I find nothing wrong with a guy who has their prospective partners health in mind. She should be appreciative that you had been man enough to purchase the condoms and happy that you didn't make the advances to utilize them.. I think that from what you have described here, you are awesome! A romantic and a thoughtful lover. What could be wrong with that?

I kind of like it!! I feel that it would be her loss and that you didn't do anything wrong in the situation, she should be grateful that you had thought so highly of her to have bought her something as a gift, not dismayed because she read the reciept. What's up with that anyway? She wanted to see how much it cost? That's just wrong, it doesn't matter if you pulled it out of the pantry, at least you thought of her.!!! I think you should be pleased with yourself that you found this out about her now, rather then after you had spent more on her. Apparently she just isn't for you. Don't give up, you will find someone who you will click with and then all the effort will be worth while..

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