Do You Put Off Things You Enjoy?  

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
12865 posts
8/14/2006 3:17 am

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8/15/2006 5:20 pm

Do You Put Off Things You Enjoy?

this is a long one, sorry....

Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.

I got to thinking one day about all those people on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible.

How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word "refrigeration" mean nothing to you?

How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched 'Jeopardy' on television?

I cannot count the times I called my sister and said , "How about going to lunch in a half hour?" She would gas up and stammer, "I can't. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain" And my personal favorite: "It's Monday." She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together.

Because Americans cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches.. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect!

We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Steve toilet-trained. We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college.

Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of "I'm going to," "I plan on," and "Someday, when things are settled down a bit."

When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Rollerblades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.

My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.

Now...go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to...not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? ;And why are you waiting?

Make sure you read this to the end; you will understand why I sent this to you.

Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask "How are you?" Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, "We'll do it tomorrow." And in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say "Hi"?

When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift....Thrown away.... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.

It's National Friendship and FAMILY WEEK Show your friends how much you care. Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND. If it comes back to you, then you'll know you have a circle of friends.

To those who read this... I cherish our friendship and appreciate all you do.

"Life may not be the party we hoped for... but while we are here we might as well dance!"

Purry {=}


SuperAdventurous 37M
258 posts
8/14/2006 3:48 am

Hell Yeah... Carpe Diem is not just a saying. Its a way of life and has meaning. SIEZE THE DAY!!!

I was thinking the exact same thing when I woke up this morning and you know what I did, as corny as it sounds. I work on the ground floor of a 3 story building. I Got to work round bout 5:30am so the sun rises later. As day break started, I climbed up to the 3rd story fire escape and sat there, watching the sun rise. When was the last time you actually just sat there, watching anything as stunning as that.

And that is the type of thing we take for granted. We bitch and moan when it is over cast or raining (due to recent floods here in the Eastern Cape) and yet no one takes 5 mins out of their busy day to admire a sunrise or even a sunset.

Well... today. I did...

Great entry babe.

rm_ironhead1956 60M
275 posts
8/14/2006 4:01 am

Very well put, makes me think back to the John Lennon lyric, "Life's what happens to you, while your busy making other plans."

freetime648 52F

8/14/2006 4:30 am

    Quoting rm_ironhead1956:
    Very well put, makes me think back to the John Lennon lyric, "Life's what happens to you, while your busy making other plans."
Amen to that!!!!!

And Purry, if something I enjoy rears its head, I am all about the Carpe Diem!!!! I will give up anything to be happy!!!!

xx FREETIME648 xx

Djeeper1987 47M

8/14/2006 6:24 am

Damnit you mean we get old. teeehhehehehehe

Amen to this post, well done!

Carpe Diem

rm_imtheone42 74M
485 posts
8/14/2006 6:42 am

The part about skipping dessert on the Titanic was great. I`ll be thinking about that as I go through the day and I`ll try to be a little more flexible. Very thought provoking.

toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
8/14/2006 7:16 am

one of the things i love doing when i go to the beach is wear my goggles and dive; i find a school of fish and just follow it. and just watch them; see where they go, see how they feed, how they whiz around sea plants... it's just so relaxing, almost like meditating. being underwater has always had an incredible effect on me.
great post, thanks. kisses.

hubbyontheloose 60M  
353 posts
8/14/2006 7:47 am

You wake up in the morning - you are going off to a job that truly is the dream job for millions and you have it! You think of your kids - one finished college and bumming around Australia (at your expense of course) the other has her Batchelors and is heading for her Masters at 21 years old! You live in a huge villa with its' own private pool and have a porsche and Jeep sitting in the garage - all the trappings of a succesful (but bloody hard hard won) life. You are lying beside a truly beautiful woman with whom you have shared your life for 25 years and whom you love more than anything in the world - life just doesnt get any better than that. Then she turns to you and tells you that she has found a lump in her breast - what price the perfect life then? Carpe Diem? it doesn't even begin to express how we should live our lives. Never mind "sieze the day" - sieze the second! Every second that passes that you misuse or allow to be wasted is one that can never be recovered. I was asked recently what I feared most in life - my answer was "lying on my death bed and saying "I wish I had......."" - how unutterably sad that would be. There are no second chances, no coming back to get it right second time, no "do overs" - we get one and only one shot at it - live it to the full and adore every second without regrets and without looking back (except to smile). The simple truth is "shit happens" so get living before it does!

norprin5 55M

8/14/2006 9:09 am

Carpe Diem!! damn straight, Purry

King Nor XVIII

florallei 99F

8/14/2006 11:55 am

A beautiful Post and it was not that long...Beautiful points to ponder...Now in my 40s life is accelerating so quickly...I am much bolder and try to live what I had missed the first 40 years...still so much to do...TY for reminding sorry about your sister Hun...

tracy_de_lacy 105F
9268 posts
8/14/2006 1:39 pm

when I found out I had MS I decided that I was gonna do all those things I had always wanted to do. I am getting through that list, travelling, giving myself more time. Living life for me for a change. I have a list and it will be done.

Bye everyone, it was a blast

rm_smosmof2 67M
3240 posts
8/14/2006 3:41 pm

All right, you've convinced me.... next time you want me to flirt with you, I'll try....


8/14/2006 3:49 pm

Excellent post, very thought provoking! Thanks.

Balibabe19 41F

8/14/2006 4:19 pm

I try and capture as many moments as I's all I will have when it's time to go... Thanks for sharing!

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
8/14/2006 4:46 pm

I hear ya, sister! It's so easy to fall into an unchanging pattern unless you take steps to prevent it.

Blog On!

tadpudgy 56M

8/14/2006 5:07 pm

What a difference in my life when i quit feeling sorry for myself and started seizing the day. Still need a woman..but until then i am all about spreading the gospel of laughter!!!!!!!!!! HUG=GASMS!

rm_tfarcbew5 51M/52F
16 posts
8/14/2006 5:30 pm

WOW!! How do you write like that.... Something all 4 of us need to remember! Awesome!

rm_tfarcbew5 51M/52F
16 posts
8/14/2006 5:32 pm

You need to start a new career....Ms Writer.

CB_2 51F

8/15/2006 4:53 pm

Thanks for reminding me to do this more often. We used to be far more flexible before the kids were born - we'd just get in the car and drive 2 hours to see if some friends were in (they always were: they had kids!). They used to get really flustered that we hadn't preplanned it and given them warning, but our view was: hell, if they are out we'll just go to see someone else, or find somewhere for a nice lunch etc.

And I'm glad we lived our lives like that for the most part, even if we did become a lot less flexible when the kids arrived.

You know why? Because last year, after only 8 days' illness, my husband suddenly died. And that's the point at which you review your life and ask yourself whether you'd have done things differently if you'd known in advance.

(For reference, no I don't think we'd have done much differently, except taken a whole lot more photos and video footage)

Blogito ergo sum.

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