Are You in Love or Lust?  

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
12865 posts
2/20/2006 6:05 pm

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Are You in Love or Lust?

So how can you tell the difference between lust and love?

It's lust if:

You're totally focused on her looks and body
Even before you know her name, you're already fantasizing about what she looks like naked and what it would be like to have sex with her.

You don't care about anything she has to say
It wouldn't make a difference to you if you never had a conversation with her. Furthermore, you don't bother to return her calls promptly and you can easily go for days without talking to her -- until you get horny again.

You only want to be with her to have sex
You make excuses not to spend time with her, except for sex. And if she asks you for a favor, you tell her you're too busy. But if you have to be with her and not have sex, she gets on your nerves and you find yourself fantasizing about other women.

She's your booty call-After you go out trolling for tail with your buddies on Friday night, you then call her at 1 a.m. for some drunken action. Ah, the booty call.

You leave after sex-After having sex with her, you look for the easiest way to leave. No cuddling, no breakfast the next morning, just "I gotta go."

it's love, baby

It's love if:You have great chemistry
You get lost in your conversations, and the hours pass like minutes. You're more than willing to listen to her when she talks about her day. The chemistry between you is remarkable.

You find her beautiful-Even if you catch her with no makeup on and her hair pulled back while she's unclogging a toilet, she still looks beautiful to you.

You want to spend time with her-All you want to do is to be with her, whether you're having sex or not. Even if she tells you that sex will have to wait, you don't care.

You see a future together-You experience the strange feeling that your life would be totally empty without her. You tell your friends and family that she may be The One, and you're even thinking about marrying her.

You introduce her to your family-It becomes very important to you that your parents like her, and that she gets along with everyone close to you.

You include her in all your plans-Whether you're going out with your male friends or taking your dog for a walk, you want her there with you. And if she's not there, you can't get her off your mind and sneak off to give her a quick "I miss you" phone call. Of course, you don't tell your buddies.

You are more romantic-All of a sudden you find yourself listening to cheesy romantic songs and thinking of her. You send her flowers and love notes to work and set up romantic evenings candlelit dinners at home.

You always take her side-If someone says anything even slightly disparaging about her, you immediately rise to her defense. Furthermore, in social gatherings, you always agree with her even if you disagree behind closed doors.

She makes you want to be a better man-She challenges and motivates you. She makes you happy, and you'd do anything to make her happy.

Good night everyone, I am off to lust after the man I love

Purry {=}


digdug41 49M

2/20/2006 8:16 pm

I wish I could find someone I loved to lust for but thats not in the cards now and I really dig your description of both good post and g'nite to ya too cya tomorrow

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whats4dessert2 49M

2/20/2006 8:37 pm

Wow purry...awesome post. You've contributed a couple of times to my BLOG (thanks so much for that) and I feel a little guilty that this is the first time that I've contributed to yours.

Rafael Ortiz wrote "Love is not finding someone to live with,It's finding someone you can't live without

When mixing physical an emotional relationships, I think that Lust is when conversation is a means to an end (sex). Love is when the conversation is so good the sex at the end is an afterthought and the icing on the cake of a great day or evening together.

Cowboy_Deluxe 38M

2/20/2006 8:49 pm

Really I actually like women that don't wear much makeup or none at all. I see a lot of lust and love stuff that I do when I just meet a woman. So I guess I'm a guy who loves lust..


KDR305 46M/46F

2/20/2006 10:43 pm


I started off wanting to disagree with this post, because I felt like the beginning was a bit too generalized.

As I read the whole thing, it occured to me that within the realm of generalization, you've pretty much nailed it.

Be honest though..... Sail helped you write it, didn't he?

If not... kudos to you, but you might have served the world better if you'd described lust and love from the female perspective. Too many women are afraid to even admit that lust is a part of their lives.

Everyone knows men are Pigs.

HBowt2 58F

2/21/2006 12:02 am's lust....needed him to shut up......wanted to see his clothes off and his hands on me.....pure lust....

hubbyontheloose 60M  
353 posts
2/21/2006 1:49 am

isn't is great when the person you are in love with is also the person you lust after? have been married to Mrs for over 28 years now and still when I look at her she simply turns me on. No thought of love at those moments - is simple pure and unadulterated lust mmmmm She is out shopping at the moment as I write this - she is getting jumped on when she gets home - no time to put shopping away! hahaha Doubtless she will whack me round the head afterwards and say was because I have been surfing porn or playing on AdultFriendFinder (both true hahaha) but nah - is simply coz she is to me the horniest girl I have ever seen Hope the queue at the checkout isnt too long! She loves it when this happens as shows she still has it! Always will as far as I am concerned


2/21/2006 5:38 am


FunandFrisky79 41M/36F

2/21/2006 5:08 pm

Great post, Purry! The sex is always so much better when you're in love with the person you lust for!


rm_SprkyCplLv69 57M/50F
32 posts
2/21/2006 6:50 pm

ok again you nailed it right on the head. Purry you described the feelings i have and still do have for the lady that made me what iam today . with luck ill still be feeling this feeling for another 100yrs or so .

Plano69 54M

2/22/2006 4:09 pm

Great post, Purry...
Hmmm... I guess with some, I need to sign off with "I Lust You"...

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