The "Change"  

rm_Psygnosis300 40M
7 posts
3/29/2006 7:12 pm

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4/20/2006 8:06 pm

The "Change"

You know, the one thing I'm noticing about going through a divorce is that I'm finding myself taking more chances. I've actually dropped these into categories for your reading enjoyment!

Clothing seems to be the first, and easiest, change I've made. I'm not trying to dress with my jeans down around my ass or anything like that, but I'm finding that I'm shopping at places like the Gap and Old Navy and enjoying it. I'm getting jeans that fit properly, but might be distressed (i.e. have holes in them). First of all, I love the look and people around me seem to like it too. I also find it truly comfortable.

But, I'm going the opposite as well. I'm finding that I'm really enjoying the more sophisticated looks like from Bachrach or Nordstroms as well. French cuffs with cuff links? Love it! Colors that differ from my normal earth tones and neutrals? Great! Patent Italian leather shoes? I don't see myself without them anymore!

Drinking seems to be one of the other things that is changing with me. Before I was a little, well, tight-assed about everything. Seriously, you could shove a lump of coal between my butt cheeks and get a diamond in 48 hours. But now I find myself trying new drinks, new alcohols, even new wines. I'm taking a vested interest in actually determining the difference between different wines, different gins, and scotches too. Why? Because I've never done these things before!

I would say one of the last things that I'm noticing is my attitude toward the world. I used to be very cut and dry on my opinions of the world. I would say "that's wrong, no matter what!" I realize now that the world simply isn't black and white, it's an intricate blend of grays. What works for you won't necessarily work for me. Also, as with this site, what floats the boat of someone won't necessarily let that boat set sail for someone else.

It's like I'm learning who I am all over again. I'll tell you what, it's an amazing event to live through...

Talk to ya later

JustASingleGirl2 48F
719 posts
3/30/2006 6:37 am

Many times when people are in relationships, they "hide" who they really are and it isn't until the relationship ends that they "rediscover" the real them. Happy to see you're rediscovering who you are and enjoying that person. There are probably more changes to come. Enjoy them.

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

voluptuosas 46F

4/20/2006 3:29 pm


I'm impressed with your new found willingness to venture out and try new things and experiences. BRAVO! Hope I can be someone to help introduce you to many of the delights of KC.

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