Living Up To My Expectations......  

rm_Psyched4SEX 54F
148 posts
6/11/2005 10:51 pm

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Living Up To My Expectations......

I'm a little disenchanted and perplexed. Maybe I'm just a little TOO adventurous and experimental for my own good. Most of the profiles from the men I've met on AdultFriendFinder state that they have varied interests involving SEX. When it comes to performance, many men I've encountered seem to shy away from exploration and diversity. I am NOT into inflicting or receiving pain, and am just looking to add some spice to the bedroom, living room, kitchen, bathroom, etc....I just want to discover and try new things with a willing partner. Communication, trust and an open mind are the keys to fantastic sex! Help me discover what I'm missing! Why are people so ashamed to admit that they've never used certain SEX toys or never tried a certain position? Why can't we learn FROM each other and WITH each other?

Sweetness041982 34M
1 post
6/12/2005 12:16 am

I think for the most part, guys want sex, but then shy away from exploring. I find myself at this site thinking, "what am i doing here?" I have a gf, but I want more. I want to explore, but I'm afraid my gf will join me. Because for guys, the their main goal is to "poke", when the thought of getting "poked" pops up, they get scared. I understand. I thought for a moment i was gay, when i began... but I don't like guys. They are, for the lack of better words, funny looking. Yeah, even the hot guys. Seriously, we have dangly parts! Woman have a much easier time doing sexy. Anyway, I guess for the most part, the response to your post is, guys are dumb. ^_^ Go us! Can't live with us....

rm_4nik8_4u 61M
2501 posts
6/12/2005 4:21 am

Since these false claims can't be substantiated until you actually have or try to have sex with someone, they feel like they can say anything they want and by the time you find out you're already having sex with them. They have what they want and you have frustration. I don't think there is such a thing as being too adventurous as long as you have a willing partner. I'm glad to see you started your own blog, I wish you had done it a long time ago!!!

justkoda 74M
2 posts
7/2/2005 9:25 pm

Iam right where you were discribing! Iam a1st timer and having some

rm_Psyched4SEX 54F
182 posts
7/3/2005 8:34 pm

What kind of problems are you having exactly? All you need to do is shoot me an e-mail and I'll be happy to assist you with ANYTHING you may need! What ever you do, don't get discouraged and don't give up!

tofjac 44M
32 posts
7/15/2005 10:40 pm

I have to say... I'm not even sure I'm really a first timer, yet. I just joined a week or so ago, haven't made any contacts (standard member blues, heh), but as my profile says I want to get to know someone first and then go from there... perhaps I'm the wrong fit for this board. *shrug* I *am* married, but my wife and I aren't exclusive, but by arrangement we don't do one nighters, hence why I want to get to know someone a little better first... once I get to bed (or perhaps i should say, "once I get going", as it's not always in bed), there isn't much I won't try at least once. I'm more than game to show and watch on a 'no name/fling' basis, but if there's enough contact to risk transmission of something, I just wanna know someone a little better first. Is that a problem?

rm_Whaam 61M
3 posts
7/18/2005 5:09 pm

I'm just trying to find someone who is really ready for a discreet relationship. Most of the women on this site are just talk. To bad this site could be a great place to meet people.
Experimenting and trying new thing would be a blast not scary. Just tell me if it feels good or I need to move it a certain way. Trust me I'll tell a woman if she needs to do something differently.

rm_BigTluvsyou 35M

8/11/2005 6:55 am

I think guys are afraid to admit they've never done something, while woman (although not necessarily the ones on AdultFriendFinder) are more likely to be ashamed of what they have done. A man who is not open to trying something new or admitting it is his time doing it is probably out solely for his own personal pleasure. I feel that a woman's pleasure should always come first in and out of bed, and therefore am willing to do anything she is interested in. Also, when a man is completely focused on his own pleasure and how he can get it, he has some pretty specific blueprints in his mind about what he is expecting from the encounter. Any straying from that means, in his mind, a distraction to the goal. I think the best way to handle such a situation would be not too expect too much on the first time, but rather plant the seed innocently. Such as, "This is so incredible, if it didn't feel too good to stop, I'd want to try (whatever, insert funtime suggestion here--vibrator, new position, finger in the ass, whatever). Unless you want to try. OK, maybe next time." That gives him confidence in his ability, and a couple opportunities to see the value of the new suggestion to his ultimate goal. Also, he will associate the suggestion with whatever it was you were doing at the time and if you brought it up again before sex or in the early stages, you'd get a little "Pavlov's theory" to back up the request.

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