A ridiculous Jealousy story, and where being a psychiatrist  

rm_Pebcac80 42M
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7/25/2006 9:46 pm

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A ridiculous Jealousy story, and where being a psychiatrist

Ok, I've been away for a bit addressing numerous local issues. Nothing on my part, oh no, things here have been fine! I'm trying to get a lunch together with someone from AdultFriendFinder which seems to just not want to happen, but other then that, can't complain.

But, I do have a client I work with who is having those kind of issues I'm glad I can avoid. They are having SO issues in that they just can't get past the potential jealousy angle because they know that the person they are seeing is fucking someone else.

It's one of those odd things. So, I'm frequently getting roped into conversations of "how I deal" with it, knowing that my wife keeps a pretty stable boyfriend, and where that puts our relationship, etc.

The situation, however, can at times be ridiculous. I know that in this situation, the people involved know that there is only one outcome to all of this craziness.. it's just that they are at a point where, even when faced with the truth of the situation they cannot cave in and do exactly that.

Sometimes it goes that way.

But, I find that it's important to step back from these kind of situations and really assess what you really think you are getting out of it. People are not something you can "own" thank god slavery is ended A SO or a partner is someone you have time to play with, enjoy and share things with. Now, on what level you allow that to happen is up to you. And I do believe it's fine to have a level where it's just the sex, maybe a casual friendship; along with a level of wrapping your life in a situation. That's the big trick. Whether or not you are willing to do just that. But if you aren't, and you find yourself going down jealousy street all the way into semi-insanity you just have to get off and do something else. Some people weren't meant for an open lifestyle. But obsessing about it doesn't change your ability to deal with it

SexyT12078 48F

7/25/2006 10:26 pm

That is true. Sounds like your friend couldn't deal with an open relationship and he needs to really decide what to do. I think he needs to have a real talk with this woman and tell her that it eats at him like it does, and that he doesn't wnat to share her with no one. If that's not what she wants, then I think they may need to go their seperate ways.

rm_Pebcac80 replies on 7/26/2006 6:07 am:
Yeah, I just don't think that's going to happen. I think they've had that talk.. he just doesn't listen. That's the problem of having a trophy (ie, 20 years your younger) girlfriend.

jst4fun915 34F

7/26/2006 5:00 am

Of course, you know my situation, and feelings on the topic. Jealousy is an evil, hateful emotion... and has no place in any relationship.

rm_Pebcac80 42M
104 posts
7/26/2006 6:08 am

Yep, I understand that. Jealousy is a fairly possessive emotion. Not saying it's all bad, there are times when we need to be jealous as a matter of self preservation, etc. And it is built into all of us. It's how we control it or whether we let it control us, I think

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