What do you call it?  

rm_OreoEyes 35M
11 posts
5/12/2006 3:46 pm
What do you call it?


When I look at a prospective partner's profile on AdultFriendFinder, I find myself paying close attention to how they word things. Whether they use double entendres, euphemisms, or "code words" for fetishes, fucking, and foreplay often influences how I write to them, or if I write at all.

I have noticed that a lot of profiles say things like "Looking for a single straight man for fun and play." instead of saying "I want a straight man to enjoy dinner and tango dancing with, and I fantasize about being taken anally from behind." Even though this is a sex personals site, we tend to be very polite and flirtatious, dancing around the fact that what you really want to do is meet this woman, rip off her clothes, bend her over the bed and fuck her in the ass. Instead, you say you'd like to play with her.

Now, flirtatious small talk is fine with me if the person I'm thinking of contacting has filled out most of their profile information, or indicated that they're willing to explore sexually. But in a profile with little information, saying you are looking to have fun doesn't invite a response because it intimates that you don't really know what you like to do. Now, I consider myself open-minded, and I admit that my profile is always under review because of little changes and details I add, but if I wanted to play with someone fun, my cat really likes this feather wand I have with a bell on the end of it.

The questions I'd like to pose are these: What should "fun" and "play" mean, if anything, in the context of AdultFriendFinder? Do you use them, or do you just call a spade a spade?

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