Married & Still Dating?  

rm_OnlyU42Night 48F
20 posts
12/25/2005 9:11 am

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8/6/2006 2:09 am

Married & Still Dating?

Wow! I'm really disappointed in the number of men that write to me on here that are married. It doesn't seem to matter if they are in their 20's, 30's, 40's or 50's... it's not a maturity issue. But, I just don't get it. Yes, after being with somebody for a few years... many years -- the passion is going to fade a bit... reality is going to set in and sex may not always be the priority, but, isn't it supposed to be replaced by something else? A sharing and intermingling of two lives... a bond of intimacy? What is the purpose of taking vows to be married when you still want to be out there dating?

nevadawoodward 53M
6 posts
12/25/2005 10:25 am

>I'm not surprised that married men would be dating on this site. That is what it is set up for; people to connect for sex.
>It may be a mutually agreed thing between the couple, a "7 Year Itch", or someone playing with no intention of carrying through. Not to mention the 13 year olds playing around.
>Having been married before, I know that relationships change in time.
Lust becomes love and friendship becomes companionship. It was not easy to be together even though she was the one. If I could do it again I would never let her go...

rm_lookn1947 69M
29 posts
12/27/2005 8:09 am

Some people are just alley cats wanting to screw as many different partners as they can. But some find themselves in a loving relationship with someone who has lost all desire for sex. I know men whose wives lost their sexual drive after child birth, some after surgery, many after menopause. Some of those women realize their husbands still need sex and would rather they satisfied that need outside the home. Most don't want to know about it. Just be discrete and careful not to catch anything.

To me that's shows love. It's analogous to a man loving to fish whose wife hates it. She wants him to go fishing and enjoy himself. Just don't tell me about it or drown while doing it.

Happy2cualso 53M
2 posts
1/10/2006 2:11 pm

I have to agree...there are plenty of married woman on AdultFriendFinder as well, looking for big cocks to satify them since their husbands shrank due to age/weight. Or because they aren't feeling part of the relationship. No one listens to me...that kind of thing. As valid or invalid as that may be.

Cruiseboy64 52M

2/8/2006 9:13 pm

I have to agree with Nevada!! This isn't a friggin dating site... go to if you want that. This is a "Swinging/Sex" site for mature adults that are supposed to be aware of what they are getting in to. There is at least a hundred different reasons why married men or women are having "extra-maritial" affairs. Some are legitamite and some are just plain wrong...but each and every one is entitled in a free democracy to do as he or she pleases as only they are responsible for thier actions.
Dare not judge before thou knowest....

rm_IIovehoney 56F

2/26/2006 6:24 am

What a bunch of bull shit. There's no such thing as 'Married & Still Dating' ....... it's 'Married & Cheating'. This speaks volumes to a persons character and also to those who condone it. When you get married you make a commitment ... that no matter what the circumstances or situation you are with that person alone. Apparently, some have overlooked this and/or have just put their conscience aside. So be it. You'll reap no good from cheating, no matter what you believe it ultimately comes home to roost.

rm_OnlyU42Night 48F
1 post
5/5/2006 9:31 pm

Cruiseboy... you are so off, it's pathetic. My sympathies to your wife.

Ilovehoney... I'm in 100% agreement with you. Great post. Thanks.

rm_KageKawaii 40M
6 posts
6/19/2006 4:12 pm

It's easy to judge. But then, it's usually the person who felt that their partner had no reason to stray, "I was perfect, he's the asshole", etc.

Reality: Yes, it's the ultimate betrayal. Unfortunately, as with everything in life, there are no easy answers. Some will do it simply because they can, or the feel they'll never get caught. Others fall out of love with the person, but stay with them for other reasons ("civil" unions, if you will). There are as many reasons for cheating as there are cheaters, and I for one (even though I had it happen to me) feel that those reasons far outstrip the "right" or "wrong"-ness of it.

I see it like this: Yes, she cheated. Yes, I'm going to leave her. But you know what? I want to know why. And once I find out, I might not leave after all.

... but none of that matters, really. Point is that this is a sex site. Cheaters come here, are honest in their intent (how's that for some irony), and make their married lives somewhat more livable. Because, in the end, let's face it: The absence of sex (or the prospect of sex) in any relationship will alter it, and not always for the better.

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