Molestation In Many Forms  

rm_Network_Minx 47F
540 posts
8/8/2005 2:16 am

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Molestation In Many Forms


Sexyfitwoman's post, "Post of the Year" has gotten me thinking of the subject of molestation. Like she so often does in her blog posts, her writing will trigger a memory or thought from me.

I was a victim of Molestation, not from adults but from older boys. These boys were usually five to seven years older than me and it started when I was eight. They were the sons of friends of my parents. I know I didn't tell anyone what had happened and I also know that I had forgotten it until I read Sexyfit's blog yesterday. As children we would all play together while the adults were in the house. We would play team games and for some reason these two boys would always choose me to be on their team. I have to admit that in the very begining I felt honored that these older boys would be interested in having an eight year old girl on their team but it soon turned to something else. They would isolate me from all the other children and then touch me in ways I still have a hard-time remembering. The molestation continued until I was about twelve and I was developed. By that time I had learned that their touching me was wrong. Plus they were in their late teens so they couldn't be bothered by coming to their parents' friends houses for dinner. I never told anyone what had happened. I knew it was bad but I didn't know how bad or what to do about it. I felt like I couldn't tell my parents because it would upset them or they wouldn't believe me. I never confronted the boys because we moved. I know now I should have told someone even if it was my older sister.

Molestation can come in many forms and knowing what contstitutes molestation is the first key to stopping it. Also knowing that kids can molest other kids is important. I have two teenagers and I hope I have protected them from older kids and adults. I believe that my kids would tell me if something happened but I may never know.

NM

lifeisablast333 53M

8/8/2005 5:37 pm

all to often, children who victimize other childern, have been victimized themselves. most often it is a family member, or a family friend, it can leave scars that last a life time. victims for many reasons never report crimes of this nature, and are afraid to tell mom and dad, or another trusted adult. having worked in the past as a police officer, i have witnessed many types of abuse, either the victim is afraid of the perp, or afraid it was there fault. everyday on the 10 o'clock news or in the papers you hear the same reports, and what really chaps me is that repeat offenders roam our streets, with our kids. as a father of 5 (2 boys 3 girls) i have always been very strick as to where they go and who they are with. i also believe that if a child is not old enough to tell you where they went and what they did, they can't speak up and defend themselves by telling mom and dad.
many times my children have been very upset with me because i would not allow them go with thier friends or to friends houses, and thats cool with me because it's my job to make every effort to see that they are safe. as a parent you should always speak to your kids and ask questions. not only teaching then the private zones that no one is to touch, but about drugs, and smoking, educating them about the world, and that not everybody they meet is a nice person. as abused children my wife and i have suffered no long term damage, other then the fear of it happening to our kids.


rm_Network_Minx 47F
542 posts
8/9/2005 6:31 pm

I agree completely. My kids have been unhappy with me for not letting them play over at other kids' homes but I can't contol what happens in other people's homes only my own.


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