Being Flirty-Being Friendly  

rm_Network_Minx 47F
540 posts
10/16/2005 9:04 am

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Being Flirty-Being Friendly

I have wondered what the difference was in being flirty or friendly. I have been accused of being a flirt at one time or another. I don't think of myself as being flirty. I am a friendly person. I like to ask questions of people. How did they get here? Where are they from? What do they do in their free time? What is their favorite movie or book? That sort of thing. I love to ask people questions since I am very very curious. I don't judge, I just want to know. I have found that asking questions is the best way to learn something. I see each person as an opportunity to learn something new about life and our world. To some being curious and asking questions is seen as being flirty. Why? I don't mention anything about sex or say things to people that could be construed as flirting. I don't ever mention sex or things of a sexual nature to people I work with. It is highly more likely that they will tease me regarding sex. I am shy and blush easily when these subjects are mentioned. I know that is one reason they tease me so much at work. I will say something and it can be taken in a sexual nature and will have to be brought to my attention. It is always a source of entertainment for myself and others. Does that make me flirty? I don't' think it does. Why is it men aren't accused of being flirty?

duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/16/2005 12:05 pm

I'm friendly, but love to flirt. When I flirt tone of my voice changes and I get a certain sparkle in my eyes.


lifeisablast333 54M

10/16/2005 10:18 pm

A lot of guys, and some times gals, don't know the difference, My wife and I both work in the public, and deal with hundreds of customers each day, her beibg the Sex Goddess that she is, sometimes have guys think she is flirting when she is only doing her job, and ever great now and then I have the same problem, but it is possiable to have a conversation with a member of the opposite sex, with out it being a flirt.

rm_Network_Minx 47F
542 posts
10/19/2005 1:38 am

Nope I haven't seen your comment. I love it when people comment so put it back up. Even if it isn't complimentary then I just want to see them.


McClary 64M
881 posts
10/24/2005 5:33 am

-- On Societal Morals

Because society says that men's sex-drive button is supposedly always "ON" and the old restrictive social morals said that women should never aggressively pursue men, some men still call you flirty. However, in today's permissive society, we see all sorts of normal modes, where sexual desires and behavior that some men or women consider being withdrawn and shy can easily be considered bold and aggressive to another.

For instance, if I'm a dancer in a male strip club, and I'm used to taking off my clothes in front of strange ladies, it seems rather mundane to me to peal my shirt off and go topless in public. However, social mores still frown on a well built, albeit aging, bare-chested man walking through a supermarket, or say, a shopping mall. And so I usually wear a tank top, even though I don't like wearing shirts in the summer heat. And definitely, being flirty's got nothing to do with it.

As you know, everybody’s got their own agenda, and in here, some of the guys are merely looking for an angle to influence you. And some of the guys and gals in here merely bounce their ideas off you, as they are uncertain of themselves and their decisions. Still others merely desire only your approval and/or adulation/reinforcement of their ideas, and aggressively admonish anyone that doesn't agree with them. Posters like myself tire quickly of these kind of blogs. Fortunately, there are people from all walks of life here in AdultFriendFinder, so you can easily find many people willing to discuss/debate most any topic.

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