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Twist of Fate!
Twist of Fate!
I don’t guess I will ever understand the inner workings of love and romance…who does? Seemingly, things happen for a reason, and when everything goes according to plan, when we connect with others on a higher level, or even when things go badly, we tend to credit fate with the outcome.
I will admit, the best relationships, flings, encounters in the night, booty calls and the like I have experienced have all been more exciting and fulfilling when they happen naturally…almost by design.
If this is true, then why is love so complicated?
After my breakup with Ms. X2B, I decided I would do things differently this time. I decided to trust life (and me). I know me, and I have a tendency to try to force things to fit, even it they don’t. In most cases, when I find someone I am willing to share my emotions with, I find 90% of our connection is solid, but the left over is elusive or non-existent at best.
I think most relationships fall into this scenario…and likely the reason most fail! Life is not about 100%, especially in a mutually beneficial relationship. It’s about compromise and unity. How willing we are to accept others on terms LESS stringent than we truly desire?
No wonder we suck at Love!!!
Given this knowledge and experience, I’ve asked myself if there is a real possibility of finding the perfect partner or soul mate? I cannot answer definitively, but the available proof I’ve uncovered so far in my life suggests not.
Knowing this, and finally accepting it, I think I have matured emotionally.
However, this doesn’t alter my desire to find the perfect lover and mate, and in some cases, intensifies my efforts to find her. With this elevated perspective, I have been able to eliminate a number of “close, but no cigar” romances quickly enough to save me emotional strife and pain.
I guess that’s a benefit.
Well, in doing so, I have met (rediscovered) a real contender. I am speaking of Ms. IRISH (see earlier posts for background),
Basically, we met online, and immediately disliked each other! That’s right…not a match! In fact, our initial chats were a total disaster. We couldn’t find a common language. It seemed like every time I tried to write something clever, it totally backfired! She couldn’t stand me!!! Of course, this was fine with me, I have plenty of women to deal with…
Then, something mysterious happened? I started having a strange feeling when I would come across her profile. She always came up in my searches. We match perfectly, on paper, and on EVERY available criteria. How could the experts be SO WRONG?
Somehow, I managed to keep the door open. Finally, we talked by phone and our whole relationship changed. Suddenly, the one-dimensional bee-otch I thought I’d met turned into someone else. Communication was the key. The ability to find a common language.
From there, it has moved quickly to…well…something very nice. While we haven’t met face-to-face yet, we talk and email constantly and have had cyber and phone on a couple of occasions. She is incredibly beautiful and highly intelligent…qualities not usually associated with most women I have been involved with (except the beautiful part, I have always been attracted to beauty).
What next? I don’t know for sure, but we both want to find out more. Ms. IRISH has entered the race to be Ms. FIRST and stands a good chance…90% or more.
This quest is getting intense with a number of possibilities. I want them ALL, but there can only be one Ms. FIRST! Honestly, I could have easily gotten laid by several woman by now, and I wonder what’s happened to me? But, as I have said many times, I don’t want my first experience since my split to be just sex…it needs to have meaning.
With the current stable of prospects, it will happen soon. Keep reading to find out when, and with whom…
4/29/2006 12:00 pm
I hope you find your soulmate. I thought I had, but it appears, he forgot we were soulmates. Maybe I will get lucky, too. Best of luck.