What makes a woman sexy? Enthusiasm!!!  

rm_MovieBuff333 43M
47 posts
6/27/2005 5:20 pm

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What makes a woman sexy? Enthusiasm!!!

Hi there. My last posts have been a bit on the darker side since I was in a bit of a disappointed funk lately. So it's time to get back to my usually, happy-go-lucky, horny self...since I've regained my lost hope. (Smile)

Yes, the number one quality common to every woman who I've ever found attractive & sexy...is their enthusiasm. Age doesn't tarnish this, and weight/size doesn't make you unattractive. I realize not many guys see things this way, so I'm trying to stir people up a bit and show them why I'm hooked on enthusiasm.

The happiest couples that you see are ones who really enjoy each other, and I've seen some couples who totally find each other sexy & attractive that you might not even give a second glance. It's that connection made by mutual interest and sending vibes of "I want to be with you. I want to give you pleasure. I want to show you exactly how interested I am in you."

I know I broadcast that message to a woman I'm interested in. However, I have to work on my intensity a little (Blush) since I can really sweep a woman off her feet if I'm not careful.

So if you're self-conscious when you look in the mirror and compare yourself to a magazine model...don't be. The people who aren't looking at you because they're after supermodels are NOT worth your time.

Maybe you're a woman who's worried that you're "too" skinny with small breasts...hey that doesn't take you out of the running with the right type of guy. Give a guy that look of interest and get him all fired up & turned on and you'll soon discover there's one position with your body type that can be extremely rewarding. That's right, if he can't make it to the bedroom fast enough you'll be having hot sex while he's standing up and your thighs are wrapped tightly around him, his chest brushing your nipples as your own weight drives you down onto him with such a delicious sensation and since your thighs are holding him tight you're squeezing him harder inside you which makes the pleasure more intense for both of you. However small breasts can sometimes have extremely sensitive nipples, to the point they can become painful if you're not careful...so my advice is to oil them up a bit before sex so that they don't chafe against anything...and so that he doesn't try to pinch them harder than you'd like...his fingers just slide right off.

On the other end of the weight spectrum, the Reubenesque woman is a true delight to look at naked, running my hand over all that soft skin turns me on. Yes, built for comfort. Eagerness & enthusiasm will add to your charms and make you irresistable to guys who think the way I do about women with larger curves. To me, the word "plump" is a good, juicy word...think about it, it's the sign of the very best fruits. "Fleshy" is a similar quality-fruit word. They don't call you BBW's for nothing, so take pride and show your would-be lover some interest. The position you'll excel in is doggystyle, although cowgirl position is also going to take you far together. And of course "Arabian" which is where you lay down on your front with your legs together and he straddles the backs of your thighs & slide in...oh so very tight in this position and you'll climax hard enough to squeeze him right out if you're doing it right. You've heard it all over the place that men love a big booty, so use that to your advantage in any way you can. Now add that smouldering look of desire & interest and make your enthusiasm known. Yeah, Bay-bee, Yeah!

Oops...too far. hehehe

And I know I might be mostly alone on this one, but I don't mind what years & gravity can do to a woman's body. And I will always reassure a new lover of this long before getting to the stage of taking our clothes off. Being highly self-conscious will have a negative effect on the sexual intensity, it's a major distraction. So you have to establish that foundation of trust and try to dissolve that self-consciousness. Admittedly, it needs to come from your partner voicing acceptance or at the very least how big their eyes & grin get as you start to take off your clothes. I always spend time admiring the body of a lover who I'm fortunate enough to take to my bed. She can see that soft-edged look of amazement & wonder as I caress her body with my eyes even before doing so with my hands. A genuine sigh and an honest moan in my experience has brought wonderful results and releases the intense, deeper passion in any of my past lovers. To be truly seen and appreciated is what forms the greatest satisfaction during sex...well that and NOT being a selfish lover.

I miss having sex...and having a lover. (Sigh) But at least I still have my hope. (Smile)

Feel better about yourself, starting today,

Ecaffiene 52F

6/27/2005 6:49 pm

very nice,i wish more men would think that way

Barbiebunny69 43F

6/27/2005 8:01 pm

wonderful post!!!
now if we can give an attitude transfusion to these affers.. PERFECTION!

rm_MovieBuff333 43M
28 posts
6/27/2005 9:38 pm

Dang...that's not fair...you ladies are totally hot & sexy. Wow, you each take a great picture! I've just got my webcam and little to work with. Well I took down all my nude shots since that sends entirely the wrong message...even on this site...

But yes, I practice what I preach. I did have one girlfriend for a few months and her weight was double digits, bust she was still a real wildcat every night when I lived with her. But aside from her, all of the women I've had relationships with were BBW's. It was always mind-boggling to crawl into the shower with them and soap up my hands...I swear we'd be in there for over an hour together. I love the look & feel of a woman's body no matter what lighting there is...and even in total darkness I love to let my hands wander over my lover's body like reading Braille. More skin surface means more pleasure...oh yes, that's more than just a theory, that's something I proved again and again.

Ahhh there's nothing that compares to making love to a Reubenesque woman. The kissing, the soft yet passionate hugs, the cuddling after a great round of sexual gymnastics.

Dang...now I've gone & made myself horny before bed! But you should see the wide, wistful smile on my face that goes with it. I do so miss having a lover, having a sweet BBW to caress and inspire her to smile & laugh. (Deep Sigh)

Ever hopeful,

FunandFrisky79 41M/37F

6/27/2005 9:55 pm

Wow! What a great post! I am a sucker for enthusiasm! I think that is a big reason why my boyfriend and I have such a great relationship. Our sex life is amazing... we are sooo into each other- we can't wait to please one another, and it makes us so hot doing so. We have been together for 2 years and the fire hasn't even begun to simmer. It is great to know there are other people out there that feel the same way we do about sex! Keep up the good work, MovieBuff333! Can't wait to read more of your posts!


guynamedjim 58M
729 posts
6/27/2005 10:04 pm

There are us GUYS out here more than one believes. Next time women rely on auto-responses and or rejections think what your still missing?

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
6/27/2005 10:57 pm

that was awesome...you have a truly wonderful attitude...


abc987655 51F

6/27/2005 11:12 pm

I loved this post - if you figure out how to bottle and sell that attitude, will you send some down South?

rm_MovieBuff333 43M
28 posts
6/28/2005 4:18 am

Wow...it seems I finally stumbled across a topic that people like. (Grin)

Yes, my approach to life is quite different from the norm. This makes me an "acquired taste" I feel, but the women who are attracted to me are just as enthralled with me as I am with them. I miss having that connection, I want to establish that again with someone who I think is great. (Smile)

Thankyou all so much for the support. It feels really good to be seen & heard. I'm tired of being invisible all the time...under the radar.

Jim: Yes guys, plural. There are more like me out there, just not always as easy to spot. I'd recommend you start up a Blog and start broadcasting, be noticed! You've got some good things to say from what I've read in your replies and you've got a good attitude, so use that to try to attract someone...the right type of special someone. (Smile)

Fun & Frisky: It's great to see a couple that views things the same way. Enthusiasm is absolutely at the top of the list for things I find attractive. A gleam in the eye and a playful look will accomplish so much more for me than a thousand dollars of lingerie or strutting past me nude. Hey, I don't mind those things, but I'm going to notice a woman's eyes first, that's where I need to see that spark. I have a way of inspiring that spark though in a woman who just needs that inspiration to prime her pump & get enthusiastic. So I'm glad you're a couple that has that secret ingredient as well. And yes, if you are both into giving pleasure (instead of one or both being selfish) then THAT will also take your sex life far. I enjoy keeping a woman in a low state of arousal most of the day, and when it's becoming too much then I spend hours pleasing her (time permitting) and then keep that sexual haze rolling the rest of the day. This can be done with sensual words spoken with a sexy voice, stroking touches as we pass in the hall, appreciative glances & words, romantic words, and hugs & kisses that come out of the blue.

PlayfulGal: Thanks for stopping in, too, I've read & enjoyed your Blog before. Some excellent writing. And thankyou for the compliment. (Smile) I think there's actually a BBW-appreciation forum on this site somewhere, I should look for it when I have more time (got to get ready for work soon). It was good to hear from you.

ABC: Hello again. And yes if I figure out how to capture the essence I'll be sure to send you a complimentary case to spread around. (Grin) Thankyou for your own enjoyment & enthusiasm today. (Smile)

It's fantastic to be generating some replies...awesome...I'll have to be encouraging more often. (Blush) Usually, I'm quite shy...except when I'm writing, so in my day-to-day life I get passed up on the street everyday. Usually it's only the woman who has faith in me to invite me to bed that gets to see the full me...the person inside that I show online.

Have a better day, I know I already am,

PrettyKittyKate 46F

6/28/2005 6:16 am

Bravo....It's nice to hear a different point of view then what we are hit with in the media......Last night had a two hour conversation with a good friend (male) and we came to the conclusion it's about enthusiasm, confidence and being your true self that turns someone on!
Nothing is sexier to me than a man who knows who he is and what he wants out of life, love and sexually!

I'll watch your blog for more insights....

rm_MovieBuff333 43M
28 posts
6/28/2005 5:34 pm

Kate: I'm so glad you enjoyed my opinions. I'm trying to raise the awareness level around here a bit. Ranting about topics doesn't really do much good, so I'm switching gears to be more inspirational.

I do agree with you though enthusiasm (of course) and being your true self no matter what that may be...those are strong attractors for me, even if it's something the person I'm talking to is self-conscious about...the fact they're sharing it with me at all makes it a positive experience and I give them that reassurance which helps them relax. As for confidence...I know sometimes that can come & go, so it can be a very nice thing, but I'm also attracted to a woman whose confidence level just needs a bit of bolstering & encouragement to polish it to a full shine. If a woman just needs love, attention, & encouragement to reach her full, wonderful potential then I give and give as needed and watch in amazement as she blossoms before my eyes.

I admit that I'm a bit like that myself. Sometimes a woman will stumble across me and find me attractive or see potential, and that initial faith that I'm a good guy is the catalyst for helping me to improve & grow as the relationship grows. So when she looks at me and tells me, "wow...I think you're great! There needs to be more guys like you!" I smile and feel good and then reveal to them the next level, something even more amazing & different about myself that they never would have guessed about me. And all the while I delight in things about her and tell her what they are and why they appeal to me and why I think they're things she should be proud of.

I guess I'm a bit of a romantic...althougha hopeful one as opposed to a hopeless one. (Grin)

Take care, and I look forward to checking your Blog as well,

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