Pretty new to this AFF thing....  

rm_MissBee9971 45F
40 posts
12/15/2005 11:31 am

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Pretty new to this AFF thing....

I signed up for the whole AdultFriendFinder thing looking for someone to take away the lonliness. Is it just me, or do people misrepresent themselves a lot? You've got to know that once someone meets you in real life; if the facade you've placed on line isn't what you really are, the jig is up.

I'm just confused I guess about what I'm looking for, as well as what other people hope to find. Just casual sex? Friendship? Relationships? All of the above?

rm_XlntLady 50F
170 posts
12/15/2005 11:51 am

I think we all look for different things here. Some of us know exactly what we want and are very honest about it. Others don't know. Or know but fail to be honest. And others yet are just fishing around.

Some people seem to forget that they will have to live up to the picture to make it in real life. I've met up with a few who seemed to think meeting up in itself was a guarantee they'd get lucky. As if...

Good luck figuring out what you want and how to get it!

OskarZ1961 55M

12/15/2005 11:53 am

There is alot of Misrepresentation...Beats the hell out of me why anyone who is serious about hooking up with someone would do that , because as you say Sooner or Later the Jig is up. As far as what I find myself looking for I have found......I was looking for the Ultimate Partner. If you read my blog, you'll see what I'm talking about. There is a post there that is Titled " What am I looking for"

SlimGoodGuy 38M

12/15/2005 11:59 am

Well, when you consider the fact that people are in search of opposing qualities (looking for someone who is serious, but funny is always the one that makes me chuckle), it's no surprise that confusion and misrepresentation crop up.

I'm only being a little silly here. Lighten up, settle in, and make some friends while you're here. I hope you don't get any bad emails from jerks and the like that seem to be a common complaint around here. If it happens, don't let it get you down. Stay true to yourself and you should have a great time, whether you end up deciding on casual sex, friendship, a relationship, or whatever floats your boat.

magicman4fun2 57M
4 posts
12/15/2005 12:07 pm

On AdultFriendFinder people are looking for a whole spectrum of sexual relationships. Everything from "I just looking for somebody to fuck" to "I'm looking for my soulmate". So you have to decide what YOU want than sort through the vast array of people and find somebody that:

A. You find attractive

B. Is attracted to you

C. Wants the same thing that you are looking for.

D. Is really honest about what they want.

Then you have to deal with things like location, demographics, home situations etc. With all the people that are on this site you'd think it would be easy it's NOT. It takes time. But if you're patient eventually your going to meet somebody

Frankly I think this site is better suited for people seeking casual or "no strings attached" relationship than a serious romantic relationship. The very nature of the site is primarily focused on people seeking sexual relationship. If your looking for a more serious or romantic situation you probably need to be on another dating site.

That's just the reality of the situation.

Best of luck and happy holidays

rm_69jks 47M
1 post
12/15/2005 12:10 pm

I agree with your assesment of peoples honesty in this network. I think most people are trying to live a fantasy behind the keyboard. I do believe that there are people who are genuinely lonely and looking for attention. I also believe that there are alot more people with alterior motives for being on this sight. They are the ones that we all have to be careful to avoid. Peace-69jks

dare4u2005 56M
1 post
12/15/2005 12:31 pm

I am Just looking for casual sex descreet, and no strings attach with follow up if this is what you want and you are straight forward and up front.

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