What's wrong with people???  

rm_MiVidaLoca25 36F
45 posts
10/2/2005 2:44 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

What's wrong with people???

Ok...so here I go again.

I have known this guy since right around April this year. We met up for a drink late one evening and the night ended back at my place. Good conversation, good sex...it was awesome.

Prior to our meeting, I didn't know what he looked like. To my suprise, he was the hottest thing I'd seen in awhile. He had chosen me and I was left wondering why when he could really have pick of the litter. Who knows?

Anyhow, we have talked on and off since then...as friends. A situation came up one afternoon when he expressed that he was horny. I couldn't have sex at the time, so I told him to come over and I promised to suck him off. I did, and then he didnt call me for weeks!

So then he catches me online one day and wants to join me and the roomies for breakfast. I was cool with it...and we ended up kickin it for the whole weekend, no sex though, which was fine by me. Then I don't hear from him for about a week...hmmm.

The other night about bar close, he was online and sent me a message. We get to talking. He says that he is horny and that his last two sexual encounters were with me! I said, wow, whatcha holdin out for there pal? He tells me that it's hard for him to have guilt free sex. So, since he was horny I tell him to come over. He says that he can't fuck me cuz I am too nice. He says that if he does, that will be all it is then after a few weeks of fucking...he will never talk to me again. Tells me that you can go from friend to hoe status but never from hoe back to friend. He says he likes me too much and he wouldn't want that to happen.

I just don't understand all of this complicated crap. What ever happened to just having a good time? And arent some of our best times had with the friends we surround ourselves with??? This is not the first time I have heard a guy with some lame excuse...but it just seems like it's always something. You want to fuck me, but you can't, therefore you won't...but you sure will tell me how bad you want to. Nice, real fuckin nice.

rm_sropa 46M
5 posts
10/4/2005 6:39 am

Well I have to say I agree with you. There is nothing wrong with having a blast and good time. But it sounds like this guy has a hang up about continueing that good time with sex. I kind of understand his theroy and all but I think I agree with you more. It is good to be friends and physical if the timming is right. Heading out for a couple of drinks and haveing a blast is great too you dont have to be physical every time you see each other. Or you can be--- I think maybe he is a nice guy who is not sure of what he is looking for or how to handle some of the thing he wants---

Good Luck.

rm_MiVidaLoca25 36F
60 posts
10/4/2005 9:15 am

sropa...Thanks for the reassurance, I refuse to beleive that it's just me. People often profess things, even on AdultFriendFinder, about how they are looking for a "friends with benefits" situation. I am starting to think that people have the definition of this term screwed up. Friends with benefits...to me it leaves little room for error in being misunderstood. We are FRIENDS...with having sex as one of the BENEFITS. Am I right?

Now, don't get me wrong. I am not so sex crazed that I HAVE to have sex with you everytime I see you. This guy just seemed to me like he had a problem with sleeping with me one day and then eating dinner with me the next. This whole situation struck me as odd. I am not stressin over it, I just didn't understand. Well, I guess that what I have learned here at the very least...is that apparently...I am hang up free, lol.

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