Some People Really Need To Get A Life  

rm_MariGrrl 39F
2485 posts
1/20/2006 12:23 pm

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Some People Really Need To Get A Life

I would like to know why people think that they have the right to intrude on other people's lives and throw in their opinion when it wasn't asked for.
My husband and I seperated in '05 and actually get along quite well. No reconciliation is in the works but, we are still good friends. We try our best to keep open the lines of communication and help each other out when we can. The main reason for this is to help our children adjust. But, we are also pretty even tempered people who just don't want to waste our time bickering. We've both gone through bitter split ups in the past and all it does is hurt everyone involved. So you would think that all is well. Two level headed people, mature enough to put their problems aside and move on.
Well, everything would be going okay (as well as can be expected, as split ups do cause hurt feelings and at least a little tension from time to time). But, for some reason our "friends" seem unable to accept the fact that we get along so well and keep jumping in to stir up trouble. They try to get the he said/she said thing going and circulate rumors about our break up. They insist on dishing out unwanted advice.
Right now the only real arguments we have are concerning other people's intrusion in matters that are our business alone.
I have spent most of my life avoiding drama at all costs. I figure if someone wants me involved they'll ask. If I notice a friend is in heed, I offer my assistance, make it clear I am always there and leave it at that. I have my own life to worry about and wouldn't want the added stress of tracking other people's activities.
So why do other people do this, are their lives really that boring? Are they focusing on my life to avoid taking a closer look at their own? Or do they think they are just that damn perfect that other people can't live without their two cents? I just don't get it.
Gossiping and allowing bitterness to run your life just guarentees that you will have a lonely, miserable life.
Well, venting over, I feel much better. See, I managed to let my bitterness and spite out without hurting others... lol.
Just let go of the hate people!


sassybelle21 32F
13313 posts
1/20/2006 5:02 pm

Ignore those fucktards. It's your life, you do what you want as long as it's not against your conscience and it doesn't hurt anybody. I hope things get better


48forfun2 58M

1/21/2006 11:03 pm

well, they have not matured yet. Just tell them you don't want to hear it.
take care


rm_dingy4fun 57M
37 posts
1/25/2006 5:46 am

Tell them how you feel and don't talk about it to the ones who make problems for you. What you are trying to do is very important to your kids well being so don't let outsiders screw it up for them! I have been there....I am good friends with my ex and it has been very good for the kids. They are grown up now but back in the days when my daughter would be in a school play or an awards program ect. she could always look and see mom and dad sitting together, not mom over there and dad over there.......
I still love every woman I have ever been in love with, I can't just stop loving someone because things didn't work out in the relationship


rm_TheLovePhD 39M
6 posts
2/2/2006 6:03 pm

Well written, you really spoke your mind. People the prey on other peoples lives don't have lives of there own. If they are negatively effecting you and your ex-husband they need to check them selves and mind there business. Anyhow, good have a great day.


TommyJ1977 45M

4/9/2006 5:12 am

Mari...like I said in another comment, I have neglected to update myself with the blogs you have enlightened everyone with...now I see how much I have been missing and I apologize. You already know my take on this issue, so I don't have to comment, I'll just say...in the end, it's their loss.

-tommy


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