OMFG!!! Please say he didnt!!!!!  

rm_LostLilSoul 46F
373 posts
8/1/2005 9:50 am

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OMFG!!! Please say he didnt!!!!!

Well once again I have found myself in an uncomfortable situation. I was talking with a friend of mine the other night and I mentioned that fact that I was a submissive and that I knew all about BDSM. And WoW he started talking and barely stopped long enough to breath. I knew right then, he had never talked to anyone about the things he was talking to me about. and I was right. He confessed that he was also a submissive and that he never felt comfortable talking about it to anyone. He said it was refreshing to finially talk to someone who understood and who wouldnt pass judgement. Now I like this guy as a friend. He is very caring and has a good heart so I really didnt know what to do when I got an email from him today that said..."I can be a mean dom, you will be bound, gagged, whipped and all your toys will be used,,,you just have to be Dominate first" well I know by the "I can be a mean dom" that he doesent know alot about D/s at all because most submissives arent looking for "mean" Doms,,and I don't want to have that kind of relationship with him. I like being his friend and I dont want to hurt his feelers so my reply was " I have a few ideas. I dont know if Im the one your looking for but I do know where to find her,,are you game? You might even find the Mistress youve been longing for" My plan is to take him to some local munches. Any other ideas on how I can get him to understand I like how our relationship is now without hurting his feelings,, I really dont want him to feel uncomfortable or like he cant talk to me.. and I dont want to lose his friendship,,,,HELP!!!

ByteChaser2 53M

8/1/2005 11:02 am

Straight up and to the point. That's about the best advice I can give. Don't toy, don't play, don't try to preserve his feelings by disguising YOUR feelings for him.

If it's not your thing, acting the Dom that is, then Don't! If he really likes you, he'll understand. And I suspect he'll have a much greater respect for you as a person for your open honesty.

And if not... well, then I suspect you'll not want to go playing in that back yard anyway, ya know?

Lotsa luck LLS

arribaarriba69 51M

8/1/2005 11:10 am

Lostlil, the only thing that comes to mind is tell him the truth. If you don't he will be hurt when he discovers you didn't. If you do maybe he will confess and you will get a chance to teach him ..... either way you must take action.

rm_bella_ 47F
4030 posts
8/1/2005 8:39 pm

I dont think being submissive always means being into BDSM...i know that i rarely am dominant although that is where it ends.

rm_4nik8_4u 61M
2501 posts
8/4/2005 8:50 am

Just explain that two submissives doesn't work.And being a Dom doesn't mean being physically abusive and by his comments it let you know he didn't know anything about being a Dom and doesn't have the personality to be one. But sharing feelings and views and opinions about being submissive is ok and you can be friends and share these things with each other.

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