Sexually Inept?  

rm_Listra2 60F
3 posts
9/1/2006 10:40 pm

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Sexually Inept?

I just spent a wonderful night with someone and yet came away feeling sexually inept. Oh, it was all on my part. I tired to do it on top, it just wasn't happening, I just couldn't get it. We tried it doggy, I still couldn't get it. I loved everything that sweet man did to me, but I felt that HE went away unsatified & disappointed. Or am I imputing my own feelings of ineptness into this whole thing? Needless to say even though we were suppose to get together a second night it didn't happen and I feel it's all my fault.

rm_slim4758 58M
4 posts
9/2/2006 8:09 am

A sexual encouter takes two. I have found that it rarely goes exactly as we have invisioned. You should not place fault with yourself. Given what you have written previously, it is possible that you might be putting too much pressure on yourself. I myself have had a similar experience recently, so I know how you must feel. Remember, it takes two and when it is right, it will be all that you are looking for.

seeker5893 74M

9/6/2006 8:46 am

I went thru the same thing a few years back. I couldnt get it up worrying that i was not pleaseing the one i was with. I almost quit swinging at that time, after more than 35 years. I think it was about 2 years before i started thinking that i really was doing this for my self anyway.. I know a lot of people that will not like me if they read this but once i started doing it just for me , taking advantage of every little feeling , going slow when i wanted to feel it more and all the selfish things,making it last as long as possible, i realized that i was really doing a better job making every one happy. My point is dont forget your self !

LadiesCumFirst52 64M

9/19/2006 5:29 pm

I think the first time is stressful for both parties. You should not blame yourself as others have said it takes two to tango. I know the first time I am with a woman I feel added presure. Take it slow and try another time. If the gentleman is considerate he should take the lead and let you know that he can enjoy himself no matter. I know I can achive fulfulment with out having an orgasm every time. I get alot of satisfaction from pleasuring my partner and your partner may feel this way also.

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