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Stupid is as stupid does
Stupid is as stupid does
Okie dokie, kiddies . . . it’s rant time. If you don’t want to listen to an extremely opinionated woman bitching about the inadequacies of the vast majority of the male populace, then go read the blog on my other profile, as it’s a bit fluffier and less likely to offend your delicate sensibilities or ego. And with that said . . .
Yesterday, I got to experience the heartwarming joys of my friends husband calling me up to tell me that he’s leaving her and that he’s worried that she’s going to commit suicide and he thinks that I should call her and make sure she’s alright.
HOW DARE HE!
How dare he drag me into the chaos that HE has helped to create, rather than dealing with it himself!? HOW DARE HE call me up and tell me “oh, she’s made arrangements for the kids and I think that she’s going to try and kill herself.”
Ok, here’s a little of the background . . . he cheated on her, before they ever got married, and she forgave him. He’s cheated on her, yet again, and in the process has knocked up his ex-girlfriend. Now, he’s ready to throw away the life that he has for the ex that he’s previously gotten pregnant, but took the kid and ran . . . he has completely disrespected his wife, his child, the life they have together and the tacit trust that they’d been rebuilding . . . and all he can say for himself when asked why he did it is, “I don’t know.”
THE FUCK YOU DON’T KNOW, YOU SELFISH BASTARD! You claim to love your wife, yet, you can’t be bothered to be true to her, or even honest. Hell, you can’t even be honest with yourself, so, why on earth would anyone expect you to be honest with them? You stupid, childish, arrogant walking sphincter! You’re right . . . you aren’t the kind of man that your wife deserves, mostly because you have no clue how to even BE a man!
Anyway, I was incensed, and it really got me to wondering why it is that people do this shit. Why would you be so selfish that you never thought of anyone but yourself? My ex habitually cheated on me, never really caring how much it hurt me, but he’d always apologize and come crawling back, and me being the stupid kid that I was, always took him back . . . till I got a clue and realized that he never loved me and he didn’t care one bit. I was convenient for him, that’s all.
Now, my challenge to EVERYONE out there . . . not just the guys . . . If you claim to love someone . . . SHOW THEM! Respect them! Treat them the same way you’d want to be treated, yourself. If you don’t want your significant other to lie to you, don’t lie to them. If you want them to stay true, return in kind! If you can’t even have that kind of common courtesy, just do us all a favor and take a vow of celibacy and save the world from the possibility of passing on your stupidity to future generations!
3/6/2006 9:25 am
This fella is a serial asshole, will never change and your mate is better off without him. It is just typical of the kinda damage that someone like this can do to a woman's self-esteem. She can get through this - with your help - and someday she will look back on this as the best thing that ever happened but there is a BUT.
It is so important that she finds out who she is an truly feels her own self-worth. If not there is a strong chance that she will attract the same sort of bloke again. Don't ask me why but it just seems to work out that way.
I can get down off my high horse now because I am guilty too. I once was engaged to the most beautiful girl - with inner and outer beauty - and I cheated on her. And I justified to myself in the following way:
I figured that women were different to men. Men could separate sex from emotion, more so than women. I thought that a man could be unfaithful in body yet remain faithful in the heart. I thought my unfaithfulness did not dimish my love for her, I thought they were completely independent. I was so wrong. She found out years later, when I had realised my error and was truly sorry, but it was too late. And why did I do it? Because I had such a frail ego and self-esteem that I needed to feel like I still held some attraction to the opposite sex. I was trying to fill a hole in my soul, I tried other things too.
But I am still one of the lucky ones becuase I see this now and I am know myself better. Unfortunately it took the loss of the love of my life to learn this lesson - a high price, but that is what it took. As for you mates husband he is a lost cause without a moment of clarity and that can only come if you gave a shit in the first place.
3/6/2006 6:38 pm
Yah, folks, she isn't totally innocent, as you suggest. She, too, made her bed, but I can't stand the lack of respect.|