What is Respect??  

rm_Kissmystuff 61F
2665 posts
3/21/2006 9:07 am

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What is Respect??

ยง An interesting topic on public radio caught my attention this morning.

They were talking about respect.

They mentioned the controversy of the newspaper cartoons of the Prophet Mohammed. They talked about the fact that many men find themselves in prison because of crimes committed due to "lack of respect shown to them". They talked about how lack of respect is often the embracing of stereotypes many hold regarding another individual or group for another.

The term "respect" is a very abstract concept. It can mean different things to different people.

My questions to you:

How do you define respect..what does it mean to you?

I also wonder:

Is there a difference in how women would define it..as opposed to how men view the concept?


rm_Lance_Elliot 46M

3/21/2006 2:00 pm

I believe respect to be an acknowledgement of another person; giving someone credit for "be-ing"; giving someone his/her due right to something; not infringing on another person or inflicting your will onto another.
Very thought provoking, and one of my favorite topics!


rm_emerald6912 48M
545 posts
3/21/2006 3:22 pm

I see respect as being aware of other peoples sensitivities, whether that be cultural, gender based etc. For me its about letting people live as they choose and not trying to create a homogenised way of living. Saying that one way is better than another.

I tend to think that women are much more in tune with the sensitivities of others than men. Women seem, i say seem as i cannot speak for them, to be more intuititive on that level.

yet again an interesting and thought provoking post, many tnx.

interested13563 53M
2557 posts
3/21/2006 4:06 pm

It is difficult to define "respect". It might be
easier to define "disrespect" first and then
define rspect as its negation.

MyRealLoverOne 46M

3/21/2006 5:20 pm

To me it means treating others with care and acceptance....treating them like you want to be treated.

KarezzaMagick 64M
165 posts
3/21/2006 5:42 pm

How do you define respect..what does it mean to you?

Although respect is very important, respect may only be shown or given to the degree that one understand respect or respects one's self.

I notice that often those who use the word the most, seem to know actually know the least about it. Sometimes the "respect" shown by such persons is actually very disrespectful!

To paraphrase one Supreme Court justice, "I can't define it, but I know it when I see it.

Partial definition would certainly include willingness to attempt to see things from the other's point of view, and taking time to understand what the other's point of view actually is.

Is there a difference in how women would define it..as opposed to how men view the concept?

Women tend to see respect as something one has; men as something one gives.

mygmyg 59M

3/23/2006 3:19 pm

KMS, respect is something that I give and have come to realize that receiving from a stranger and some casual acquantances is initially high and depending on the course of interaction can diminish rapidly or remain constant. I
Of course there are those that either vocalize or exude a "demand" for respect, with these individuals, I have come to expect very little in return.
It costs nothing to start at a high level of respect and nothing to withold thereafter!

Respect can be interpreted and influenced by the setting in which we come into contact with each other, the look on our face, the tone of our voice, and many other ways.
It is indeed an "ABSTRACT" concept, which is valued and perceived differently by each individual.
Respect costs little more than a thoughtful mind

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
3/24/2006 4:48 am

hmmmm... i have had cause to consider this word many times. i was involved in a political organisation here called the anti-eviction campaign. the organisation disintegrated into tatters because many of the members from different communities were competing for power. it was often suggested that the problems could be resolved via a code of conduct in which people were expected to act with respect.

however, there are times when disrespect is a political tactic. disrespect for the laws on evictions, water-cutoffs, etc. is what the anti-eviction campaign was built on.

and while i am generally respectful in my day-to-day life, i am not going to respect someone who says, for example, "if i want to force my girlfriend to have sex with me, i will. that's my culture", then there is absolutely no way i am going to respect them (i use this example because many male activists in south africa believe "because of their culture" (their words, not mine) that it is ok to abuse women).

i don't believe respect has to be earned, but i believe some people just don't deserve it.

[blog freelove999]

8321 posts
3/25/2006 6:45 am

Respect is attributed to fear or admiration usually. One of these things.

Unfortunately, respect is not always earned, sometimes it is forced out of fear. Some say it's better to be feared than loved. Some paid the price in spades.

"Fear is stronger than Love. Fear is stronger than Love. All that Love I showed Biggie, never meant anything when it came to Fear." - Tupac Shakur


"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur

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