To Love...or not to love...  

rm_Kissmystuff 61F
2665 posts
3/12/2006 4:18 pm

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To Love...or not to love...

ยง Sometimes things come to a point when you can't help but wish you didn't have to think
about responsible adult things. Those are times when having caring arms around you...a voice telling you "it's ok...rest now...I've got your back" would be so wonderful.

Loneliness has been a cave that you dwelled within for what seems like forever. You wonder if there really is someone out there who could love you...cherrish you...for being you.

You smile...when you really feel like crying. You walk through your day almost as in a dream. You perform your duties...go through the automatic things.

Even when you think you may have found someone...circumstances hold you apart. Do you dare hope...or do you hold your peace...not speak of feelings...and wait for the reversal of circumstance. Are you being fair to the other person if you do speak too soon of feelings. For that matter...are you being fair to yourself.

I realize that other souls go through these same uncertainties...but when it's you...it feels like your heart is crushed inside of you and your whole world turns dark.


Kiss


interested13563 53M
2557 posts
3/12/2006 5:16 pm

Indeed, lonliness is a cave within in which the heart
often hides for fear of not being how she is expected
to be. Can or shall we ever be free?


MyRealLoverOne 46M

3/12/2006 6:08 pm

It is always better to love and lose than never take the risk........


tillerbabe 55F

3/12/2006 9:14 pm

"Even when you think you may have found someone...circumstances hold you apart. Do you dare hope...or do you hold your peace...not speak of feelings...and wait for the reversal of circumstance. Are you being fair to the other person if you do speak too soon of feelings. For that matter...are you being fair to yourself."

you are so luckly to have found someone!!! And Speak up my dear!!!! The worst you could do is make someone feel better, and what if you die tomorrow without speaking those words!?!!


dasher121 36M

3/13/2006 5:39 am

all things that, as you said, can only be understood by the one going through them. And when its you, you do whatever it takes to move on day to day. Pass the time, do your work, and hopefully you can distract yourself long enough to temporarliy forget.......even if only for a few moments.


TabithaElectra79 37F

3/13/2006 9:25 am

...and such is life


Allsleeky 35F

3/13/2006 8:29 pm

To love...even if it dies later on. The memories are conforting or they serve as a lesson.


Efilnikufesin69 47M

3/13/2006 11:27 pm

Such experiences only help to build your character, and make you the wonderful person you are!


muscles4u2have 54M
1642 posts
3/14/2006 9:24 am

The biggest problem is there are mates out there that are perfect for you but you will never know, because they are to far away to ever find out if they are your soul mate. But life goes on and you hope for destiny to lead you to your true mate!!


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
3/14/2006 2:10 pm

I want to say thank you...to each and everyone of you who stopped by and commented on this post. It proves a point. You can't always judge a site by its name or how many outside...may view its members. Your sensitivity and willingness to reach out...comfort and encourage...touches me deeply. Thank you again.

kiss

Kiss


KarezzaMagick 64M
165 posts
3/14/2006 5:28 pm

I'm sorry to be so "late" posting here.

I've recently been through this. And I've been through it more than once. So I know the only answer that may help you

If not you, who? If not now, when?
What have you to lose? And who said life is fair? Go for it. Something tells me you won't be sorry, even if things don't work out. But if you keep silent, will you ever know? And will you ever regret it?


muscles4u2have... A Cleveland, Ohio journalist (a woman) recently wrote that everyone's perfect mate is out there....and most of them are married or tied up with other people! If only there was a way to arrange us in the proper order! She suggested that, but didn't have any suggestions about how to organize it. Do you? In my own above-referenced case, I'd be willing to try wife swapping. Like one time, and for keeps!

And you know something? According to The Secret Language of Relationships by Goldschneider and Elffers, our spouses are as perfect a match for Marriage, as we are for Love.

I don't know if that might have any bearing upon your case, Ms. Stuff, but I bet if you search peruse that book's reader reviews at Amazon, you'll be very surprised.


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
3/15/2006 8:31 am

Karezza...

Once again...my thanks for coming by. Appreciate your words of encouragement. I'll check out the book you suggest.

Kiss


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