SHOULD A MAN KNOW??  

rm_Kissmystuff 61F
2665 posts
12/7/2005 4:47 pm

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SHOULD A MAN KNOW??

There's a disagreement raging between me and a friend.

She thinks that a man should know what do to each and every time..how to please whatever woman he is with. It he doesn't...she seems to feel that means he is unskilled and ignorant.

I tend to think that no two women are alike. What may please one...may irritate another. It's a wise and confident man who is willing to ask a woman...what she needs or wants to please her. I don't think it makes him unskilled or ignorant..just means he wants to do what it takes to please her.

So...should a man just know what it takes?



Kiss


hot_n_horny1245 47F

12/7/2005 5:04 pm

I have to agree with you - I'd rather have a man ask me what i like, rather than just assume what turns me on, cause you're right, all women are different and even though the anatomy may be basically the same, what feels good will differ dramatically


rm_tru82 34M
10 posts
12/7/2005 5:17 pm

um, I would go with you... It's IMPOSSIBLE to know what each individual girl wants without her telling you. You are 100% correct in that each girl has different likes. I could perform one way with someone and be the most amazing guy she's ever been with, but then be with someone else some other time and do the same exact thing... and its nothing for her. What the second girl likes I might try on the first one to figure out that she doesn't like it that way... its so darn confusing.

SOoooo... If a girl writes in her profile "The guy must know what he's doing" I can only say either she is misled or that she probably doesn't know what she's doing wrong when the guy can't perform to her expectations. The correct answer would be to tell him what she wants and then see if he can manage it.

Peace! =)


docdirk 47M

12/7/2005 5:24 pm

I certainly come down on your side in this argument. No two people are alike. Their wants, needs, desires and preferences vary greatly. And while most men like to think they know everything( )- most have little clue.

I generally like to ask a woman what she likes/how she likes things done. Unfortunately, I find that rarely do they reply. Perhaps they think like your friend, or perhaps they are too embarrassed to discuss such matters. I wish people would be more open about what they like. I would tend to think that doing so would only enhance the experience for all involved.

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...


bangingmyhead 54M
157 posts
12/7/2005 5:32 pm

I always ask what a new partner likes or wants. Never assume anything.


sweethoneysouth 37F
280 posts
12/7/2005 5:53 pm

i agree totally with both above responses. how can a man know what really gets you going and drives you wild without you telling him. and vice versa. the way one man likes his cock sucked might do nothing for yet another. men do also need to have the ability to read our body language and not get offended or overly sensitive when we do provide direction. because the people who can openly communicate about their sexuality are usually the most satisfied.


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
12/7/2005 6:23 pm

hot:

I think most women would agree with me. As far as I'm concerned..it's just common sense. We are all different when it comes to what pleasures and pleases.

tru:

Like I said..it's a wise man who is willing to ask what she wants and needs. He'll certainly benefit as much as she will.

By the way...you're looking pretty damn good in that uniform!

Kiss


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
12/7/2005 6:26 pm

sweethoney:

Yup..It sounds like I'm preaching to the choir here. And you're right about a woman being willing to ask her man..what he wants and needs to please. It works both ways

Kiss


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
12/8/2005 9:32 am

    Quoting docdirk:
    I certainly come down on your side in this argument. No two people are alike. Their wants, needs, desires and preferences vary greatly. And while most men like to think they know everything( )- most have little clue.

    I generally like to ask a woman what she likes/how she likes things done. Unfortunately, I find that rarely do they reply. Perhaps they think like your friend, or perhaps they are too embarrassed to discuss such matters. I wish people would be more open about what they like. I would tend to think that doing so would only enhance the experience for all involved.
docdirk:

The first time a man asked me what I liked..wanted..I was mortified. And the whole experience was ruined because I couldn't relax and just enjoy. I knew what felt good to me..but I was embarrassed to say what it was. I think this is true for many women..given the double standard that exists. So many of us women have been victims of the taboo..that women aren't supposed to enjoy sex to the extent that men do. We're supposed to be these pristine beings, uncorrupted by human needs. It's been an ongoing learning experience and evolution for me.

Kiss


rm_joshnyadeep 65M
100 posts
12/15/2005 4:18 pm

hey! the dumb comes into play when a man thinks ,she love it what ever i do!to me it is foolish to go to bed with a woman for the first time not knowing what floats her boat! no two women enjoy the same things to the same level!so don`t go and do something stupid like thinking "she`s gonna love this because it`s me doing it to her"i feel a man should have several ways of asking his woman what she needs,and ask ofter.there are a lot of changes that occur on a day-to-day basis just don`t take it for granted.toothpaste and preparation-h both come it tubes,"what did you brush your teeth with today"
my quote:"to be creative,your have to know what crayons to use!, even if you have your canvas is"
messing with a woman and not knowing what she expects,is like showing up in a war zone with no gun! so ask before you shoot!


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